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30F and I don’t think I’ll ever shake my core belief that any decently presentable lady has no prob finding a man, a pretty girl well forget about it. I’m very reserved, I’ve always been but was *friendlier* in my early twenties, now I’m borderline antisocial. I always blamed growing up overweight as the reason why I didn’t get attention from guys/wasn’t popular, I lost weight in my early twenties and have maintained my weight loss since (still slim thick). Again, this weight loss didn’t change the attention I got from guys & I was a bit more sociable back then.

I’m told I’m attractive (from all kinds of people for most of my life & not only family/friends) & the only times attractive guys take initiative are on dating apps. And apps are absolute trash as we know, guys I’d find attractive in person have never made it known to me directly. It’s always that RARE occasion where I think one is maybe making eye contact or someone I knew pointed out a guy was looking at me/word of mouth this or that guy found me attractive etc. Then on dating apps, I’d have guys that I initially considered *potential* eventually showing interest in me (asking out etc) after I got to know them a bit more and I just find a way to dip out.

Im so conflicted. I feel invisible & when a guy appeals to me in some way on a dating app (which should be taken with a grain of salt), I just can’t be bothered for whatever the reason is for me at that moment. It’s apathy/anxiety/self sabotage/confusion etc?

I always said that I’d be willing to date someone with 1 child as long as that kid was young enough to accept someone coming into their parent’s life but old enough to already be potty-trained.

Last year I was on the verge of dating a guy with a kid, and they both got really attached to me like literally week 1. The child turned out to be bad af and had a habit of wetting the bed. But I still cared for her and her dad. Oddly enough, he and I even had the same birthday. But I only saw us being friends. And then the kid started telling me stuff that made me fear he was abusive like his ex said. Anyways, I had to get away from that.

Now I’m kind of interested in this one guy but I just found out that he has 3 kids, all boys, and they all look old enough to be potty trained lol. I found out about them elsewhere, but he’s yet to mention that he’s even a da. I assume its cause we’re pretty early into getting to know one another and maybe he thinks women will run once they find out. But I don't know we’re getting along pretty well and I’m just wondering if I want to go this route of possibly dating someone with kids, especially with it being 3 kids. If I do this, he’d definitely be the exception to the rule… I just hope there’s no baby mana drama
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If you liked a girl’s personality and got along with her well, but had no physical attraction to her, would you still pursue a romantic relationship with her?

i’ve been seeing a man for about a year now. We hug, hold hands, kiss, even sleep together sometimes (literally sleep, no sex), but he will not be sexually intimate with me.

any time i question him about it, he will get annoyed and shut down. My only theory is that hr does not find me attractive. Because i’m fairly certain he’s been intimate with previous girlfriends. And before we got together, i overheard him make sexual innuendos around guys, so i know he has an interest in sex… just not sex with me.