Rejection by copout: What she means by "talking to someone else":?

[JHNS98]

So I got a crush on a girl in class two months ago, told her she was cute... She told me that she already was talking to someone else.

I've heard that girls sometimes say this rather than just "I'm not interested". Is this a common way to reject peoole? Are there any ways to anticipate this response in conversation?

I have recently begun to be interested in another girl in class. I intend to withhold expressions of interest, gradually intensifying as we get closer.

Is there any way I can ensure that she answers genuinely and doesn't say she's "taken" as a copout? Can I say something in conversation when asking the initial question?

I'm going to start by asking to "get to know her better", then ask her out properly after some time.

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Turns out she was taken, or at least she said she was... There's no way around this though... Asking about "him" might come off as creepy, and starting off by asking if she's single is also just weird and wrong.

[PatriceONeal]

She honestly probably is talking to another guy. Girls have hundreds of not thousands of guys in their dms in this Era. Instagram, snapchat, tiktok etc. I have nondoubt she's talking to another guy, many girls talk to multiple men st once. I'm sorry but this is just the way it is now. It used to be better but women have grown an insane ego and never settle for any man. It's not you, it's all men who aren't the tip top 1% of men.

You should check out aome "redpill" content and "mgtow" content. It's mens encyclopedia for dating women and how they operate from a purely logical and science based approach, don't ask women for advice. You wouldn't ask a fish how to catch a fish.

I said all that to say this, she rejected you, and that's fine. You can now move on with your life and give this next girl a shot to see of she's what you are looking for, not the other way around.

When dealing with this new girl, be direct. Not in a sleazy way but make your intentions know so there is no wiggle room or plausible deniabilty. They love to use this to lure us on and drain us of our time and attention, it validates them. I'm sure this sounds very cynical but the world is a harsh reality, I don't hate women but I do hate what they're up to right now. Wish you the best of luck, remember; you're the prize as a man. There's no queen without a king.

[PatriceONeal]

Dude you are obsessing. Let the bitch go. Stop letting her drain your validation and energy from you. It's all she cares about.

[JHNS98]

Yes I did sort of obsess a bit. And now recently had a minor anxiety "attack" around another girl who also rejected me. It's a very weird place to be in... On the one hand, I obviously don't hanle rejection that well. But neither do I want to supress feelings of infatuation as a sort of "preventative measure". Tried that for years, which turned out to be is unhealthy.

[JHNS98]

I don't want to "take" any "pill" as I already struggle internally with my status on the incel pipeline. I don't want to be radicalized any further, and I also don't agree with the MGTOW movement - or at least the "biased" angle from which I've heard about this movement. Thanks for your final remarks of encouragement though.

[PatriceONeal]

I'd advise you to seek information and come to decisions on your own and not assume it's biased. Or take it by what you've heard.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

It's not a copout - "talking to someone else" literally means they are interested in someone that's not you.

The answer is already genuine.

[JHNS98]

Of course, and I know that. But some girls still say it even though it may not be strictly true, just because they know that the guy will leave them alone out of respect for the implied boyfriend, even though there might not actually be someone else.

How do I know that I'm not being exploitatively rejected?

[JHNS98]

I know I'm sounding like an incel, I can even feel it when writing this, and I - of course - don't feel good about it.

[quaranta]

What does it change for you if she rejects you due to another guy she is talking with, or, because she is not interested in you but uses that excuse? In both cases she is not interested in you, the only difference is she is more or less shy to express that and uses honesty or workarounds but the core is the same.