How can you get good luck with dating and relationships even if you have had more bad luck with previous relationships?

[SeaStorm1]

If relationships and dating are all about luck. I had more bad luck with experience with my previous relationships. Some ex boyfriends were cheaters and my last previous ex boyfriend turned out to be toxic and did blame the game on my trust issue with some ex friends that were girls. I was the one that did break through text and he tried to pressure into trying a relationship second go and I already moved on from him I had to use the broke up from texting unwilling to let go I'm more than one facebook account and i blocked him on my first account and then messaged me on my older facebook account and did also blocked to. I also being online dating and so far i keep getting the same type of men that are immature, playars, coky and pressure type of men that i also noicted and i had blocked these type of men. How can you get good luck with dating and relationships even if you have had more bad luck with previous relationships?

[ThatOneGuy247]

I believe luck doesn't really make a difference. If a person works on themselves with they will be able to attract a high quality partner that they vet before entering a relationship. Because there's not enough high value good people to go around, it is very competitive and not everyone gets the partner they want. As a woman, you know that women truly want their pick of about 1 in 200 men, meaning more like they want to date 1 in 2,000 men because not all of those men are compatible.

[SeaStorm1]

I'm not intersted or attracted any men that are taller then me. i should has more option that some other women. it depend. i'm not intersted in men that are too good looking. what does has do with me

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Always think positive when you meet a nice guy your age also make sure to tell him what you are looking for in a long-term relationship keep him in line watch for positive signs from him but also look for red flags he may give you, but anything is possible nowadays.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[CalmUntilAbused]

The point with luck is that someone You just don't get good luck. Things that are about luck are the hardest to obtain, as no matter what You do, You are unable to really change anything about whether You get them or not. In case of a really bad luck, You could remain the last decent human being on this planet and never be able to find a decent partner. Even with the number of decent people in existence being much higher, it's low enough for this luck to get very tough. I guess it's best to look outside of the big cities. People in big cities are the most consumptionist on average, and that's why big cities are the centers of depravity. Look for someone with no experience with TV and probably also limited experience with the internet (though it depends on what corners of the internet is a person looking into). If You want to meet decent people, dating apps of all kinds are the worst place to go. Dating apps are for (over) confident people, and few of those are the least bit thoughtful or philosophical. You might find some, but if we take luck more mathematically, it becomes probability, and that probability will be low in this case. Basically, the whole art of searching for good luck is about maximizing the probability of finding decent people and hoping it translates to luck. If there is no direct translation of luck to probability, we might find ourselves to be all out of good luck, but that's the worst case scenario we must be prepared for, but not really care about. If it comes true, well... we could never do anything about it, right? Thus, it requires none of our actions.

[SeaStorm1]

i'm not from USA from stupid Uk that no matter wheere i go town asshole in my town, city some asshole and even little towns still meet asshole. i got no luck no matter if rl dating or online

[CalmUntilAbused]

Oh, and I would expect it to be exactly the other way round... Well, there are still other countries to visit, or even niche societies inside any country. Personally, I think the weebs would be a nice pool. They can be awkward at times, but most of them are wholesome, kind people.

[SeaStorm1]

I can't even travel to any where else when comes to dating. i has to stay my town is uk but can travel can only travel through UK only.

[WindAtMyBack]

You keep going. Yes, there is some luck involved. But there are also things you can do. Learn from your mistakes and move on. To learn from your mistakes, you must first identify them.

It's easy to blame the other person. But you have no control over the other person. No matter how bad they were, you can't control it. You only have control over yourself. So in order to improve things, you have to look at yourself and figure out what you can improve.

Luck is a factor in a lot of things. It's up to you how to deal with luck, and how to put the odds in your favor. You need to admit to yourself that you are not perfect, and try to fix the things that you are doing wrong. That requires taking a hard look at yourself, and being completely honest with yourself. That is hard to do when you are in a relationship, or recently got out of one. It takes time to remove yourself from it and look back objectively.

