He cut the date short and didn’t text again? Is he simply not interested?

[Anonymous]

we Went bowling and we had more plans but he randomly went to toilet and said that his friend needed his help whatever and then he left and date lasted an hour, no text afterwards? He didn’t even drop me off, does he have a girlfriend or he’s simply not interested

[Anpu23]

A couple of possible scenarios, one you just weren't hitting it off and he wasn't interested in continuing the date, and has no interest in continuing contact. He received a text that he excused himself to check because he felt it was rude to check his phone while with you. The text was an actual emergency and he had to go and deal with it, and he's still dealing with whatever and you aren't the focus right now. Think sitting in the hospital with a sick friend. One way he'll text you apologizing the other your done. If you text ut won't change the situation if he's not interested he'll probably blow you off if it's an actual emergency he'll probably be busy and won't contact you for a moment.

[jman2020]

It could be either / or. Best bet is to just try again and move on. Sorry that happened to you.
Im an honest person when it comes to dating. If I feel you're not right for me, I'll let you know in a nice easy way and end it then. But I could never make up a lie and ditch someone. Good luck and happy endings to come!

[Cynicaldreamer]

Yeah, he's not interested, sorry anon.

It sounds like he wasn't feeling it, or lost interest in you. So rather than tell you, he made up an excuse to cut the date early.

If he was genuinely interested or wanted to get to know you more, he would have called or texted you to reschedule or ask to see you again.

In other words? Call it a loss.

[Ladyluck28]

so sorry this happen. All I can say is from what you have said. he isn't worth your time again. only he can truly tell you why he did what he did. but the fact it was rude and he could of dealt with it better. if more than two days go by and you don't here from him. move on to someone that will at least finish and date and make plans for another

[ChronicThinker]

He wasn't interested or, he shit himself.

[MusicMayhem]

Don't think that girls don't do this too.
But as a guy he had extra motivation to cut the date short as he didn't want to spend more money on a girl he knew he wasn't going to see again for the second part of the date. He obviously saw enough of you to know you two aren't a match.

Just think about what you could do better in the future to give yourself every chance of being able to choose which guys you want to go on a second date with.

[Exterminatore]

I think you’re spot on.

[Screenwriter]

Wow. Date lasted an hour and he made up something about a friend needing him. Unless his friend was heading to the hospital, that sounds like bullshit. No text on top of all that. Not interested. Don't wait around. He was extremely cowardly and rude. Should've just said thanks, but we're not well matched.

[Bman4907]

That is the fake emergency tactic that should have told you there will be no second date. There was no real emergency, he just didn't have the courage to say, "i'm sorry, i don't think we're a good fit."

I've had this bullshit happen twice since I started dating. I thought only women played this bullshit game. I'm sorry he did this to you.

[Anonymous]

That’s messed up sorry to hear that happened to you. Be graceful he showed you who he was before you got too invested or in your feelings about him.
He wasn’t interested, didn’t know how to man up and say so, so he took the cowardly way out. You’ll find someone much better!

[Rei13]

Definitely not interested. Which is okay. Call it a loss and go for the next one. It is better that it ended versus him wasting your time when it wasn’t going to go anywhere anyways

[HayleyMarie]

He’s sounds like he’s not interested, sorry. Try not to take it personally, you just weren’t for him. Move on to the next! Don’t let it discourage you.

[BigPPEnergy]

As sad as it may be, this is a real thing men do. It probably isn't your fault so don't feel bad, he might have thought that things weren't working out and so he made the decision to leave without upsetting you.

[little_bird1]

Not only men, many people do this. I simply don't understand... I had a guy who I was dating for a month and then he just disappeared. Do people not breakup anymore?

[Exterminatore]

Definitely not a good sign. Sounds uninterested. For what it’s worth I used to do this with girls I knew weren’t going to make the cut. No sense in spending more time and money on someone I don’t see a future with.

