What does a soft spot for someone mean and do you ever lost it?

[Jamesdann]

So There is this girl that i am head over heels for her, we hang out, we do things, we had a strong connection, but then she ghosted me, then one day she unblock me, i asked why she did she ghosted me and what makes her to unblock me, she said that i was going too fast and that the reason she unblock me again is because she say she had a soft spot for me and that she misses me, i was left broken, it has drove me to the point of depression and anxiety, but i played it cool and at the same time i tried to protect myself but in reality i don't know what im trying to protect, when im already broken, i even apologized because i thought i did something wrong when she ghosted me, so we talk again for a while, but then she said that i was different not like before, i said of course i have changed, you left me without saying anything, i was devastated, but at the same time, i have missed you a lot, she then became cold again, i reacted upon it out of hurt and anger, she then blocked me because i told her to do it, and she did it without any hesitation, i was testing her i thought she would at least try to say something like i have always shown efforts for her, but she did it instantly, i felt miserable, i called her since she had'nt block me from calling, she tell me that it would never work out and that i am a lunatic, a psychopath, somewhere down the line i feel like i really messed up, do you think she would still have that soft spot for me, or would you still have a soft spot for someone even though things went bad or you don't want to talk to that person anymore?

[Gorgeous09]

To be honest, Being a girl I don't think she's into you. I know this may not be what you want to hear.

But YOU might just NEED to hear it. She's not into you. Girls don't behave this way if they have a soft spot for somebody.

You are rationalising her HOT & COLD behaviour cuz you have feelings for her.

[Jamesdann]

You are right friend, i even thought to myself, if she really had feelings for me or she really misses me or have a soft spot for me like she said, she would'nt be ghosting me in the first place, right and you know the most f up thing is, this is the same person who i had the most memorable time with and later to insult me with hurtful words which she had never even apologized, i mean i know i can't force and apology from someone but damn, if we insulted someone we used to care and love, i think we would have apologized right? i mean we're humans, we're not perfect but at least we value the person that we didn't meant to hurt intentionally, but her, she called me a psychopath twice now

[laly520]

means they have special place in ur heart n u would be more lenient with em

its been like that for some years now, didn't lose it

[Jamesdann]

Thank you for the insight, so you mean like even if there was a fall out or things did'nt work out maybe like a miscommunication ( not cheating ), and you blocked that guy, but eventually you would still have a soft spot for him right?

[laly520]

no
cheating ruins it all

[Jamesdann]

What if it wasn't a cheating relating issue, more like a as in my case " she said i have changed ever since she unblock me or talk to me after ghosting me "

[Akam93]

Sounds like she dosen't have a soft spot at all. Just an ice cold heart.