How many kids are too many (for you), when it comes to dating someone with kids?

[DizzyDesii]

I always said that I’d be willing to date someone with 1 child as long as that kid was young enough to accept someone coming into their parent’s life but old enough to already be potty-trained.

Last year I was on the verge of dating a guy with a kid, and they both got really attached to me like literally week 1. The child turned out to be bad af and had a habit of wetting the bed. But I still cared for her and her dad. Oddly enough, he and I even had the same birthday. But I only saw us being friends. And then the kid started telling me stuff that made me fear he was abusive like his ex said. Anyways, I had to get away from that.

Now I’m kind of interested in this one guy but I just found out that he has 3 kids, all boys, and they all look old enough to be potty trained lol. I found out about them elsewhere, but he’s yet to mention that he’s even a da. I assume its cause we’re pretty early into getting to know one another and maybe he thinks women will run once they find out. But I don't know we’re getting along pretty well and I’m just wondering if I want to go this route of possibly dating someone with kids, especially with it being 3 kids. If I do this, he’d definitely be the exception to the rule… I just hope there’s no baby mana drama
#FeelFreeToList

If they already have 1 or more kids, that is a deal breaker for me.

I would date someone with 1 kid.

I would date someone with 2 kids.

I would date someone with 3 kids.

I would date someone with 4 or more kids.

I have kids so its only fair that I date someone who also has kids.

I have kids but I don’t want to date someone who also has kids.

[Simslover92]

I honestly don't want to date someone with kids because I don't have any but I realize I'm at an age where that is almost virtually impossible to find. Most guys my age or older, have at least one kid. So if I have to date someone with children, I would hope it would just be one but I'm open to more than one due to my age.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i think aging up made me more open to the idea. Because i prefer to date men who are 24-32 and its kinda expected that they’ll have at least one

[Simslover92]

Yep I found that out through meeting people online and through friends. They all seem to have at least one which I'm growing cool with. I love kids but again I would prefer to have my own with someone because you just can't discipline them the way you would be able to with your own kids.

[DizzyDesii]

Exaaaactly cause the last dude kept tellin me to spank his bad ass child and i kept refusing. Like i felt like thats his job. I’d only even consider that had we been married. But in general i dont wanna spank my kids so we already werent seeing eye to eye

[Simslover92]

Oh yeah I can definitely understand that. I don't want to spank my kids either let alone someone else's child. That would have been a no no for me as well.

[DizzyDesii]

Especially since he told me he got custody of his daughter because his ex was abusive. Yet his ex said he was abusive. And then the little girl later told me, he hit her as well. So its like yea i wouldn't lay hands when clearly all of y'all are already abusive. I wanted out before someone accused me too

[Simslover92]

Whoa that's crazy! It's good you got out of that toxic relationship. I feel so bad for the child though.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont like that he kept trying to use the child to make me stay. He kept pushing her to beg me to stay and it was sad seeing her cry. So now im paranoid of that happening again

[Simslover92]

Oh wow... I definitely would be too. That's rough. Sorry you had to deal with that. That's honestly my fear with dealing with someone with kids.

[Joshydavid25]

"I always said that I’d be willing to date someone with 1 child as long as that kid was young enough to accept someone coming into their parent’s life but old enough to already be potty-trained."

Yeah me too.. I always said, at my age I'm willing to date a woman with a toddler, as long as the baby daddy is not some psycho still hung up on her or her playing around with him.. And if the child is young enough for me to peacefully come into their live.. Anymore than that... Nah..

[ohsheeT]

Well I have two a boy and a girl

And them growing up I had all their friends so I had quite a few kids but I'm still probably like to have another kid I did a pretty good job on the first two and that's one of the most beautiful things is being able to share your life in a way that they can learn from it and become bigger and better than you

And then the other thing is you have to have a wallet big enough for however many kids that you have because they all need

[itsannalee]

1 is too many, if you can’t afford it.
30 is fine as long as you can afford it, physically, mentally and financially.

[itsannalee]

And i don’t think dating someone with kids is a good idea. If i want to have kid, i prefer from my blood.

