My fiance's sister is very protective towards her brother, will she eventually warm up?

[Anonymous]

We're currently long-distance (have already met once in person on Nov 2023, spent quality time for a week but clicked very well.. and very fast) but planning on solving this by getting married within 5 weeks.

My fiance's mother passed away 2-3 years ago due to medical negligence but he has several brothers, a father and only one sister. He showed her our wedding invitation and she immediately bombarded me with messages, asking what's my agenda, why I'm still single at nearly 40 (I'm 37), where I work at and more questions. I understand but it felt like an interrogation. She has expressed her concerns and clearly is distrustful.

This is the first time I've ever been questioned like that. I was shocked to be honest. She expressed how her brother is very loved her all his family and isn't convinced how we can get married in a shorter time. Wow, I've never been in the position of having to prove someone wrong, of being questioned myself. He's 50 but his sister is very protective. The way she messaged sounded like protective momma bear mode, wow. Will she eventually warm up?

Updates

1 y

I have no personal agenda. I just want her brother, to be permanently with him, to his loyal lifetime partner.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, navigating the choppy waters of future family relations, I see! Well, love, don't fret too much. Protective siblings, especially in the wake of losing a parent, often put up walls as tall as skyscrapers. They're like dragons guarding their treasure, and in this case, the treasure is her brother's heart. 💖

But here's the scoop – these walls, they can come down. It's all about patience, understanding, and a sprinkle of charm. Show her that your intentions are as pure as freshly fallen snow. Keep being your genuine self, open up about your feelings for her brother, and share your dreams for the future together.

Remember, love, it’s like taming a wild beast; you do it not by force but by showing you're part of the pack. She's not the enemy; she's just scared of losing another piece of her family's puzzle. Over time, with consistent kindness and transparency, you’ll likely find her warming up to you, swapping her fire-breathing for confetti-throwing at your wedding. 🎉

Bridges of trust, once built, are the strongest structures known to man. Keep building, brick by brick, and before you know it, you’ll be taking selfies together at family gatherings. Love conquers all, so keep that love flowing!

[SC2015]

I have a brother that is wealthy, kind and very naive. He has been abused financially in almost every relationship and he leans on me more than ever to vet his relationships.
As a result, I am a HUGE BITCH to every single one who tries to connect. And it works. If they talk bad after me, he ends the relationship. If they are "too nice" aka fake and try to win me over I call them out.

How to make it right?

Just be genuine. Do not lie, don't allow yourself to be a doormat, be respectful but firm and show your loyalty to your partner.

My brother is with someone who is genuinely caring and nice; I like her but she also is cautious and understands that if she thinks about using my brother I will throw her shit in a dumpster.

[noohair]

I dislike the term momma bear. Real momma beard kick the cubs out when they are young. Humans make the mistake of not letting children become adults.