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I’m 40, she’s 39 and both of us spent way too much time navigating the dating world. We’ve both been told since turning 30 to date men 10 to 20 years older. I’ve been more open to it than she was. She’s still not open to it. She’s really pretty so her looks aren’t an issue, but she gets passed over and dumped CONSTANTLY by men our age for younger women and the last time really hurt her.

I started dating a man age 54 last year and have never been happier, and dating him taught me two things: 1.) it’s really true that men like to be a little bit older than their women and 2.) men need to feel lucky to have a woman in order for a relationship to work (my boyfriend and I both know how lucky we are to have each other, but he courted and pursued me like no man my own age ever did). My friend has not accepted this yet, and it’s such a shame because my boyfriend has a friend who is perfect for her. The guy met her one time and has been begging me ever since to set him up with her and he’s been pursuing her nonstop but she won’t give him a chance just because he’s 60. She says the age gap is too big and she won’t date him because he’s 20 years older even though he treats women really well, can give her the life and love she deserves and can also respect all of the wonderful qualities that she has to offer.

That man has outright told me that he wants someone our age. How can I make her see that women our age are better off with men that age?

She said the oldest she’ll date is 50.

Am I right when I say middle aged women in their late 30’s should be dating men in their late 50’s/early 60’s? Is she right that the age gap is too big?

Think about it. Kids are sent to school for 6 hours per day, but if you calculate it up they probably spend an hour per day travelling to classes, an hour for lunch, an hour wasted on nonsense subjects like home economics or such and then being forced to work as fast as the slowest student and unmotivated underpaid overworked teachers who stopped caring a year after they started. Then if you add that kids on average probably travel two hours a day going and coming from school, then add on the two to three hours of homework they have to do every night plus extra weekend homework and studying it's no wonder the education system is failing, kids are doing as much as 60+ hours weeks just at school, they are burned out.

I believe that most kids could be homeschooled for about 3 hours per day maybe 6 days per week and through the summer leaving their time flexible to do other things such as learn music, play sports, go to the gym, go to church volunteer, go swiming, help with household chores, go to museums and not be so worn out all the time. I myself was able to finish school when I was 16 with GCSEs and A Levels and a b- tech. I had a completely better quality of life than the drudergy of high school and peer pressure & toxic bullying environment. No nonsense gender studies and forced discussions on pronouns.

There are five and they are:

Words of affirmation: words that communicate your love, appreciation, and respect for another person.

Quality time: values your full presence when you are together. They feel most loved if you give them your undivided attention and spend time together in meaningful and interactive ways.

Physical touch: feels love through physical affection. Aside from sex, they feel loved when their partner holds their hand, touches their arm, or gives them a massage at the end of the day.

Acts of service: nice things you do for your partner that make them feel loved and appreciated like helping with the dishes or running errands for them.

Receiving gifts: gifts symbolize love, care, and affection.



Mine is definitely physical touch which is why I can't do the long distance relationship unless it's a few hours away and even that is pushing it.