[DizzyDesii]

I also want at least one biological but i dont mind taking in someones child as well

[lyrem04]

Emotionally as well so I will say that 30 is tm lol how can u be present for that many at once

[itsannalee]

@DizzyDesii if the mom passed away is okay. But if they just divorced or broke up, i don’t like to have drama with baby mama.

[molonski2]

Two would be my max , I had 2 kids by the time I was 31 years..

Now , so much older , any more than 2 I would struggle , even if they were grown , I suppose there could be an exception now , but not then , because I had 2 , if they had 2 .. Fck me ! Thats 4 , and you are starting to talk Brady Brunch stuff , and look how that ended out.. hahahaha.

Father gay , and the eldest son fcking the mother.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i definitely used to want a big brady fam but im almost 30 and would be willing to pop out 1 kid at this rate. So no more than 4. Then again his youngest 2 are twins so maybe i’d get twins lol. And as for the brady bunch, i knew the dad was gay but i heard greg was fcking the sis marcia, not the mom

[molonski2]

No , he fcked Carole.. briefly in real life.
Dirty prick fcking his own mother.
As for yourself , I have 2 daughters , the youngest is 32 ..
I'm not even a grand parent yet. But my eldest daughter is in a long relationship in Denmark with a guy who has twins.
She said to me on being a grand parent.. " Dont hold your breathe dad " , haha , I thought that was funny.

[DizzyDesii]

Woooow he was doin the mom 😭😂

[molonski2]

hahahaha..
Think there is a youtube on it somewhere.. Ohhh Carole is Ollllldddd now

The actor Mike , was so incredibly gay ( he came out later ) that the scenes he hated most were the kissing scenes , he just despised having to kiss Carol. Man I know wayyyyyy too much about this shit.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i just read about the article on greg and florence and her tryna pass it off as just an innocent night out. Hope she rolling in her grave raggedy pedo. She was 36 and he was 16. And it did hurt to find out the dad was gay (i found out as a teen) cause he was so hot lol

[molonski2]

Ohhh , I dont think you can call her at Pedo , look in my time virtually every girl lost her virginity at 13/14 ( very common ) some made it to 15 , there was plenty of all that going on..
In Australia at the time , ( I appreciate its USA ) that sexual arrangement was certainly legal , same in the UK..
Far worse USA examples , were various rockers who sent their " minders " into the crowd to pick up heavily made up girls ( trying to look older ) , only to be done by the band , and some roadies.. Sometimes encouraged by their mother..
This is how it was..
Convicted a few famous ones in UK.. USA system basically does not allow , One very very well known juiced up rocker comes to mind. Its how it was.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea and its still weird as hell. She was def a pedo. Any country legalizing that shit at 16 are prob fcking the minors themselves

[molonski2]

No , age of consent has always been 16 ..
Pretty much blanket across most of the world..
Australia didn't change the , just if you were over 21 , they had to be 18 ..
That presented vast problems for some young relationships , say 20 and 16 for example ,
So it was pretty silly. UK remains 16 .. Blanket.

[molonski2]

Thailand was 13 for khun Thais ( Thai Nationals ) , now its 15 for Nationals.
If you are outside coming in you bring your own countries rules which is great reform.. Makes no difference to me of course , but some of these guys.. you wouldn't believe.
And its on them , to both check are verify ID..
So , if you come from USA or French , you bring your countries rule with you...
Mind you , Khun Thais in Isaan? Hmm , I dont think they would be too concerned about law.

My last girlfriend was 41 , and I was embarrassed enough sometimes with her , because she looked so dam young , compared to Western.

[DizzyDesii]

Looking young is different from being young tho

[RavVid]

I'm a bit shocked. Next I'll be told that the cast were chock full of STDs and not clean at all.

[molonski2]

Certainly is for sure..

[DizzyDesii]

@RavVid well the dad did die with hiv

[RavVid]

Well there we go. Chock full. I am very disappointed seeing it was a family show and all.

[molonski2]

@RavVid
Well.. a gay actor at that time? Lots of Coke..
What chance did Mike have? HIV was a certainty.
Reckon Peter had it together most.

