I told my date I was actually 8 years older than I put on a dating app - he hasn't texted in 3 days? Is he not interested anymore?

[Anonymous]

I thought we had a good time... he ended up unmatching me but he still has my number - should I reach out or is it clear he is not interested in me.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think that’s because you lied
I think he wants a specific age range
Was he younger than you? That’s probably that’s what it is


And well yeah I think it’s ok and what ever to message him something because you don’t need to be ashamed of anything if this is over that it’s over so no hurt to try right !
If you message him be smart don’t be real yeah I lied just say that you created the app randomly you didn’t think you would connect with him and so at first you didn’t think much if it., and that your sorry if he stopped because if you age mistake because you didn’t think much if it at first because it was a pure mistake

[Asker]

you're very sweet and I really appreciate this response... he wasn't, he was actually around my age, but I look really young and I didn't get to explain that I was trying to break into the entertainment industry where most entertainers fabricate their age any way :-(

[Summeroflove]

Yeah you lied to him. Someone lies especially something of that magnitude I’m out

[abc3643]

You lied. You can't be trusted. Thus, you are worthless to a man.

[abc3643]

Consider reaching out. Any update on this situation?

[Asker]

Thank you, but what should I say - happy new year? I dont want to come off desperate and leave a bad impression, then again I dont mind being friends also? What should I do? Thank you ABC :)

[abc3643]

Do you have New Year's Eve plans? If not, asking him what he is doing and, if nothing, consider asking him to go out. The mere fact that you are asking him about such plans conveys to him a sense of "still interested if you are".

[Asker]

you are amazing, but this guy unmatched me after the date so I figure he's not interested and I dont want to look bad - ty so much I really do appreciate this <3

[LazerBean]

Most people don't want a liar.

[BarryLiverstone]

Tough call. What did they say when you told them?

[Asker]

All I remember was telling him my age and asking him how old I looked and he said young, but wouldn't tell me how young. I don't know why the age thing matters when he does look older than me and he is my age. I wish things would work out, I felt like this was my 2nd date in a row that went well that didn't move beyond the 1st date. I don't know what I am doing wrong :-(. He also walked me to my car and hugged me, do you do that w/people you are not attracted to? I dont think so - dating is so confusing sometimes :-/

[BarryLiverstone]

It matters because if you lie about your age then what else are you willing to lie about? Is there a reason you put a younger age on your profile?

He likely was acting nice to end the date

[Asker]

Yes, I never got to tell him that I am trying to switch into the entertainment field and a mentor told me I can't reveal my real age or it would ruin future opportunities for me, especially when I could pass for being in my 20's - I'm in my 30's... but have been told I look really young. Ty for your honest advise, I do feel horrible, but it is my fault. :-/// Merry Christmas too. Your honest feedback was a great gift to me.

[BarryLiverstone]

Merry Christmas, best to be honest even in the entertainment industry.