[SeaStorm1]

I throught i did learn my mistake and blocked most of guys that are from bad guys but seem reason nothing seem to change. i know i can only control my self and not others. luck is not in my favour at all and i don't know what objectively means and i'm not a guy. a women here.

[WindAtMyBack]

If you were blocking people, it means you were doing things wrong before it got to that point. Why were you ending up with so many guys that you needed to block?

Objectively means you are honest with yourself. It means to look at things without emotion. It's the way an outsider who is not involved would look at it. Your friends might be objective. But they might also lie to you to make you feel good. If you have friends who know you well, and you trust them to be truthful, you can ask them for advice. They will know you better than anyone on here will. But really, most friends will try to avoid hurting you, so they might not tell you honestly what you are doing wrong.

[SeaStorm1]

i always hosent with my self and i don't have many friends at all. i also has blocked some friends that are now ex friends. still not chaning about luck. kept getting same resultno matter what dating platform i used and as well of rl dating

[Hulk_kitty]

The reason you attracting to the same type of men, is maybe because you there is something you need change within in yourself.

you don't attract what you want, you attract what you are. I believe the saying is very true, in order to get the friends, partner or anything in life, you need to make changes in your own life first.

I suggest to take time out from the dating scene, and do some self growth work, and work on yourself for while.

[Hulk_kitty]

I have realised over the last year, All the things we want in life, won't happen, unless you first make the changes within yourself first.
This is how the law of attraction comes in, it doesn' work by wishing or hoping or praying for good things to happen for you. It only works by making the changes within yourself first.

[SeaStorm1]

yep the first opioion i already did try change my self and change part of me and still hasn't zero luck anyway and shoudn't change perosnity about person. never ever wish. nothing happen and i stil nothing will happen is that what you want a women that kept changing perosnity.

[Hulk_kitty]

I am not saying change your personality, I am just saying improve aspects of your life and personality.
Plus don't give up, you will find someone, maybe change your dating strategy, change what dating sites you are going on, maybe take things slow when meeting guys.
I guarantee you are doing something wrong, There always bad people, and shitty people out there, male and female, you can't get away from that, you can't avoid them. But you can lower risks of meeting them, by changing what you do?
No offence change the negative attitude, because if I were a nice and decent guy, you would put me off.
At least meeting the bad guys, it gives you a good idea, what you don't want in a bloke, you will appreciate the good guy more.

[Hulk_kitty]

My brother was like you, he had 3 bad girlfriends, all treated him like shite. He carried on, and with the 4th girl, he is getting on with house on fire, and now they are buying house together.
You can and you will get a guy you want, just change what you are doing.
As my uncle said to me, don't blame, don't complain, find a solution your problems. That hit me like a tonne of bricks, now I understand why he worth 300 million. He find solutions to his problems, and just get on with it.
Yes there is shitty men out there? whats the solution? blaming men is not the problem, shitty people are not the problem. Men are going not to change, and neither are shitty men. The solution is you need to do something different, or change what you are doing.

[SeaStorm1]

yep i had more then 4 bad experince. i only had one good experince with one men but still lead to break up to. from college that i did go. i always do go slower. done both of attude and still nothing. i had 9 ex boyfriend. more then your brother. yep did try to find solution and still nothing happen at all.

[katiesmuff]

That is why we keep on until one day the perfect guy or gal comes along.

[SeaStorm1]

Yep kept doing this and still nothing

[Fireguy17]

It's a numbers game.
The more often you try, the better your odds are at finding the one, but you need to go through a lot of first dates etc to find that someone special.

[Zionne]

I kinda see a pattern. If you keep meeting the same type, it’s usually a sign to adjust where you look, how your profile is framed, and how early you set boundaries.

[Anonymous]

You have to be positive and more careful. Look at your past relationships what didn't work and make sure you are prepared this time

[SeaStorm1]

I already has tried being positive and so far. nothing

[ThrillSeeker01]

It's not luck. Just be yourself and find someone who sees that you're special.

[jahaims]

Luck doesn't exist. Luck is what people use when they don't understand statistics.