How to let a guy know?

[Anonymous]

I like a guy from my church, he is really nice but i don't know if he's interested. How do I let him know I am interested without making it too obvious if he is just being friendly? How do I get him to ask me out?

[Summeroflove]

Well. You should just ask him out. You’ll be fine. You can flirt by smiling or complementing or winking or something.

Just to see if he flirts back.

The problem is. He’s not a mind reader. Sometimes people can think someone is flirting when they’re not or think someone isn’t flirting when they are. Then again you don’t know if someone isn’t flirting back simply because they aren’t interested and after a while it becomes freely annoying and uncomfortable.

So. You can do it. I know it’s hard. You don’t want to be rejected.

Worst thing is. He could reject you….. Then you aren’t sitting around waiting on a guy who is never going to make a move on you.

Plus. If you play around too much and never make a move. He could start liking someone else. Then he talks to her and it’s too late. Or another girl talks to him. Again. You missed your chance at that point.

So. If you flirt and ask him out. This could be your chance. You never know all the places outside of church where he could meet someone

[SnowedIn]

I'd be straightforward. Something like, "hey, do you want to hang out?" and be specific about a day/time/place. (That way neither of you gets caught in the awkward part of who sets what up when.) Better still if you know what he likes. For example, he loves Starbucks. So ask to go get a latte with him. Or he's a Big Mac fan and you guys go to McDonald's. I'd focus on spending time with him: that will communicate the interest loud and clear.

[Asker]

yea, we hang out Saturday. he took me to chilis and bought me ice cream too

[SnowedIn]

:) That's so awesome! That is exactly how my son and his girlfriend began their relationship at our church.

[boggboss]

If u want to let him know it kinf of need to be obvious otherwise it will just be mixed signals lol

[Asker]

Yea i get that, but how do I know if he's just being friendly or flirting

[boggboss]

U just kind of work ot out

[Asker]

yea, ig