[DizzyDesii]

Nah Peter was on that show Surreal Life doing just as much. And @RavVid after growing up watching the Cosby show and learning what bill cosby was doing along with him screwing his tv wife and daughter (claire and sandra) on the side, im not surprised by much anymore. I don't know if you were into the tv show Charmed like i was but even they were crazy. On screen Phoebe and Cole was dating and Piper and Leo were dating. But irl, Cole was dating their sister Prue and Leo was cheating on his real life wife with Phoebe. So many shows have been ruined

[RavVid]

Surreal Life and Charmed are ones I don't know of but everyone knows of Bill Cosby. It does seem disgustingly rife. I guess show bus people can put on a good act.

[RavVid]

In that perspective, I suppose HIV was a certainty

[molonski2]

In this era , pretty much guaranteed

[RavVid]

At this point I'll quote Kathrine Hepburn from the African Queen " Nature, Mr (Bogarts character), is what we are here to rise above".

Some people don't try very hard. Especially in the Morewell Valley.

[mstbooblover]

To be honest, the less kids, the better in my case. Considering my age I'm not looking for someone to create a family. Nevertheless, having children is a normal situation, and thus I can only wish the kids of my potential hypothetic partner to be grown up and having their own life. Otherwise, I really don't know.

Case sensitive I guess, and certainly not necessaryly a deal breaker. Good relevant that question of yours.

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you and great explanation

[CuriousMoonFox]

I am surprised you actually consider dating a man with children. The expression on the faces of the ladies when I tell them I have children: Priceless.

Next time I should record the whole thing to Snoop Dogg's "Drop it like it's hot. Drop it like it's hot."

At least they were are all grateful I disclosed that info on the first date. I should think about telling them even before that in the future.

[DizzyDesii]

I’ve never been against it, i just never wanted to date someone with more than one child. So this is definitely an exception. But i just wish he’d mention sooner than later that he has kids

[CuriousMoonFox]

I can understand. Guess I have to wait another ten years before trying to date again.

[DizzyDesii]

Wait 10 years why?

[CuriousMoonFox]

Because by then the ladies I'll date will be 50 and likely not care whether I have grown up children. She might have adult children herself.

[DizzyDesii]

You should go for women 25-30+ who likely already have a child or are ready for one

[CuriousMoonFox]

😅 I have more than one, which is exactly what lead me to this question of yours (how many is too many). I imagine a single mother of one child might be open for a man with one of his own. But more than one? Possibly more than two? 😱 A popular sitcom from the 90s comes to my mind. And drop it like it's hot 😆 Although it might make a difference that my kids are not living with me 🤔

Anyway I am curious as to wether you will go this route to put it in your words. Cheers. 🍻

[DizzyDesii]

I’m definitely considering it

[RHK36]

To me it's more important if the other parent is in the picture. If they are chances are I'm out right then and there. I don't care if it's a healthy relationship because I'm not gonna be playing monkey in the middle raising someone else's kid 🤡. If she's on her own I can deal with 1, but for multiple kids probably not. I'm definitely not if she has multiple kids from different guys because that's just a walking red flag right off the rip.

[DizzyDesii]

The guy last year had custody and the mom lived in another state, but around the time i was ready to bounce, the mom was moving back. So i guess i exited just in time

[magiusX26]

as you know my personal stance about me dating, so hypothetically (maybe retroactivily thinking) speaking here. after trying to even just do a friends with benefits with a woman with kids a couple of times, it got reduced to 0.001 childrenn meaning none nor even something as close as a recent miscarriage or she had recently dated a guy with any and had any interaction with and other such almost like being a mom things. yeeshn do i have some odd stories from those days! re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[exitseven]

it would be more a function of how old the kids are. Toddlers are a non starter. I am not interested in raising somebody else;s kids. If they are in high school I don;t care how many there are.

[DizzyDesii]

Teen years are just as bad lmao

[Anpu23]

At my age, as long as the kids were grown or mostly grown Id be okay with any amount of children. Im not interested in raising children at my age.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont blame you

[Christian_Cartier]

I dated a girl with kids once and would never do it again. She's attached to her ex for life in a way that I can't explain. It's too weird of a dynamic. And the kids were awesome and the best part of the experience.

[DizzyDesii]

I actually think i get it

[Zack-Bann]

More than mine basically


I am childless at the moment and wouldn’t want a partner with kids from someone else


But if I had a kid and was single again I’d be open to dating another single parent with about as many kids as me so that no kid feels overwhelmed with many step siblings who are blood relatives to eachother

[DizzyDesii]

Thats pretty sweet

[beebella]

If they have more than two, it's going to be a no for me. Because I want my own kids and if they have more than two, then they probably won't want anymore kids.