[Darcia]

If he made excuses to leave you hanging mid date that means he doesn’t deserve you and you should find someone better.

[lastsentinel]

Well, that's unfortunate, but yeah it seems like he's not interested if he totally ghosts you like that.

[razzamatazzp01]

There may be another girl, or he may not be interested. I don't think it matters. What matters is the way you are treated.

[ArnoldClark]

What a spineless dick. Move on, don't waste any more of your time or energy on people like this. Big shame but you dodged a bullet it seems.

[AbleLearner]

Sounds like a real jerk. Probably not worth your time anyway.

[serious]

Yes, if that happens then then that is a clear sign of disrespect and him not being interested.

[dmgstarfleet]

yes to both questions and the answer may BE both (they are not mutually exclusive).

[mishelu]

Fuck off, he is an idiot ok you has nothing to do with you, you are perfect is his lost just forget and don’t loss hope on love

[soleil2666]

Are minors allowed on this site? Is the content not adults-only?

[luvstoned4him]

thats strange

he owes you first an apology and or an explanation.

[proteus912]

I think that's a clear sign of not wanting to see you again. Don't wait for him and just move on

[ForteExe]

He sounds like a girl tbh. That sounds like something I've only heard of girls doing, but that's definitely an "I'm not interested" move.

[ForteExe]

Very immature if you ask me

[Amaryllis__96]

Yea I agree that was immature

[soleil2666]

I've done it a few times just so we can be equal

[ForteExe]

Equally immature?

[soleil2666]

Entirely immature. But it is a hassle free way out - you don't have to explain yourself and all that

[ForteExe]

I suppose

[soleil2666]

Equal permission to be immature - once parents raise their little girls less permissively and with more responsibility to fellow humans, then we all start to play nicely. I haven't raised them, so can't take the blame

[TheAteam1978]

One of 3 things..
1) He sharted his pants and had to leave and is embarrassed.
2) He has a girlfriend and might have scene one of her friends.
3) it was a horrific date.

[ask4any]

Probably just his cowardly way of saying thanks, but no thanks, and moved on. Don't sound like you lost much and if that's how he handles situations, you don't want him anyway.

[Browneye57]

It would seem he bailed on you. Pretty chicken-shit, but reality nonetheless.
NEXT!!

[Exterminatore]

I don’t think it’s chicken shit but rather makes tactile sense. I remember when I was dating... at first I used to take girls for coffee. My logic was why spend 5 hours and $100-$200 bucks on a night out with a girl I don’t know I’m even going to like. Better to do that over $10 worth of coffee and that date can be extended or ended as need be.

However I used to get the feeling girls disapproved a lot of coffee for a first date. My Thoughts were doesn’t matter the cost, if she likes me she shouldn’t care. Anyway I decided on a different method. In order to not get the evil eye as if I’m cheap, I’d plan out a first date with dinner and some other activity. I’d eat before the date and just get a salad to keep costs low. If I liked the girl we went on the 2nd part of the date. If not I had an “urgent” phone call or text sent from a friend and ended the date there.

When you’re single and seeing 2-5 different girls at a time which I was, dating gets expensive and time consuming. I had to find a way to limit costs. One could easily blow $400 or so a week on seeing different girls.

So I think what this guy did makes sense. Nothing wrong with keeping costs low when you’re the one paying, especially on a girl who isn’t going to make the cut.

[Browneye57]

@Exterminatore - I surely can't disagree. In fact, that's my 'first date' recommendation - coffee. And it doesn't matter who pays then. Either way, after an hour or so you get up and leave, for you have places to go and people to see.
If they're actually worth dating you can set up a real date. If not, not much is at gamble.

[soleil2666]

@Exterminatore I see the logic in that - never liked it, but then once a woman bails out on you sneakily, you start to think 'well, hey, I can do that same thing'

[Exterminatore]

@browneye

That’s another reason I always liked coffee. Can keep it short, whether or not you like them. Save time if you don’t like them, or leave them wanting more if you do.

