How many kids does one have to have for you to NOT date them?

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All the kids are under 5 years of age as well.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I don't care how much kids he has, as long as they accept me as their father new partner. If they don't I would probably rethink the relationship.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Some people struggle to look after themselves, let alone someone with kids.  I am not one of those people!

Avicenna · Answer

no single moms fitting that description. Only women with adult kids who aren't living with her anymore and aren't financially dependent on her.

CozyCoffin · Answer

Depends on how she got there. There's a difference between a woman that went with her childhood sweetheart, had some kids with her and died, a woman that got knocked up by various men she knew were stupid decisions, and a woman that had several marriages - one that her parents forced her into that nearly killed her and the next that slowly became an alcoholic that beat her.

I'd also consider looking at the way she treats the co-parent if there's only one. Sometimes, things don't work out very well with one person. I wouldn't mind being with a woman that had one or two kids where she had joint custody with him.

Two phrases that would immediately make me not interested are “My kids always come first,” or “my kids are my world.” They tell me that I will always be a distant, last place priority in her life.

Then, another thing that would drive me away is if she just lets them run wild. I don't deal with that.

I would want some kids of my own, so if she's not willing to have any more, I'd be gone.

I can deal with an instant family that could become a mixed family.

I don't care if I get labeled a cuck for this, but I've met some guys who became step dads and had a couple kids with that single mom they courted.

razelove · Answer

It honestly depends on what I want out of her, just physical or more. If it's more than physical I wouldn't take a woman who has kids with someone else seriously.

There just isn't any impetus to move forwards, and she already had kids and broke up with/divorced someone else.

What is the motivation for me to have kids with her? And on her end how stoked would she be to drop that birth control again.

It would be the end goal of a relationship, but still, one I don't see jumping into with someone that already has kids.

beebella · Answer

Selfishly, I would prefer if they didn't have any kids because I want to have my own kids, but I don't really want to be a stepmom. I'm already a part of a blended family and I feel like there's a lot of pressure that comes with being a step-parent.

That being said, at my age, it's going to be hard to find someone who doesn't already have kids and if they have more than 2, they're probably not going to want anymore kids (and as I previously stated, I want kids).

So, if they have more than 2 kids, I might be hesitant to date them.

Bricealan · Answer

My wife had FOUR kids when we met... but did THAT deter me? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... I went right ahead and married her.

As it worked out, I did not kill any of her kid, and I avoided being shot, stabbed, bombs, being push off of high buildings and RAT poison... so it all worked out, Coach.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Kids were never really part of my plan, but for the right person, I wouldn’t let kids stand in the way. I think I’m just better suited to be an uncle than a dad, lmao. But life is unpredictable, all you can do is follow your heart and see where you end up.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well, when I was single, had never before been married I would never have dated a woman with any kids at all or a woman who had ever been married.

Now that I have kids. If I were to become a widower, for example, most of the women I'd be dating would probably have kids so I'd date them now. Probably no more than 2.

I doubt I'd marry again so dating is all I'd do.

puurikke · Answer

It's all about the single mom. Can she only talk about her kids? Not for me. Can't she support herself? Very sad, but to be honest not for me. I don't feel like the kids I might raise in the future should be mine. I can raise other peoples children if they let me.

And be honest, you are talking about dating. If she has time for me and she's nice..

wolfcat87 · Answer

I think 2 would be the max. Preferably 0, because I want my kids to get all the attention and resources, and more kids means less for everyone. But, 2 with two parents still involved in their lives is responsible and reasonable. If they are a single parent with no other help, then 1 for the same reasons. If I ever want to have kids with them, then 0, because 1 kid per person. I've gotten close to guys with 2 kids who had vasectomies.

magiusX26 · Answer

hypothetical for me here since i refuse to date at all, as many on here already know. 1 is too many for me. pretty much most of the common reasons why, want any children to be my biological own, baby daddy drama and the issues that arise from not being bio dad.

Apple1996 · Answer

Any amount of kids is fine. If I ever became single it'd be ideal for me to date a single mom

LadyKitty · Answer

If i was single and dating, It wouldn't put me off to date someone who has kids since I have a son myself.

Kaamraj · Answer

If by dating you mean sexual then sure men should do this as long as it's not too much of a labor but men shouldn't commit to women who have had kids. Yes there are a few exceptions. I think the west is the only place where this is entertained.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm still at the age where I'd prefer the girl I'm dating does not have kids at all. And ideally I'd like only kids of my own

mentallybroken0420 · Answer

One kid is fine by me cause I wanna have some kids to hopefully and would prefer for them not to have so many... like 5 kids or more is max

LazerBean · Answer

As long as I don't have kids, I wouldn't date someone with kids.

Minahh · Answer

Def not dating someone with kids. Recently got to know this man who has a kid from first marriage, divorced, has a second marriage and is divorcing because he cheated on his pregnant wife. I was SPEECHLESS.

sawno · Answer

One kid, leaves space for one of my own and then still be an ideal amount of children.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I care less about number than age. If she has three in college that beats a 2-year-old

katiesmuff · Answer

I couldn't look at it like that. Much would have to do with the group as a whole.

aceleon · Answer

only possible way for me to have a relationship with a woman with kids is her having daughters that is old enough to date me and having all of them, otherwise i'm not doing the dating single mother thing.

SotiCoto · Answer

I wouldn't knowingly fuck a lady who had STDs... and kids are STDs.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I had a relationship with a woman that had 3 kids. The youngest was 3

Anonymous · Answer

It is not the number of children that a single mother has, its how they became a single mother. If she became a single mother through the loss of her husband by illness or a fatal accident the I would consider a relationship, possibly leading to marriage, but if she is a single mother because she didn't/could not be bothered to use birth control then I'd avoid her completely.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I don't know, I haven’t really thought about meeting someone with kids. I have one baby though.

Fxjjxhhccbgcfccc · Answer

759 Thank God you posted another one of your usual amazing questions. I was beginning to think you had left the site. And what a pity this would be

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just date? I do not care as long as crazy baby daddy drama is not part of it.

Paul09 · Answer

I rather none. But I'll probably may accept 1. Dont want too much baggage.

The_Canddyman · Answer

Number of kids matters, but so does how many different partners those kids are with. Like someone with 3 kids and 3 different partners? RUN... you never know the situation if one partner but with 3 that's just ignoring the facts if you stay.

Berethor · Answer

Even at 36 I don't want to date any single mom, too much baggage.

NathanDavis · Answer

36 kids

EmpressAJ · Answer

I’d rather not date someone with children due to past experiences. Especially since I’m not a parent myself

Anonymous · Answer

Kids are expensive and generally a step parent has a very hard time with unruly children that are not theirs. It's also common for the rebellious birth parent to pose problems in the future.

DextroShade · Answer

She can't have more kids than I do. Since I currently have zero, she can't have any either.

Anonymous · Answer

I want to be the only one he has babies with

genericname85 · Answer

i'm not that desparate to be with someone.

msc545 · Answer

Kids are fine - I love kids!

nastyb · Answer

no single dads, please

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

One obviously 😃

Dargil · Answer

Two by the same man she was married to

worldscolide · Answer

Big fat zero coach

douride2 · Answer

Only if the kids are grown up & left home.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I don't care

dolemite58 · Answer

Any at all

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