Why can’t I find a man?

[Anonymous]

My friends found boyfriends and they found loves of their lives and I am here….. SINGLE and I can’t find a man!
My friends said, “Well we tried to introduce you to men that were interested but you weren’t interested so you can’t complain. You’re too busy chasing men that won’t give you the time of day. What about that guy friend of yours? He really likes you and you outta give him a chance.”

Im sick of my friends telling me that. They said, “He’s been more engaging in texting you more. He wants you to be his girl. He’s hot for you. can't you see what he’s doing? He’s TRYING to get your attention. He wants YOU to notice him. Everyone knows that he has had a crush on you for like YEARS. There’s a guy that likes you for years but you’re too busy paying attention to other guys. Just give him a chance.”

I can’t go out with someone I have no at too. That’s not fair to him or I.

[Zack-Bann]

Sounds like you have no problem finding “a man”
What you’re struggling with is finding a specific man
“Mr perfect”


I’m not judging
I’m the same way


Single and most my friends tell me I do have options but I also have standards


So I accept my single status in hopes of landing a woman that feel right and who I can truly fall in love with


That being said: we’re both burning our years on a pipe dream when we can have something real today


It’s hard to make that choice


And the truth is, if you gave that guy a chance he’ll do all he can to please you every day


But you can’t guarantee you’ll develop feelings for him and that’s unfair


My advice would be to carefully examine who you are and what man you desire and try to make it plausible by becoming the kind of a woman a man like that would be into


If you’re an average looking girl with lazy habits and looking for Brad Pitt to knock on your door it’s not happening.


Make sure what you want is realistic and you’ll get it

[Summeroflove]

Not just for yourself out of basic respect for another human being you should ABSOLUTELY NOT waste someone’s time you’re not interested in. In fact, the fact that you haven’t done this shows maturity. Many people will use someone as a hold over in case all else fails because it’s better then nothing and they get the benefits out of it.

You would not want someone to waste your time. So don’t do it to someone else. Sure, if you want you can try a date. But if nothing materializes. Be direct…. Look. We tried. Shut it down.

It takes time to find someone you’re genuinely attracted to who genuinely likes you back. It’s quality over quantity.

[Simslover92]

Well while you can't force yourself to like someone, I thought I could never like or love my best friend and I ended up falling for him and being with him although it didn't last because of me.

Not saying you have to go that route but that you may want to give him a shot. You never know, he might just be the one.

[Asker]

Do I have too? I keep giving him hints that I don’t want him. My best friend said, “Okay you know what? Just STOP! Okay? Just STOP! We’re not going to sit here and let you be stubborn. OPEN YOUR EYES GIRL! Wake up and see that he has always been the guy for you! Like I said everything can tell that he has a crush on you for like YEARS but you have been paying too much attention to men that don’t like you or out of your league. Anyways he’s always been the one for you. since DAY ONE! He has been trying this get your attention and he wants you to be his girlfriend and never wants another woman. If you don’t see that, one day another woman will. I think deep down you like him too but you just don’t want to admit it. He may not be lean or good looking but he’s a sweet heart and he would treat you like a queen! Just GIVE HIM A CHANCE. Don’t let a good man like him go. Get your man!”
I just rolled my eyes. He is not my man and he never will.

[Simslover92]

Ok that's understandable you feel that way but you just might be missing out. My guy wasn't tall or the best looking guy to me at first but once I let go of my own ego and realized just how perfect he was for me, I realized that he was the best decision I ever made. I can't say that it's the same for you and I won't but you may be missing out is all I will say.

[itsannalee]

Don’t worry, some people even easily to find boyfriend but hard to find a husband.

[RavVid]

We would all like to score an objective 10. But if we are an average 5 it is a little unrealistic. They get a vote too and probably will move on quickly. I've read that 10 girls choose 8 guys because a 10 guy has more options.

I'm fussier than I have a right to be. It doesn't do me any good. In a lot of ways the nature of a partner is far more important than the physical.

You might do better and be happier if you focus on the nature you want the guy to have.

You might also do better if you focus on meeting guys mate selection criteria. It is not just big boobs

[slatyb]

Where have you been looking? Also keep in mind that not every couple is happy.

[Chthou95]

* Why can't i find the man that i want? Fixed it for you

[Anonymous]

It rough out there.

[Staximus]

Here we go again

[yulingrrrrrr]

Hmmmm