What can I do to increase my chances of getting more successful with dating after a bad experience with previous relationships ended?

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

Hi, I'm a female with a learning disability as well as more than one type of anxiety disorder and I'm just wondering about something about being more successful with dating after having a bad experience with some previous relationship that did end up. broke up I think I got 9 ex bfs. I have been going to meet & love the last year but didn't go this year for it. Because it was only good for making friends and not for romance relationships. I'm not sure why I noticed that learning disabled people can couple up very fast and that was one of my turning offsBeing too fast. i have been focusing on myself and my hobbies more than dating. I also have been approaching some guys at events that I go to events for gaming and. What can I do to increase my chances of getting more successful in dating after a bad experience with previous relationships ended?

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[aaron13547]

Lol you are already doing better then probably 95% of people. This is really inspiring!

Just keep learning to be ok with being uncomfortable. enjoy yourself doing it. Don't be afraid to say no. Follow your heart it will near do you wrong.

As im sure you know our brains are designed to keep us alive, not make us happy.

You are have taught your brain to make yourself happy better then I have. Like I want to be more like you now!

You are going to find happiness, just be patient and keep it up!

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

@aaron13547 i don't feel happy and i just feel same. gaming is can sometimes make me happy but that about it. i don't feel better then anyone. i just feel not good enough. meet & great didn't help and feel like have to do myself

[aaron13547]

I have struggled with similar things. Its not easy. Im sorry. I dont exactly know of a magic way to fix it.

I have a metaphor that I think might help. You know people build muscle by working out. Well if you ask people they dont enjoy working out (some do but not average people, the normal person wants the outcome not the journey)... they want to look good and the suffering of working out is the way to get there.

you want love and to be happy with another person but you feel like you have to do it all yourself... love with another person is like giving them control over your happiness. You trust them to make you happy or not. Love doesn't always feel happy. Thats a misconception.

You are good enough! I think you know that already otherwise you wouldn't be able to do all this by yourself... most people need someone else.

You see that. thats why you want someone else, they make you think you are missing something, you are not! They are.

When you truly love who you are you are going to attract more people then you know what to do with...

Im here to listen or offer advice if you feel like either would help. I see so potential in you! You just need to see it in yourself 🙂

Today is going to be a good day

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

I already been like this since throughout high school and only did enjoy college but that is. is not good day for me.

[aaron13547]

Why is it not a good day? It can be! It starts with believing in yourself. What made you enjoy college? You're thinking the wrong stuff. Life is what we make it.

For example,

I didn't get the opportunity to go to college but it hasn't stopped me from doing what I love. I can see the ways I use to think in your sooo much. There is a way out of this!

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

Has to shopping with my mum and my mum is not very good and seems to get stressed out. I'm just missing college since it is one of the best times of my life. Yet nothing yet compared to. Did have friendship throughout college. Dating was rubbish there.

[aaron13547]

I can understand the mom thing! Nothing compares to college yet because you are just getting started in life... You are free to do anything you want. You just have to believe in yourself!

Direct message me if you want to talk more about this. I have a hard time keeping up with thread replys on here

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

Ok and my mum always comes with me no matter what I'm doing.

[aaron13547]

Did she go to college with you? You said that was the best time of your life... Also you said shopping with her would stress you out... Maybe start to get more comfortable with the idea of freedom. Think about what you want if you could do ANYTHING?

Im not trying to say being with your mom is wrong but maybe what you really want is a little more space and independence for yourself. not another person to love and depend on the way you do your mom. Find that within yourself 🙂

I had a really hard time learning to be independent from my parents, I still struggle with it a lot... my parents aren't as supportive as your mom seems to be.

Remember the first things I said... You are doing better at this game of life then most people. Think positive and trust yourself!

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

I can't with freedom and my mum wasn't there when I started at college but my mum more annoying. I'm not in USA.

[aaron13547]

You can with freedom... if you could do anything, what would you do?

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

I can't do anything since UK and learning disabilities

[Abbycado]

Sounds like you are doing the right things by putting yourself out there at the gaming events. Perhaps you’ll get lucky with one and meet someone.

[Abbycado]

Ty for mho!