Do you think cheating women and cheating men are the same?

[JessieBellll]

In my opinion cheating women look worse to me for some reason, they seem more slutty and in my experience they are worse people.

Yes

No

[DWornock]

I believe overly slutty girls and women have psychological issues. It is not that they are inherently bad people, only that their behavior is out of their control and they might be helped with therapy.

I'm not sure that men cheat when they have sex. And, if it is cheating, it is 100 times worse when women cheat. That is because no man has ever convinced his partner that a child he had with another woman was her biological child. However, that is what women do when they cheat. And, just having a few minutes of sex, pales to insignificance compared to his partner lying to him and him spending a lifetime raising another man's child. At a minimum, it is the difference between 15 minutes and 21 years.

Although cheating harms a woman's partner, it is good for our species. That is because typically women cheat at or near ovulation when they seek the best available genes for their eggs. And, although very few women can marry a superior male, the superior males are more than willing to have sex with them. The advantage of cheating (at least 1 to 10 percent per generation) is so astronomical over 1,000 or more generations that women that did not cheat to select the best available genes for their eggs are not our ancestors. Therefore, even though they deny it, almost all women cheat or else they are willing to cheat.

Women invest 10 months of pregnancy and a dozen or more year in raising a child,. Therefore, they must be very selective. However, men need only invest 15 minutes to impregnate a fertile female so there is no benefit to being choosy. Our ancestors are men, that impregnated the most females.

For all of the foregoing reasons, attractive and superior men that have many sexual partners benefits our species, and women that are very selective and have far fewer sexual partners benefits of species.

[HedwigInABox]

By that logic, wouldn't it be a good thing for a woman to cheat if she has the chance to sleep with a guy that's genetically superior over her partner and become his child to guarantee better offspring?

[JessieBellll]

Alright, I disagree they have psychological issues, they just like sex and are more free than they were before.

If that was true then majority of women today have mental problems which is pretty wrong.

[DWornock]

@HedwigInABox Obviously it is harmful to her partner and greatly limits his passing on his genes to future generations. However, it benefits our species and that is why it is universal for all species or else cuckoldry wouldn't have evolved to such a great extent. Here is an interesting article:

Cuckoldry is the fate of males the animal kingdom over. In study after study of species after species, the idea that females are naturally devoted to their one and only mates have fallen to growing evidence that many of the world's supposedly monogamous females, including human females, are guilty of their share of indiscretions.

Yet in spite of these findings, many biologists, especially male biologists, held out hope that some males might be immune to this kind of treatment by their mates -- particularly the exemplary, hard-working fathers.

But research reported in the Proceedings of the Royal Society shatters that dream. Although the diminutive males do everything to care for the young of their raucous, beefy females, these males are cuckolded. Under some circumstances, the researchers found, males had a 74 percent chance of raising another male's offspring, a mistake in the evolutionary race to perpetuate one's own genes.

“It's about as bad as it can be for these guys,” said Dr. Peter Wrege, a behavioral ecologist at Cornell University who wrote the paper with Dr. Stephen Emlen at Cornell and Dr. Mike Webster of the State University of New York at Buffalo. “A male stuck with doing all the parental care should have a very high certainty of paternity, but in fact, that's not the case.”

Dr. Patricia Adair Gowaty, behavioral ecologist at the University of Georgia at Athens, who described herself as having made a cottage industry of writing about mating behavior from the female perspective, called it “absolutely fascinating,”

“The females are really in the catbird seat,” Dr. Gowaty said. “They seem to be getting whatever they want.”

[james_d0007]

agree men are more prone to do this then a women. That's why most of the society terms women as whore or sluts when they do this stuff. I think its wrong though both should be judged in the same way irrespective of their gender.

[Anonymous]

Cheating is cheating no matter which way you look at it. If you think that a woman cheating is worse than a man cheating, you're sexist.

The only difference between the two genders cheating is the fact that women generally cheat because they are lacking something at home. Whether it be intimacy or the sex is just shit. Men will cheat when they can because sex isn't readily available to them like it is with women. Women can walk down the street, pick out and guy and more than likely fuck him. Men have to go out of their way, put up a front and jump through hoops because women are more picky, usually.

Either way, if you cheat you're fucking scum. I dont care what excuses you have because they will never be justified in my opinion.

[David_Kek]

madam, you are a sexist

[israelisevil]

This very inacurate women can get sore too easily suck at sex too.

[Opinion Owner]

@israelisevil what does being sore have to do with anything that I had said? And did I claim that women dont suck at sex? Nope. Clearly didn't. Stop trying to read between the lines to find conflict when there clearly isn't any.

[Shellyworld]

Sexists, whom chooses the answer no.

[SjE78]

I couldn't agree with you more, clearly those who say no are most likely cheats or would cheat themselves...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yes they're the same... Both cheating, lying trash... Your gender don't excuse cheating whether you're male or female... A cheater is a cheater is a cheater, WTF does gender have to do with it? There's LOTS of MEN and WOMEN who WOULDN'T cheat, let's not make excuses for THOSE who do, or say it's worse when one gender does it... It's wrong when ANYONE does it, PERIOD!!

