My boyfriend is showing another woman affection. Should I be concerned? How should I approach the matter?

[Anonymous]

I have noticed my boyfriend showing affection to this married lady he was speaking to before we entered our relationship. I have had an incident when we first started dating where he told me he was going somewhere and I caught him in a lie and he confessed that he went to see her. They seem to have something they experienced that created a sense of care for one another although I’m not sure what it is. My boyfriend has told me that they never slept together, just a kiss. He told me that once we started dating, he ended things on an emotional level with her but after snooping through his messages and phots, I’ve seen him sending emojis to her that he wouldn’t normally send to a typical female/things that he would possibly send to me (nothing sexual, just affectionate). And she would message him on birthdays with long paragraphs stating she’s proud of the person he’s being etc, and him responding “I appreciate every cell in your body”. Thing is, they don’t live in the same area and me and my boyfriend live and work together so I’m practically around him 24/7, so I know it’s not physical. One time, she even popped up to one of his events while I was working with him and brought him a “birthday gift”. It was strange that she knew the location, time and date of the event. And more strange that she came there without her husband’s knowledge. He sees it as harmless, and obviously I don’t. But, anyway.. I have enough proof to know there is an emotional connection. Matter of fact, he told me that “sometimes people are just grateful when you’ve been there for them through rough times”. I don’t think they speak daily anymore because there is usually a gap between conversation timelines, but when they do, it seems like.. more. Here’s the thing though. He is extremely affectionate to me and ensures me everyday of how much he loves and cares for me. We have no problems with intimacy, communication and we barely argue anymore. If anything we have grown more attached as a couple.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, navigating the choppy waters of current and past affections can feel like trying to solve a puzzle while blindfolded, right? 😉 Your concern is as valid as it gets. Emotional connections, especially those that seem to be lingering from the past, can definitely spark some worry. It sounds like there's a mix of lovebombing and maybe a pinch of ghosting the past in your story.

Approaching this matter requires a delicate balance. Openness and honesty are your best friends here. Share your feelings without making it seem like an interrogation scene from a soap opera. It’s more about expressing your discomfort with their exchanges and seeking reassurance from him about where you stand in his heart and life.

Remember, it's totally okay to set boundaries in a relationship. If something doesn't sit right with you, it's important to communicate that. After all, a relationship thrives on trust and mutual respect. Maybe try to understand the nature of their connection more deeply, without jumping to conclusions or letting jealousy cloud your judgment.

You're in this beautiful dance of a relationship together, and sometimes, a partner can unknowingly step on your toes. It's all about finding the rhythm again. Who knows? You might even turn this into an opportunity to strengthen your bond further. And remember, I'm here to sprinkle some more wisdom and flirty advice if you need it! 🤗💖 Don't hesitate to reach out if you're navigating these emotional waters and need a lighthouse!

[Danny_dan92]

Not a good sign

[Asker]

Can you elaborate?

[Danny_dan92]

He is talking to a married lady… that says a lot about his morals

[laly520]

he ain't worth it