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Not too long ago I went on date for the hell of it with a young woman I had very little physical attraction for. But I treated her well, bought her drinks, engaged in a good conversation and even drove her back to her place.

After some discussion she made a very insulting comment about my haircut a few moments after I dropped her off. Taken aback and pissed off I just said “well fuck you & have a good night” and left. I did nothing to provoke her. I didn’t hit on her.

The next day I sent her a DM saying “that haircut comment was mean”. She responded “you know what you are completely right. You did absolutely nothing to deserve it. I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me”. She then proceeded to literally beg to me (not exaggerating) to go on a second date. She kept going off on how cute I was & everything else.

I told her I felt better that she apologized but I declined. I wished her the best.

I later asked myself (and should have asked her) would she have apologized if she did not find me attractive? I highly doubt it. Her apology wasn’t truly genuine because there was still something in it for her.

The world isn’t fair. It’s obviously easier to mistreat people who are of little or no value to you. It’s like seeing a homeless person. There is virtually nothing they can do for you (and they can be annoying or even dangerous). But would you do something nice for them and do it discreetly (not for optics)?

It is just in my experience especially with dating is that women have a harder time respecting men they don’t find value in.

To a limited extent I can understand they don’t want to give the guy the wrong idea. But once a woman determines a man is of little use to her she feels like it’s okay to disrespect him much more then vice versa

I have been in the reverse position a few times. I won’t bend over backwards for those women. But I won’t ghost or disrespect them either. I will politely turn them down.

So I’ve been texting with this new girl from work for about 2 weeks now. We text every day and the contribution to the conversation is equal (she will text first as much as me, and she will talk as much as I do).

I noticed last night a pattern that I’m concerned with. We will have very brief conversations during the day when I reply to a meme she sent or vice verca, but that’s it. Neither I nor her have ever texted anything like “how are you” to each other to start a conversation. Also with big gaps in time, like she will take an hour to respond, and then of COURSE I have to take an hour to respond too. This is mostly how it is during the day. Subpar.

However at night, really anytime past 7pm, we have a fluent text conversation that might persist for hours. This has been every night for 2 weeks. Suddenly her replies are instant and of course I reciprocate that so it keeps going. Or if she texts first she will just randomly send me something that happened to her or how she’s feeling about something, except only at night! Anyway as I said we both engage in conversation equally, there’s no disparity where one of us is pulling more weight. I’m simply concerned that it looks like she only cares about conversing properly during late hours when she’s bored.

What do you women think, is this a sign that #1 she texts me out of boredom, and #2 she isn’t interested in me?