[sejla]

Same. We've just been taught that women are supposed to be the more caring gender

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well yes form a logical stand point. However its worse (or feels worse) when a woman does it in that for the man he is (if we are going the traditional relationship route) giving his resources to her. That is he is providing a house, providing food, he is protecting her and taking care of her so if he cheats its one failure among several sucess's. For women however, they largely only have one responsibility, don't cheat so when they do, that is a monumental failure because they had less responsibilities yet still failed to meet them. I think that is why even though the actions are the same it seems as if its worse when women do it (not suggesting a woman should ever stay with a cheating man, she shouldn't, not saying its okay for a man to cheat, its absolutely not, only that we see it as worse for this reason).

[CubsterShura]

I WISH the one and only responsibility for a woman was to 'not cheat', life would have been a million times easier.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@CubsterShura Well it is so life is easier (in the west anyway). They are no longer expected to cook or clean or obey their husbands or even have sex with him, even suggesting she should is considered "sexist". yet for some reason expecting him to slave away to provider for her, do all the physical labor and to protect her at his expense is just him not being a deadbeat (and he is considered lazy if he doesn't do the cooking and cleaning too). This is the case for most societies to be honest, women just don't like to admit it because it would mean they would have to start contributing just as much as he does (which statistically is not the case (studies show not only is he providing the bulk of monetary gain (70% of global spending is done by women despite them being less then 30% of global earnings meaning she is spending all of her money and most of his), as well as showing that he statistically does slightly more work then her if we take into account paid, non paid work, and child rearing into account).

[CubsterShura]

I wish I wish 😂💀

[hellionthesagereborn]

@CubsterShura Well all of that was statistical data so it wasn't a "I wish" it was an absolutely this is the case as per multiple studies on the subject. In all likelihood you don't realize this because you are protected from it and have society telling you how much harder you have it when in reality that is the opposite. Society always caters to women, its our biological inclination (neotenous biological traits and things of that nature).

[CubsterShura]

Ok lmao

[israelisevil]

If my girl wasn't making money or at least trying to shed be out the house if she cheated she would be too.

[bamesjond0069]

Well men typically cheat when they just want more or varied sex. They don't do it to leave their girlfriend or wife.

Women typically cheat when they find a man they would like to leave their boyfriend or husband for.

Also its viewed differently. Men often prefer an innocent woman so by cheating she is now not viewed as innocent and therefore not seen as relationship material. When a man cheats, women often see it in some way as he's a desirable mate that other women want, which in a roundabout way often makes them feel like they have the prize.

This is why relationships often can survive a cheating man but not a cheating woman. So yes i think its completely different.

[knottywriter]

I think they are the same. I think the difference is men seem to be known for it, even though studies have shown that the cheating spectrum is pretty even in that regard. I see it like this... if women sleep with a lot of people, they unfortunately get degraded as sluts or whores, whatever. However, if men do the same thing, it's seen as some primal conquest and manly thing. The reverse of this is how it ends up with cheating. Men get the horrible name calling and what not, where a lot of the women either just aren't talked about or they were okay to get their needs met because their partner wasn't fulfilling them. Is it fair to treat either differently in these situations? No, but gender bias is very evident within every aspect if our society. Sad, but true. Each are the same but one side get vilfied while the other side gets a pass. Clearly, this is not how everyone feels of course, but it's a snapshot of the society we've become.

[Altree]

Men tend to have a higher temptation towards cheating, but it really is no different between men and women as far as how bad it is. However Im of the mind that if my girlfriend cheats on me and is honest about it and is genuinely sorry and apologetic, I would probably be pretty quick to forgive. Everyone has problems and messes up on something. Cheating is a pretty big one, but its not beyond moving past if the person is actually upset that they did it and is sorry for it. (I know I went a bit off topic, sorry bout that)

[Elsa143]

Yes both are wrong.
No excuses.
Men cheat because they don't give AF about commitment and they're manwhores.
Women cheat because either she's a gold digger or a slut.
A good woman or a man will simply breakup if their emotional needs are not being met.

[Gravit1]

All cheating is Sin and carries the same punishment, whether men or women. It always takes two to tango, so for every cheating guy there is a cheating woman, though that is 95% accurate. Most females will say men are worse and most males say females are worst. God says everyone has sinned and fallen short of his Glory, man, woman, or child. God will judge everyone to how they lived their lives, stealing a chocolate bar is still sinful as adultery repentance and accepting Jesus is the only way to salvation. We've all lied, stolen, cheated, hated, and blasphemed. Without Jesus we all would receive Hell. People only change given a reason, Jesus is the only Good reason.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I think society treats them differently, but yes they are the same. Both betray their partner's trust for their own selfish gain.
If a man cheats, I hear nothing but excuses for him, usually blaming his partner ("she must not keep him satisfied") or nature ("men aren't biologically programed for monogamy"). Both of which are bullshit excuses that conveniently let him off the hook.
But when a women cheats, all the blame is put on her immediately.
But they are the same

[BeenThereLovedIt]

My experiences have said the polar opposite, but hey we all believe what we want to believe.