[DizzyDesii]

I’m thinking the same, like hmm would he want more kids. We’re the same age and he has all boys with the 2nd and 3rd being twins. So maybe he still wants to try for a daughter lol

[beebella]

Three is a lot, but you guys are still young. It's possible that he wouldn't mind adding one or two more to the bunch if the right person came along. Of course, you would have to find that out for yourself, but there could be a possibility. 😂

[DizzyDesii]

Almost 30 is not young to me 😭 But I’m hoping for at least one biological child. The rest i’m fine adopting or taking in

[Raaj4you]

@DizzyDesii I wish you good luck in dating. But don't say, I don't want baby mama drama. I hope you will be a good mother. Be nice to kids. My life experience says if you don't take care of the babies, they will hold a grudge on you.

[DizzyDesii]

Baby mama drama means I dont want to deal with the mother of his other children

[Raaj4you]

Oh okay!

[Raaj4you]

*I voted for 1st option. I am a single Heterosexual man with no kids. So I am looking for only single woman with no kids. I am not a racist.

[DizzyDesii]

What did racism have to do with it? Lmao

[Raaj4you]

I am attracted to women of all races.😉

[Med_guy1978]

It depends on the kids, 10 well mannered and well behaved kids are no hassle. One poorly disciplined child is a nightmare.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow great way to put it. But it immediately think of how bad the kids were on The Sound of Music lol

[Med_guy1978]

Thanks 🙏🏻☺️
I didn't see that 🤔

[DizzyDesii]

They had a strict military dad but they were horrible to each of their babysitters. It was like 7 kids or something

[Med_guy1978]

If you mistreat the kids they become aggressive. You can have authority and there can be peace and harmony. Don't let it put you off, everything is worth a try.

[ProbablyClueless]

I could work with 1 kid, at this point of my life. Once you get over to 2 or 3 kids, that's more responsibility than I could handle right now because that's responsibility before I even have kids of my own.

Because if you think longer term, that gets to the point of adopting a family. If I'm with a woman who already has two kids and eventually have one of my own; that's 3 kids I'm supporting, and to whatever extent, their mother. I'm in my early 30s.

It's just a lot

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i also said i wouldn't mind adopting after i had at least one bio but before does seem like a lot

[Anonymous]

Dated girls with kids.

Now? If she has kids then max I’ll do is friends with benefits only.

I’m so done with baby daddy dramas.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[shades777]

1 is too many but if she's a friend with benefits no limit, booty is booty, as far as wifey material I rather her have none

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[shades777]

I mean different strokes for different folks

[Emmytexrex]

Well hmmm this is a big one I don't usually date girls with kids but if I would maybe one

[DizzyDesii]

Yea its definitely not ideal to date someone with kids but i do like seeing how good a guy is with kids so kinda makes sense

[kellytheman]

I think I can date if she has two kids but that’s the max and it also kinda depends on there age also too though. I have dated a girls had 1 kid and had 2 problems really arise. One was her son was 13 and asked me if I f**k his mom. The other was the girl 16 old daughter would flirt with me and touch asking me to have sex with her like I have sex with her mom. I told her mom to shut it down.

[RavVid]

I have done but think I'll skip from now on. The oldest child always seems to be a problem; maybe because they saw more of mom and dad breaking up.

I wouldn't say never but I would ask why.

[DizzyDesii]

I know i was horrible to my moms boyfriends lol

[RavVid]

:) how horrible exactly? :)

[DizzyDesii]

Blamed a lot of what i did on them lol. And got away with it

[RavVid]

That was pretty bad of your younger self but funny.

[DizzyDesii]

Had to get rid of the ole geezers trying to touch my mother lol

[RavVid]

in that case you were nobly protecting your mom and not a litl horror at all.

What is the sit with the kiddie hider?

[Unit1]

One is too much.

[red-lipstick-girl]

How are you going to deal with a man with 3 children? It's very difficult. They are all boys. You will have to take care of all of them. I don't think it's worth it. Leave the man alone.

