Search Results: experiences in cheating

Most people have firm beliefs about how often people cheat and which sex cheats more often but I think those opinions are usually based solely on their personal experiences. So let's do a poll on this subject.

I will define cheating as engaging in any behavior which is reasonably calculated to lead to the advancement of a romantic or sexual interest. Holding hands with or kissing someone else is cheating. Meeting them for a romantic dinner is cheating. If it is something that you must hide from your partner and it involves dating/courtship behaviors, it is cheating.

Cheating involves violating a promise or a clearly understood expectation of your partner. If you are married, separate and file for divorce, and then get involved with someone else, that is NOT cheating. If you know that your boyfriend/girlfriend expects that you are going to be monogamous and you are flirting with and kissing the new receptionist at work, then that is cheating.

So. . . have you ever - even just once in your life - been unfaithful to or cheated on a partner?

There is a "bro code" that says this on the subject: don't do it. Never.

You ask your friend's permission and he may feel obligated to give you permission even though he still has feelings for his ex. So then he realizes that you are spending nights with her and he suddenly feels an urge to let the air out of all your tires. Or people assume that she must have been cheating with you when she was still dating him. Or she tells you things about your friend that would potentially change your friendship but. . . is she telling you the truth or trying to break up your friendship? Why would she want to break up your friendship? Maybe's she's afraid that your friend/her ex will start telling you some uncomplimentary things about her and she wants to put you in a position where you will not believe him. Imagine that you fall in love with the girl and decide you want to marry her. Are you going to invite him to the wedding? Make him the best man?

What could go wrong?

Of course, things won't go wrong every single time this happens, but it seems like a very strong possibility. I've never done it and I've never even considered it. What's your experience on this subject?