Does coming out of a relationship that didn't work out knock your motivation In dating?

[Anonymous]

For anyone that actually lived equivalently or similar for example people that fell out of long term relationships, they just don't seem motivated to date again even if they got over the person, it's like it hit a psychological switched that takes away all their motivation, is it from a fear of investing time again? Or something else?

[DWornock]

Assuming that it is painful, then obviously, it would be because a person's behavior is largely influenced by pain and pleasure. Reward and punishment is the most effective way of training dogs, children, and adults. However, not all relationships that don't work out are painful.

They may have been enjoyable but you find a better and more enjoyable relationship. For example, a man marries a sexy twenty-year-old girl. He enjoys fucking her but ten years later, not only has she started being a bitch, but she had gained twenty-five pounds and what man wants an old fat woman when he can fuck a thin young pretty thing? Therefore, he dumps the older fat bitch and replaces her with another young sexy twenty-year-old.

Or else, you tire of it and look for something different. For example, a hot guy fucking a pretty girl. He certainly enjoys it but after fucking her a few times, he sees a new girl. Since a new fuck is better than an old fuck, he dumps the old girl and fucks the new girl.

[Billlewis]

No, because every relationship I'm in is successful. My definition of success is that she's happy. Nothing else matters to me at all.

[provokeesmokee]

Somewhat? It's less a lack of confidence than it is a realization that some of my goals and lifestyle changes I'd like to make require me to focus on myself.

I recognise I can't put the effort that a relationship requires to build before I make those changes. I've put myself on hold for two relationships but realize now I can't put the work in I need while trying to date.

So I'm prioritizing myself first and I'll date when I have those sorted and feel I have the time and energy to devote to dating.

[Toriixlovely]

It truly does. When you’re with someone for so long you get used to that one person. They know you & you know them. So, once that bond breaks it’s like you don’t have that motivation to even invest so much more of your time getting to know someone new, how they are, and what they like.

[Asker]

Yea that's understandable Tori, either ways I hope you can find that patience and motivation to love again, til then, I hope life treat a you well 💯🙏🏽

[Asker]

Treats*

[Toriixlovely]

TANKS !! 😁 same to you

[Asker]

I haven't experienced it but thanks 🤣🙏🏽

[Toriixlovely]

GYAAAAT DAMN chico from the 305!! You shall one day ahah no problem.

[Asker]

I hope not, I hope my relationship last til death does us apart 😅

[Toriixlovely]

Oh, shiiii I meant like you shall experience a good relationship not the breaking up and finding someone new crap. I don’t wish a heartbreak on no one lol.

[Asker]

That... actually makes more sense, sorry for the confusion and the lack of positivity from my part lol

[sheikalana]

It the first few months while you're healing it does.

[Asker]

Interesting 🤔

[Joshydavid25]

For only a little bit.. I mean I haven't really been that motivated to date in general since 2021, but it knocked it down even lower.. Especially since I get attached to people easily..

[DizzyDesii]

It honestly motivates me more than ever. I hate failing and just go even harder the next time around

[Fireguy17]

Nope onward to the next adventure.

Hopefully it will be better than the last on.

[Anonymous]

Who dates? Lmao

[Lokiion]

Nope

[Jamie05rhs]

Yep!

[Slim57]

Most of the time yes