[DizzyDesii]

I grew up with mostly boys and get along better with dudes. Plus im tomboyish and not into makeup, nailpolish and all that stuff. Most of my toys as a kid were legos, videogames, hot wheels, etc. I know i’d be a great mom to boys, biological or not

[Ladsin2]

I'll be damned if I raise some other man's kids. Your statement is kind of goofy though. A kid goes through the emotional trauma of losing her mother and you think she's creepy for wetting the bed? Real compassionate lady here.

[DizzyDesii]

I never said she was creepy. I said i dont think i could handle her wetting the bed all the time especially since he doesn't make her sleep in a separate bed. Both of her parents are still in her life. He just doesn't like letting the mom see her

[Ladsin2]

OKay

[electromagnetic]

I don’t think I could date someone with kids. Faq them little shits.

[DizzyDesii]

💀😩

[Paris13]

Two is Company and Three is my Crowd. Two kids. xxoo

[DollAlone]

One is too many for me at my age, unless his kids are grown and older and out of the house

[Phoenix98]

I won't date anyone with kids that's just a nest of snakes I'm not willing to walk into.

[DizzyDesii]

I Get it. I guess aging up has opened up my heart more to the idea

[yvanvangoth]

If it is one child, and also depending what the age of the child is, then sure. More than that I''m going to have to pass, sorry.

[worldscolide]

If they have one, it's a deal breaker. Thankfully I'm married so it's not a concern any more lol.

[DizzyDesii]

I hear ya

[moneymagnet24]

What a fall men 😢😢
From Dating a young dude to Dating a men with 3 kids... what a fall dizzy 😢😢

[DizzyDesii]

A young dude? He was barely 2 years younger lmao

[moneymagnet24]

R u mad at me? 🥺

[DizzyDesii]

Based off what you said some time ago i was more so disgusted by how inappropriate it was. I dont mind being cordial but i dont have much else to say

[moneymagnet24]

I said sorry for that but don't be mad at me please it's make me more horny for you 😘😘

Dizzy is my favvvvvvourite ♥️

[animesenpai]

The lifestyle i currently want is not compatable with kids

[DizzyDesii]

I respect the honesty

[LiamJHayden]

Matters more to me that they are well-behaved and that there are no crazy lurking exes than how many.

[Jamie05rhs]

1 is too many. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Anonymous]

Depends. If there’s more than one baby mama, that might be a bad sign.

[DizzyDesii]

True. I don't know if there's one or two but i know the youngest two are twins

[Opinion Owner]

I see. If it’s one mother and three kids that would be daunting to me because I’m only 18 but if I was older that might not be a deal breaker.

[DizzyDesii]

He just turned 30 and i’ll be 30 next year so i’m more open to it then i wouldve been if younger

[Opinion Owner]

That’s good. Good luck. Hopefully it’s not a deal breaker and they’re all from one mom.

[DizzyDesii]

Even if theyre from two, im more worried about why he hasn't mentioned them

[Opinion Owner]

Probably cause he’s afraid you’ll react badly. But yeah, good point.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i think he thinks i will. Yesterday i probably would have 😂 but today I don't know im more open to the idea.

[Opinion Owner]

Go for it girl. Talk to him about it.

[DizzyDesii]

I can't tell him i know though. Im trying to let him tell me

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok. I hope he does tell you. Can’t you just tell him you heard from somebody? Not like you were stalking him or anything.

[Wiredone]

My 2 kids are enough for me

[DizzyDesii]

So if you were single, you wouldn't date a single mom

[Wiredone]

Honestly, I don't think so.

[Tomisworthless]

This woman I've been talking to here and there has 5 kids

[DizzyDesii]

And you're content?

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

I might put up with one or two for a short term thing but I wouldn't go long term with any kids.

[iron_ninjs]

1, maybe 2.
Two tops.

[Woyboy]

Any number would be fine

[DizzyDesii]

Even 12?

[Woyboy]

Yes I don't see any issues

[BradleyScheff]

Zero. Not dating anyone with kids.

[jahaims]

I wouldn't date someone with kids.

[Kelly6]

@DizzyDesii won't mind at all

[Honestboobman]

There is no benefit of dating a woman who has kids

[Agape93]

One.