Hi guys, I want outside advice. I went for dinner with someone who was just a friend. basically, I’m wondering if he’s just not interested in me and just a genuinely nice person because after the “date/dinner” he hasn’t really initiated any contact or things for a second date. More details below:
over the last couple of years I was sure he’s been interested in me, but I was with other people so didn’t really chase back. We went out for dinner/caught up last Tuesday and it was like amazing. So many laughs, he pulled out my chair for me, paid for everything, even thought me how to use a fork/knife properly and held my hand when doing so (long story). The main reason we caught up tho was bc I mentioned I was stressed with life stuff (which is why I’m uncertain if he’s just being nice) and he mentioned I can talk to him and he immediately met me the next day (came to my job and everything).
he told me to let him know I got home after but I fell asleep so I texted him the next morning. I said it was fun etc, then he gave me more life advice (we had a really personal conversation), and I said we should do this again. And he just said “I agree”. Since then he hasn’t initiated any text messages. I just said things like “have a safe trip” (he was traveling shortly after) then I told him I failed an exam I was stressed out and he gave me more life advice (offering very insightful long message which was really nice). Then he posted something about being under the weather so I replied and said are you okay, and he said “yea I’m recovering”, which I don't know what that implies, and I said lmk if you want to talk and he just liked my message.
Everything has been like me initiating/finding ways to talk to him. I’m afraid to ask him out again bc I asked him out first. Despite how great it went should I assume he’s not interested if he hasn’t initiated texts/asked to hang out again since. Given I don't know if he just busy/down from what he posted.