[Exterminatore]

@Soleil2666

Yeah... but the do it. Never been done to me, but they do do that.

My whole thing is I’m old school. I pay. If I’m paying and I’m not that into a girl, I’m gonna save my $. Back when I was single I was almost always seeing multiple girls at a time. Took my time in figuring out which ones to keep. Never rushed into anything, but dating costs money and seeing a few girls gets expensive. Why waste $ on a prospect you know ain’t gonna make the cut?

[Browneye57]

@Exterminatore - You think dating is costly, trying marrying and divorcing. My last divorce ran right about a half-mil. Yeah, by the time I got done paying child support it was up to about $485K.

People ask why divorce is so expensive, and the answer is BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT!!

[soleil2666]

@Browneye57 You've just beaten at least the last 10 years of all the advice I have heard together, if not longer. You've totally betrayed your generation by doing so, by the way 🤣

[Exterminatore]

@browneye

Bahahaha - because it’s worth it. Too funny.

[muaythailover365]

Just my oponion, but you're worth more than that to any good man! Only thing I could think of was he had an easier exit out of a situation. I say sit there and there might be things in common afterall.

[Tommy2017]

You did or said sth that completely turned him off.
Am sorry just forget about him my dear, it happens.

[redted]

Sorry that happened! I'd move on since he has zero decency and its good you didn't get too involved with him either. Thank you next is what I say

[Pejtu]

Yeah he did run the fuck away
He is not interrested 100%

[TantraSerge]

My guess is he decided he wasn't into you and choose to just make up an excuse to go away...

[TheFlak38]

not interested. you must have done something that really turned him off.

[DiscomfortZone]

Obviously not interested. Perhaps something you did to push him away?

[soleil2666]

Could be that, could be some other issue. Sorry it went that way for you.

[GayLoner]

you're leaving out key details about what you did, your personality and how u look. But yeah seems he didn't want to waste any more time on you

[ForteExe]

I can see that stuff being necessary to answer the question of "why he's not interested", but not sure why that's relevant to the question "is he disinterested?"

[GayLoner]

@ForteExe she probably opened up more, got annoying, maybe clingy and he got that impression and knew to just end it when he did. clearly knew something because here she is asking why lol

[ForteExe]

I mean, it's highly likely going by the state of girls today but I don't think that's what she's asking. It sounds to me like you gave the appropriate response to a different question.

[GayLoner]

@ForteExe yeah im slow sorry

[ForteExe]

Lol don't sweat it dude.

[Swansir66]

Sounds like a wimpy way of him showing he's simply not interested. I'm sorry that happened, but keep your head up and stay positive ☮️

[Anonymous]

girlfriend or wife. Or he just said fuck it and left. I wouldn't lose sleep over it

[Anonymous]

Definitely not interested, and he acted like a douche nozzle in the process. Next!

[MrDarling420xx]

Sounds like he bailed sorey shiity situation for u to b in!

[Anonymous]

He was not Interested. He would have texted you after with an explanation. Move on.

[maxmoody1986]

That's what I would do.

[Pamina]

Sounds very much like he wasn't into you enough.

[CarrieLee]

I can see why he ghosted you. No offense

[Asker]

Whyyyy

[Anonymous]

You'll never know until you confront him but you shouldn't waste your time on him.

[jgokgotit]

At the least he is not interested.

[Drumlin2001]

Sounds like he's not interested

[douride2]

Sounds like it's over to me.

[COMMODOREII]

Wow im not sure i would try to contact him again

[Hazelstar]

He's not interested. Sorry.

[bklynbadboy1]

Yeah if I was you I'd move on it his loss

[rockrewls]

Sounds like he is not interested to me.

[Binthere]

He doesn't like you. Forget about him.

[Marina226]

His loss

[JamesRandiDebates]

You bored him.

[Jmmmfi4]

Doesn't sound good

[joejoe1988]

Nope