[NickCharm]

Its worse for women to cheat because its easier for them to do so. Its "Choice vs. Chore". For women getting laid is a choice, for men its a chore. Women have far more opportunities. Additionally, when men cheat its for variety, when women cheat it is more likely preliminary to her breaking up with you. In fact, when a women cheats on a guy she has already decided she has broken up with him, she just hasn't gotten around to informing him. A real cruel one will let the cheating serve as the notice he is dumped. And there is also the paternity thing others have alluded to.

[CubsterShura]

Getting laid is a choice for women?

I wish dude, I could only WISH. My goodness it's 2020!

[NickCharm]

@CubsterShura In the US the fattest most repulsive women can get laid. Maybe not by Prince Charming but she can definitively get sex if she wants (just not with Leo DiCaprio or Brad Pitt). Not so for men. America is a prudish country.

[CubsterShura]

Am pretty sure no ordinary good-looking woman would get laid by Leo DiCaprio or Brad Pitt either.

[Bandit74]

I'm biased but I view a woman cheating as worse because she can trick a guy into raising the child of the guy she cheated on him with while a woman is never going to have to worry about that happening to her.

[JessieBellll]

That's valid

[Petra150]

But it's exciting in a way. I have much better sex with my hubby, but the excitement getting and other

[Petra150]

It's not nice to say or hear , but that's my experience

[Petra150]

It's more fun / exciting to cheat than be cheated on. But it's only cheating if you guy mind you cheating. Me and my hubby have a great agreement we bouth allow eachother to do what we want, as I'm the one who have used my freedom to get laid by other guys , he never minds

[Hurlyburly]

Cheaters are trash. Neither their gender nor the "reasons" they tell themselves to feel better change anything about that.

[guesswhoseback]

On a moral aspect they are equally shitty. But here is one big difference I often see that really pisses me off.

If a man gets caught cheating he’s got zero excuse or justification. He can’t just say he’s a sex addict and/or has a high sex drive to get a pass. Men generally are more impulsive sexually but we never get to use that as an excuse. He has to own up to his bullshit and face the consequences.

Some women (not all but a high percent) say “oh he made me feel special” or “my boyfriend/husband deserves it” or some other bullshit. No you fucking cheated and the fault is on YOU. Plain and simple. No amount of emotions and mental gymnastics is going to absolve you of what you did.

Both sexes need to be held “equally” for their transgressions. Gender equality and also means equality for being a responsible adult.

[guesswhoseback]

Also I define cheating as any consensual contact with the genitals. If it goes to that point then it’s the point of no return.

However there are different gradations of cheating. Staring at someone from the opposite sex, “emotional” infidelity, kissing someone, etc. All of that is bad however it can be forgiven depending on the circumstance. But all out sexual contact is the point of not return (or forgiveness) for me.

However I know some women have this weird thing where they are more damaged from a guy having an emotional connection with another woman vs. him having meaningless sex with her.

[Chittychittybang]

I know a lady who was beaten by her husband for years. She cheated, gained the courage to leave and married the other guy. In some cases, people have every right to cheat.

[DJB72]

Not sure there's a difference. Usually someone cheats because they are missing something in the relationship. If both partners are prepared to work at the issue then it's rarely impossible to overcome the original issue. The cheating is usually a symptom. And cheating women are no worse than cheating men.

[weysally]

that can depend, I. E. sex in a relationship could be not so good, with a woman if she falls for a man that sex is good she doesn't bother about her spouse, but a man will take sex and go, its the other side of the relationship that is important to him

[Kaazsz]

I think we cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because they had the chance to fuck someone hot, or just the chance to fuck someone in general. And he doesn't care about being faithful i guess.

Women cheat because they found someone they think will be better in bed than their current man. So make sure you make your woman cum gentleman or she will find someone else to do it.

[AD240pCharlie]

Yes. While there are different reasons people cheat on their partner, and some of them may or may not be more common for one gender than the other, none of those reasons are valid excuses.
Unless your partner is abusive, you're a shitbag if you cheat on them.

[FriendlyEnigma]

Absolutely. No matter what cheating is cheating, no matter who it is. Of course i get there are people in absolutely shit relationship (toxic, abusive, etc.) But still if you can build up enough courage to sneak and lie to a partner, you can build up the courage to safely cut off your ties to that person

[Espresso-Grande]

Both are a betrayal of trust. So both are equally as bad in my opinion. Infidelity is a painful experience, regardless of your gender. The pain of betrayal doesn't lessen just because you're a certain gender. It causes trust issues for both genders.