He didn't text after the first date?

[Sarah620]

so, I met a guy through friends and my friends set me up with him. He lives 2 hours away and he got my number through my friends and contacted me. We text for a week and we decided to meet. He does works a lot and he is pretty busy but he would text me in the morning or evenings when he was less busy. So, during we met and which he drove to my city and was really polite. I was trying to ask what he wants to do but he would keep telling me "its up to you". We spend 2 hours talking. I took my credit card out to pay for both of us since he came to visit me but he didn't let me pay and he paid all.
I thanked him and we left.

That evening I texted him that I had a great time and thanking him again to which replied he is glad that I had fun. It has been 5 days now and he didn't even text me. He watches my stories on social media but won't initiate the text? Should I delete him and move on?

Move on

Keep him just in case

[SueShe]

Looks like he got cold feet and that he realizes that there are too many potential issues.

First, the fact that you live so far apart is a big deterrent for a starting relation. Then, the fact that he works a lot is also something that is speaking against a serious relation. At this stage, he is likely to prioritize his work over a girl that he was set up with.

The fact that he did not return your text is indicative that he hesitant at best but more likely not willing to get into a relation.

Give it a last try and if you don't get anything back within 24 hours, move on. He is a lost case. Do it as long as nothing serious has happened. This will be much easier on you.

[Sarah620]

He did return my text after and said he is glad that I had fun. After that he didn't initiate any text and I didn't bother either.

[SueShe]

Then it looks as if both are not really into each other to the extend to want to keep this starting relation alive.

Just let it go and find someone that values you to be active in building up a relation.

[Paris13]

Text to see How He is Doing? If it Seems Positive, He may not Want to go Out right away and spend More Money, honey, Although no Excuse NOT to Text. Keep his Number for now. Feel him out. xx

[Sarah620]

I am not asking him to hang out lol. At least get know me thought text. I am an independent women, I don't mind paying for both of us like taking turns.

[Sarah620]

Woman*

[Paris13]

lol No, NOT to ask That but to see How He is? Feel him OUT. xx

[Paris13]

*Ahhh. xx

[Sarah620]

Is it even worth it? Plus he seemed quite arrogant, don't want him to become more snobbish.

[Paris13]

Ohh Arrogant? Yikes!!! That is even Worse. Maybe Move on... You seem way Too Good. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx

[Dougzy]

wow, I never knew how unengaged women are He has taken the invitation for you to use your initiative, If you don`t understand what your next move is and here you are procrastinating. You will have dating problems all your life. And if you don`t understand this statement then: I will leave there and find out what your next move is

[Sarah620]

But, don't you think it should his move? If wanted to continue he could at least text instead of watching my social media stories?

[Dougzy]

Let me explain it another way. I take a girl she tells that she has had a fantastic time, The next thing I will do is wait to see if she contacts me. Or not lets me know the next move < I not sure about the social media watching don`t spend any time on it and if I was dating still wouldn`t look but that part is just me

[Sarah620]

He has time for social media and and talking to other girls but not a few minds to text me? Before the date, he would text me and I would text back. If he has time to talk to other girls, then he sure has time to send a quick text. He made all the moves before we met, so what's stopping him now? When I said I had a great time, he didn't even said he had great time too. All he mentions that he is glad that I had a great time. It's common courtesy to say that he enjoyed the date. I was so sweet to him during the date. But, he still views my stories and not even saying hi just annoys me. As a woman, that's not what I am looking for a guy. Pick the damn phone and call me, why play the games.

[Dougzy]

You are so funny, he is social proofing, and you are truly displaying the characteristics of someone that is used to getting their own way. Now because your not you don`t like it. I may be wrong but it sounds like you are used to puppies rolling over to have their tummies rubbed for good behavior. Ah so now what the game is not in your court what to do no really acknowledgment from him that he liked it! ensuring that you notice him on social media talking to other women seems that you have met a match if I am right about you of course. You remind me of a girl I fell I love with. This the first time it has ever happened to you! hmm what`s next? ( i will tell you this he is creating desire I done a post on this somewhere

[Sarah620]

Oh really? Creating desire? I don't want him to fall in love or be a puppy to me. All I am asking is that if he doesn't like me, buzz off and stop watching my social media. I deleted him by the way. But maybe you could send the link of your post so I can read it?

[Dougzy]

I really get worried about the types of guys you ladies date, just really sounds like there is a massive amount of non-intimancy going on! this is obviously just my opinion.
A man's role is to charm
Charm creates desire
Desire creates need
Need creates want
Want creates have
The question should be I have met a really nice guy do you think that I should have sex with him before the 3rd date? Raise your self-image and have what you want! My philosophy if I have to ask I am doing something wrong

[t-8900]

why dont you initiate the text and see whats up? some guys believe that if they text first that the opposite is true, that women aren't interested. Not saying thats the case but I remember hearing people give that advice to me on more than one occasion.

[Sarah620]

I did initiate after the date that night that I had a great time. He did replied which was he was "glad". Then nothing happened. I thought maybe he could do the next move since I thanked him for his kind gestures. Bit, I didn't hear anything from him despite being in social media watching my stories.

[Dreamy2020]

Its called "orbiting", when they don't pursue you irl, but watches all of your stories. They are curious and might even be a little bit interested, but not enough to reach out. But it is really hard for strangers on the internet to know what he is really thinking. People are complicated. Just ask him out on a date, nothing wrong with that.

[Tunasub]

Maybe he is busy. Cod be that he doesn't want to seem pushy. Do your day to day things and just wait... not wait on him though. If he calls ok, if not then keep it moving.

[Sarah620]

If he has time to watch my stories, he sure does have time to send a quick text, don't you think?

[Tunasub]

Correct! Well in that case. Fuck him... his loss, right?

[Sarah620]

Lol, true. Not worthed

[Tunasub]

Good luck...👍🏾

[SphynxUK]

He could be waiting for you to initiate a meeting. It’s not always up to the man to chase.
You could suggest a meet up, and if he doesn’t get back to you, his loss.

[Sarah620]

You think so, so you are saying I should text him and ask him out?

[Sarah620]

He used to text me once or twice every day before the date. He went silent after the date. He was pretty awkward to be honest.

[Nephilim000]

It's so easy to stay in touch these days if he was interested in your he would make some overt action to let you know

[Avicenna]

Move on. Thats ridiculous.

[Sarah620]

I know, that's what I thought too. But it's strange that he still watches my stories?

[Avicenna]

Communication is essential, especially when you're getting to know someone. That actually makes it worse because he had time to text you real quick and didn't.

[Sarah620]

True, I totally agree. If he isn't contacting the n he isn't interested.

[Avicenna]

Quite true

[In_Trance]

move on. He's not interested

[Sarah620]

Thanks

[scott04sa22]

Move on...