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I read a research paper today explaining how people naturally are more drawn to things that are rare and/or require effort to acquire, thus making it more valuable, and don't see something that's easily acquired as anything worthwhile.

Which is a principle that has also been adopted in the dating world I think. People who act, or simply are, hard-to-get, seem more interesting to people because they will naturally be drawn to this person because it would actually mean something to make this person interested in you. You'd have to earn it.

Which brings me to my question. Would you personally see yourself generally being more attractive to that nonchalant guy, who doesn't really pay attention to people, minds his own business but is charismatic and intriguing at the same time in the limited conversations that you have with him, or would you prefer that bubble, positive happy guy, who likes to talk, is generally the center of attention and gives you a bunch of compliments?

We've all seen it in movies, flipping the hair as in a means to flirt, or show they're interested in a person be it intentionally or subconsciously.

Anything behind it other than just the hair in the way?

Had a lady do it to me while at a drive-thru, normally I would have never given it a second thought, but she followed it up with some "free stuff" and said, it's "for being so nice to me all the time." I've not been any nicer or different to her than any other employees there; they're all great. But It made me think of all the funny movie and tv show scenes. I'm not even interested or looking for advice. Just input.