Why do men still cold approach when it will always be uncomfortable and 99% of women are unreceptive to it?

[Anonymous]

I met my fiancé in college my friends met their husbands through a mix of mutual friends, school, hobbies, and work. In social settings joining on conservations or speaking to a woman casually is not a cold approach at all.

However all the women I know including myself still get guys that come up to us out of nowhere and ask for our numbers. They are always pushy and even if they aren’t the idea that a man is solely interested in looks is a turn off already. When it was single it was off putting and now it’s still off putting and usually scary. It doesn’t help if you’re handsome either whether it’s true or not you’ll look like a player who goes up to any nice ass he sees.

Yes women say they want to be a approached but what they really mean is a decent to good looking man coming up to her and making conversation once she’s seen him herself in a space where she feels comfortable and calm. NOT a stranger saying I think you’re beautiful can I get your number, that sounds nice to men, 99% of women do not like that.

Complimenting her looks will not make her think you’re any less malicious it just seems superficial. Also this should be a given but going up to women at on public transport, absolute no same with at night! You’re goal should be to speak to her as a person, then get a number if you’re interested beyond that. Asking for a number off the bat is weird and will always be weird.

Sadly looks do matter, unattractive men should never cold approach. It looks creepy no matter what, not great to hear but it’s the truth. Women are more receptive to unattractive men when they get to know them from friends, groups, or shared interests. There is no reason to cold approach in general but especially if you are not at least average looking.

Men complain about women giving them fake numbers or rejecting them from cold approach’s, so why do it at all when it’s just makes women uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women do it I'd imagine. Whenever a woman approaches me it's always a woman I never even knew was in the room. And it always makes me wonder how long was this woman looking at me before she decided to approach me. And she always seemed shocked that I'm not more into her. And I'm like, "girl I don't even know you, and this is the first time I'm seeing you, what do you expect"?😆

[LiamJHayden]

99%? Even I do not get rejected at that rate.

[jasonjavosky]

u probably got 100%

[mandyfire98]

I honestly don't even mind anyone approaching me as long as they do it respectfully and also accept rejection respectfully.

[Jessica405]

They work on the princple that if you ask enough women, eventually you will strike lucky.

[jasonjavosky]

high value men, men who are successful do not cold approach. lf you a high value man, then most likely, you are liked by your classmates, classmates who you have years long relations with. they've had time to evaluate you as a person. since you are liked in your peer group, you will have someone to choose from

low value men, on the other hand, are not liked by others. like the high value man, he is also going to classes, but because he doesn't have a likable personality, people generally shun him.

it's generally the low value men who are cold approaching because they have no other choice. they've already been shunned by their peers.

now l would say that girls are probably approached by guys pretty often, but keep in mind, the vast majority of those guys are low value guys, and low value guys may approach up to 10 females a day, so it doesn't mean that it's a common thing, or popular thing. lt is by no means popular, but desperate men have to do what they have to do.

what you;ll also notice is that cold approach is becoming more common over the years. primarily because there are more mentally ill people now than ever before due to late marriages, and other unhealthy practices by parents, often times leading to mental illness among their children. when these children grow up, they dont know how to interact with people, and thats how you get men who cold approach

ln a nut shell, men cold approach because they have no other choices. they have no social circles. they dont get invited to parties. no one is introducing them to females. these are all traditional ways people have always done in the past.

[jasonjavosky]

peers and classmates can be interchangable here

[jasonjavosky]

also, because low value men are doing a lot of approaches. maybe a dozen a day, and several days a week. this looks like it's common but a lot of times, it's a limited group of men who are approaching lots of ffemales.
also, most men are simply not going to have time to cold approach which is why its primarily the losers who are cold approaching because they have a lot of time because theyre not doing anything else with their lives, but l think even the loser thing is tied with mental illness and how they were raised, including how old their parents were when they were given birth

[beaves11]

So you’re acting like we all have huge social circles to pick partners from. I’m not attracted to a single girl in any of my circles. So cold approach it is

[Nikki1989]

Why is it uncomfortable? Most of us admire confidence in a man.

[Asker]

Cocky and confident are two different friends. I’ve noticed a pattern of cold approachers being unattractive and aggressive. My husband is confident and spoke to me first however i met him naturally and he didn’t try to hit on me until I got to know him over time. I didn’t have to worry about him harassing women on the street or cheating with a hot stranger because he was interested in me not just my looks. If you like men who come up to strangers based on looks 10 times a day you can have them though :)

[Asker]

Sorry if my comment came off a little rude. What I will say is older women like you tend to prefer guys who cold approach because it proves they still have market value. Also older men are the ones to approach so it aligns more with how you were raised. Older generations are used to cold approach gen z is not, its no longer socially acceptable. I’m 22 so for me and other women my age we like it less. Sorry if my last comment was passive aggressive I find it weird women other women try to defend actions men take that many women find uncomfortable however it’s a generation gap so I understand.

[Anonymous]

lol women are not more receptive to unattractive men regardless of setting

women wouldn't even want to be friends with unattractive men to begin with

[In_Trance]

Because that 1% chance is all you need to make a connection

[Anonymous]

Encourage women to do the approaching more often. Until then, you get zero sympathy from me.

[Asker]

Why? There are other ways to meet women. I’m not saying men can’t speak to women. My point is cold approaches make women less receptive to men. No idea why men think it’s easier to get rejected by a stranger who’s clearly scared of you then simply get to know a women then ask for a phone number if she’s engaged in the conversation.

[Opinion Owner]

I simply do not care about women's complaints when they refuse to do the approaching themselves.

Even in an appropriate setting, you guys give bullshit hints that even other women wouldn't be able to decipher, say everything is creepy, etc. You guys put yourself out there and make the first move then. That way you have more control of the situation. Otherwise deal with men you don't like approaching you.

[Asker]

A woman isn’t entitled to date you. Men saying they don’t care about woman’s dating complaints is just asking for more women to hate men. You can create a further divide or listen. Men are the women’s complaining about inability to get into relationships and get sex not women, it’s hurts you more then it hurts us. Cause women will simply keep rejecting

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say I was entitled to women. But the constant complaining about fuckin everything is getting old. You don't like the way men approach you? Ask men out more and then it would probably happen less bc the only reason men approach women is because they know there's a 100% chance of nothing happening if we leave the approaching up to women.

[Opinion Owner]

Women are so quick to complain about how men go about approaching women, but you guys won't make the first move, hell most of you contribute absolutely nothing in the early stages of dating. Men have to initiate every conversation, plan and pay for where date, you guys do nothing.

[Opinion Owner]

Plan and pay for every date

[Asker]

Like I said I am engaged and most of my friend are married. However I know plenty of women who live of plan dates and all go above and beyond for their partners. Men paying for dates is traditional if you don’t want to simply don’t do it and choose a women who likes 50/50. Plenty of women in the real world are willing to do that as well. Men always tell women to pick better men but never try to pick better women.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say women don't occasionally treat their partners. I said in the early stages of dating most women do nothing. Everything is up to the man. If you leave everything up to the men, yeah you're gonna be disappointed sometimes. That's on you.

[Anonymous]

Because they are fools who don't realize they they'll be executed by a MeToo hit squad

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Being stupid.