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In April, we chatted about the end of school stuff he has going on and his career. When I start asking him about it, he says it's hard to explain on text but can explain it better in person. I figured that was his way of trying to set something up. So I replied with, "Oh. Haha. I see. So when do I get to see you in person so you can explain it?" and he says, "Haha. After Easter break I can fit something in."

The next day, people knew about it as a rumor had spread. One of his "friends" pulled me to the side and wanted a "girl chat."

The gist of what she told me:

- He can be a hit or miss. Meaning that he might be a good guy, he might not be.

- That he basically cheated on his girlfriend while she was in New York, but he didn't really do anything either so he technically didn't cheat (her words, not mine).

- Sophomore year, he talked to her for a month, then ghosted her. Then he was taking to someone last December and ghosted her too.

- She said he seems like he's grown up since then, she just wanted to give me a heads up that he's probably in his "player stage."

- She also said that his roommate and best friend are players. I've had several classes with his roommate and he's the sweetest guy. As for his friend, I'll give her that one, he can be trouble.

I wanted to tell him and ask him about it, but there was never a good time as he didn't ask to hang out after she spoke to me. Now, he doesn't reach out first, but if I do he does respond. This past week, we talked for four days straight and I figured that maybe I should say something to him. But yesterday, his friend posted a photo that shows her, him and a couple other people (the people she told me are trouble) at a show. My crush and her were pretty far from each other, but they still obviously hang out and talk.

Is it too late for me to say something to him? I don't want to look like a drama queen.

I was discussing this with my friend. I told her that no girl would ask a guy that unless there was mutual attraction because it can give off the wrong signal otherwise.

moreover, asking a guy that question is a signal that the girl is also interested, no?

I've personally known this guy for 5 months. I initiated conversation first and followed him first. We began texting each other and I ended up asking him out. Even though he agreed, he canceled on me twice. Despite him eventually telling me that he wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to be friends, we still would text each other, a few times for hours til the early morning. He did admit to liking me and being attracted to me. One of the last things he texted me was, "although I was supposed to go to bed, know I'm thinking about you and I care about you".

A week later in person, I asked him, "How would you feel if you were to never see me again? How would you feel if we never spoke again?" His response was, "To be honest, I don't know how I would feel. I don't know". I just nodded my head and moved on. But what does this mean when a guy says this?