What to do when you feel lack of motivation for dating?

[Anonymous]

There is one girl i find attractive and i know she was attracted to me couple of years ago but she was too young and then she found someone else. And she knows i knew she liked me back then. We have never talked and i have always felt awkward when we were in same place. Now she has a part time job in caffe that i often visit with friends, and i met her there couple of times and she smiled at me when i paid and we at least greet each other now so it is not that awkward. But I dont see her often. I know i probably missed my chance then and she moved on. But when i think about like trying to date her i dont feel like doing it. I have been single for a long time and i enjoy it in a way. I am introvert and i dont mind spending time alone. I went on solo trips and i have many dreams and goals that i chase and they are the most important thing for me. The truth is the relationships have never worked for me and i am not good with girls and honestly i dont really feel motivated to do this again

[Hardon-Collider]

It's good. "Dating" as often nowadays portrayed, like "dating apps" is as nonsensical as hookups.

You either fall in love and enter a relationship --- or you don't.

To chase a date before you even meet someone is desperate, lustful, impulsive and uncivilized. You upgraded to the next stage, you didn't lose anything. It's like, imagine, if all people only ever had sex inside relationships and marriages. Then porn wouldn't exist. Rapes wouldn't exist. So what some people think of just a "preference" (keep sex only within commitment) is actually a higher form of living that would solve too many problems in society to count.

The realization that you don't have to actively sniff for new tail in order to survive, is more mature, patient, and better for society. What to do? Live as if you are in a relationship --- don't fuck left and right. Be willing to make friends with women without getting pussy whipped, or becoming a pussy yourself. Then a "crush" might hit you when you already have built mutual trust and familiarity, similarity in lifestyle with someone. ㅤ

[Nikki1989]

You get your ass into gear and fix yourself. Stop looking for excuses.

[Anonymous]

You are at a fork in the road of life, you either pick relationships forgoing anything else or you quit relationships and become free