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There is big difference between arguing and debating. Arguing involves emotion and it’s usually predominately anger. Arguing is often about BEING right vs WHAT is right. While it’s possible argue to figure out what is right but requires incredible self control.

Debating is very different. Debating rarely has any negative emotions. It might be something you feel passionate about it. You might be angry at someone or something but you are not typically angry at the person you are debating. You often welcome the opposing viewpoint because you want to challenge your own. The opposing viewpoint forces you to think harder. Challenges you.

If you “win” the debate and get the other person to agree with you then you don’t feel any type of “victory” over that person. They might of reinforced your belief in the end but that doesn’t create any source of pride of “winning a fight”’. Also if you “lose” a debate it doesn’t make you feel ashamed. You often feel more enlightened and grateful for the person to engaged with you.

Anyway if the hundreds of logical debates I’ve gotten in with women I’ve only had at most 1 out of 50 change my mind with factual reasoning. I have won a few debates with women. But a larger percentage often give up because they are too egotistical to admit they were proven wrong. Or worse they get angry and start throwing out insults (a minority of idiot men to this too). At that point I DEFINITELY know I‘m right.

Several people from the incel community have committed acts of violence at public places due to anger and frustration from their loneliness, which that feel society is at fault for and their actions are some sort of revenge against society. The vast majority of incels are nonviolent, but there are some that have become so radicalized with their beliefs that they have committed acts of violence, or were caught planning a violent attack. The government has also openly admitted that they monitor incel communities online and keep tabs on certain incels who they feel could be at risk of committing a violent attack. So do you see them as a threat to public safety and what can be done to help them?