Was my date out of my league? he stopped messaging me?

[Anonymous]

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Was I punching?

He is out of your league

He not out of your league

[bobalife]

If someone is gonna go on a date with you esp if it’s a guy, it must mean he finds you attractive. Never put yourself in that way that someone is out of your league because you’re literally putting your value/worth in someone’s else hands. Like I know I’m not the prettiest or best shape girl, but if someone I went on date (s) with didn’t continue to pursue me… I’d question and doubt myself abit especially if there’s no answer, but I will remind myself that there’s someone else who would appreciate me for me and what did I learn from this experience. Change your narrative.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Leagues stuff is BS. This guy is nothing special. Either you like each other or you don't, the rest is crap. If he doesn't message you, it's because he's using fuckboy tactics like ignoring you to make you insecure so when he breezes back into your dms, you're so thrilled for a second chance. If he's not texting, consider yourself lucky and go date someone who isn't a Tinder fuckboy.

[Asker]

I liked him and he said he liked me. But he would text for days or plan a date and always said he had plans/was busy :( it makes me soo anxious dating him

[Asker]

Wouldn’t *

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He's counting on that so when he reappears, you'll do anything to keep him interested, then he'll sleep with you and ghost.

[bobalife]

Lol damn… ^ I must agreed with him, he’s always right ok, okkk😆 honestly no one is worth it if they’re gonna leave you hanging. Not really relationship material. Reconsider what you’re looking for and if he actually fits it.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Thanks for mh

[MementoMori777]

I wouldn't say league was the problem, shit just happens I guess

[Asker]

Found him online on tinder while we were dating. He even updated his profile :(

[Asker]

Was he too good looking for me?

[Asker]

Cause I think he saw me as an easy target maybe

[MementoMori777]

Did you have sex with him?

[MementoMori777]

Asking in a non weird or creepy way of course

[Asker]

Oral only. We were dating for 2 months

[Asker]

Why?

[Asker]

We only did it once though

[Asker]

And then he started texting me even less and less

[MementoMori777]

Damn, he used you for sex, sorry

[MementoMori777]

Or "benefits"

[MementoMori777]

Now if I read these types of people right, he will come back at some point if he has no other options and he will try manipulating you again

[Asker]

Once? And that’s it? Is that enough for guys

[MementoMori777]

Yea, there's guys that just wrecklessly sleep with women, or test or try out women just to see how different women feel, it's a life of lust, they care about their pleasure and not giving a shit that they destroy your feelings in the process

[Asker]

That’s sad. I really liked him as well :( I had to break it off with him because he wouldn’t text me for days and would never plan another date. Didn’t see him for 2 weeks. Said he’s going hiking and that he was too tired to go on a date after that. He was always busy. I wanted to believe him but surely if you like someone you would try to see them right?

[Asker]

I started become the person messaging first.

[MementoMori777]

Don't feel ashamed or guilty because it already happened, just learn from the experience and move on, I recommend not being so easy next time, even if you haven't had much male attention and you want it badly, it shouldn't be worth you being treated this way, I wish it didn't go this way cause you seem very nice and innocent and people like this ruin people like you, just be careful with the wolves in sheep's clothing. 💯🙏

[Asker]

I just wanted attention from him. We only did that 6 weeks into dating. Which I do regret :( but I did like him. How am I innocent? I’m 24 ..

[MementoMori777]

Innocent as in good heart and beautiful soul, I don't know how you took it but that's most likely not how I meant it, if attention is worth it to you then I'm no one to stop you but my words stand.

[Asker]

I haven’t had much make attention? Do I look that ugly to you?

[MementoMori777]

No you just seem a bit desperate if ima be honest, you gave a man oral after a few dates most likely ignoring all the red flags, let's not forget you were also questioning your appearance not too long ago, I remember faces easily, the anonymous option can't hide a face from my observation skills, you just questioned your appearance just now when I told you that you don't get much male attention, low self esteem can lead to desperation, you are probably going to get offended by this as well when that's not my intentions but I can't control what I think and I have never cared about speaking the truth on my mind and I'm not gonna stop now

[Asker]

Yeah I’m very desperate for male attention because I don’t get any because im not good enough for relationships or men. Im worried im getting old and that’s why im worried I will die alone. It’s embarrassing but it’s true. Im a pathetic person

[MementoMori777]

You see that, that is a destructive mentality, if you keep thinking this way, that's what you'll attract, the devil hears you speak and he uses it against you, I don't believe anything on that message, cause you seem very capable of finding love and a guy worth your time and effort and a guy worth your sexual intimacy and love because you are a very beautiful woman as well, falling for these traps will just make you feel worse, they are just simply not worth your time, they are attractive but that only gets you so far, hense the saying wolves in sheep's clothing, they look good but are a monster inside, don't let this effect you negativity, use it to effect you positively, let it build character, have a form of guard up, you'll be fine 🙂💯

[Asker]

How do I seem very cable of finding love? If anything I seem very much the opposite. 24 no relationship ever, never been asked out in real life. Failed on tinder. Used. Desperate. No male attention. I wanted him because he looked good to me but he didn’t want me enough because he is too good for me. I’m not beautiful clearly because I can’t find a man. Is he that much better than me?

[MementoMori777]

With your attitude and self hatred and low self esteem, you'll chase them away, how do you expect someone else to love you when you don't even love yourself? I feel like you have to hear this cause it's lowkey destroying you mentally, you have to stop feeling pity for yourself and improve yourself cause you have a lot of work to do mentally, you have to find self love and positivity in yourself, forget about everyone else rn, you aren't the only one to struggle with a soulmate, people nowadays just don't seem to care about morals, you aren't the problem, they are but you let all that effect you negatively and start blaming yourself because the other person is fucked up and that can eventually make you the problem as well because they you start mentally torturing yourself and negativity spreads weither you realize it or not, your negative emotions towards yourself can effect someone's mood, you gotta find yourself, you gotta stop treating yourself like a piece of shit because your life and existence is just as valuable as mine, we all have a purpose no matter if you realize it or not, you want to find love and a relationship, I know you will, but you have to find peace of mind first.

[shades777]

you each otherd league attraction wise, I think your slightly more attractive but thats a good thing, when the guy is more attractive everyone always ask why he pick than average looking woman.

[Anonymous]

Is he rich? does he have a high power job? hard to say from pictures alone.

[Asker]

He’s not that rich. He has a great job I think. He works a lot. I’m just a teacher. He says he works so much but I found him online on tinder while we were dating so I don’t think he was really interested/satisfied with me. So that’s why I think maybe he was out of my league

[JustMeL120]

he's just a dick

[VikingWarLord]

you look like brother and sister wtf

[Boomchakalaca]

50/50