Forgiving and Loving again after Infidelity

[Ozanne]

I already know I’m up against a lot of people who will not agree with me here, but for those who are in positions of trying to get past the hurt of a cheating partner, who still feel love for them and want to make it work, there are ways to try to move on.

If you’re in a relationship with a partner who cheated on you, yet you still feel attraction and love for them, and you are confused whether or not you should stay, these are just my opinions only – and this myTake is not to be taken as anything other than that.

Here are things to consider:

1. The cheating was not about you. Nor was it about the third wheel. Most times, someone’s own insecurities about themselves or the relationship will be the reason why they’ve strayed. If you talk to your partner to find clues about their past, finding indicators that they’ve rarely been happy, you’ll realize the tendency started long before you.

2. Try to look at it as a mistake rather than love and feelings for someone else. If your partner is insisting that they did not love the other person, and they want to make it work with you, it’s okay to review your relationship and decide if you’ll end it, carry on, or move on with stipulations. If you choose to carry on, consider moving on with stipulations to stop ill feelings, bad habits, or anything between you both that triggered the behaviour. Carrying on without identifying the problems may lead to more later.

3. Switch your mentality to “from this moment on”. If you decide to stay, leave your old relationship behind, and start anew with your partner. Things that led to the cheating are over, and you can take a fresh new page to turn over together. Be a new couple together, doing things together you might not have done before. Maybe decide to go on a trip, change residences, or whatever it takes to air out the old and allow a fresh start. Even if you do something simple like change where the bed is in the bedroom, just making a new change to start over might have you physically look around you and feel differently.

4. If you really do love them, forgive them. Forgiving is a tricky move that only you will understand once you feel it. It’s for you to use as a tool to let go so you no longer carry around the pain. If you continue the relationship with hard feelings and constant battles about the mistake made, you’re not being fair to yourself. The attitude to always punish the other person, or to make them feel bad every single day is not worth having a relationship with. Happiness cannot be found. It has to be created.

5. Don’t rush your decision. It’s perfectly acceptable to give it time to think it over. You don’t even need to give timelines or ultimatums. You have been hurt, and only you can decide how long it will take to sort your feelings out. A loving partner should be able to say, “take the time you need”. If they love you, they will be patiently by your side as you go through this. It won’t be instant, but it shouldn’t take a year either.

As many know, I’m a believer in second chances, and think that we’re all capable of making mistakes, whether it’s cheating or something else. No one says you must consider taking someone back after cheating, but if you do because you still feel love for them, sometimes these awful mistakes are things that make couples stronger. I speak from experience.

[jimmy2]

My wife has passed
So i say this to try to help anyone who needs it. My wife of 36 years one month and five hours did mot tell me ay first that over a 5 year peroid her uncle repeatedly rape her. This made her so wild. She did mot love herself. She was unfaithful so many damn times. Each time i forgave her. Each time she broke what little faith i had with another man. This took 18 years to work through. Once 18 years passed i found that i could forgive her or anyone any time for doing anuthing to me and that is powerful. I already said 36 yeas plus we was married the first 18 years was hell. The next 18 year was beautiful. Then an nasty illness hit her. She was reduced to only a mind within 4 years
I took care of her bedridden for 6 years and 6 months. Caring gor her i almost died. I work 240 a month and cared for her was complete exaughstion.

[Ozanne]

You are an exceptionally strong, loving, and understanding person. To go beyond the surface and find the core problem in order to get through it is so brave. To also move past it to make the marriage better is so rare. I'm so sorry for your loss, and wish you only happiness.

[jimmy2]

Thank you so much

[AD240pCharlie]

This comment absolutely screams "old man wisdom" and I mean that in the best possible way. It's invaluable especially on sites like this.

[IronmanT]

To sin and stray and explore wants and desires is written in our DNA... it runs against all nature of human species to just settle... its remained true from beginning of time. So I expect things of this nature to happen at some point in EVERY RELATIONSHIP wrather its only 1 or both parties. So if it dose... im prepared and expecting. Knowing that this is fact, I am always ready to forgive 1 offense. At that point.. ask... what was the catalyst behind it and is there to do to help prevent it happening again. It's called communication. And tolerance... GROW UP AND TRY IT PEOPLE

[Ozanne]

Good answer :)

[sadMeester]

Spoken like a cheater. It's one thing to be tolerant, but to claim it's destined to happen is ridiculous.

Unless you're excusing your own behavior. It makes sense as a cop-out

[TruthBringer]

Is that what you tell yourself to ease the cognitive dissonance of cheating? Speak for yourself mate. I've never cheated and don't plan on ever doing it. It's not in my character. Unlike you, others have something called integrity. If this is the mentality you walk with, then I can already smell the standards you have put for yourself.
Relationships have proven over and over again that taking back a cheater does not work.

[IronmanT]

I was a soldier... deployed and gone a lot. Now I'm an Iron worker... I travel all over.. I have never cheated.. I may have been cheated on thiugh.. . But I'm a REALIST.. I KNOW THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH YOU CAN BE GONE BEFORE YOUR PARTNER FEELS NEGLECTED OR UNLOVED AND WANTS THE FAIRYTAIL FEELING BACK..

[TruthBringer]

@IronmanT Accepting the chances of it may happening is different than rationalizing it. The former is good, the latter isn't. Especially for soldiers is an unfaithful partner a huge problem as it often happens to those who are deployed. But unlike you, I'm not ready to 'forgive' in a sense of taking that person back. That alone opens a new can of worms. So you got two can of worms to deal with.

[IronmanT]

Oah... I agree with that. But people got way to accustomed to just giving up or throwing away things that are not truly broken over PRIDE, AND BEING TOO LAZY TO PUT ANY EFFORT INTO FIXING THE ISSUE... THAT IS Y PRIDE IS ONE OF THE 7 SINS... PRIDE... MAKES YOU STUPID AND RASH IN MAKING LONG TERM CHOISES

[TruthBringer]

@IronmanT I think this goes far beyond pride, good sir. Refusing to work with someone who is unfaithful has proven tim and time again to be the best decision as for most people, taking back an unfaithful partner has lead to even more misery. If you're willing to work things through for the sake of being somewhat politically correct, be my guest. Just don't get mad when you realize you've wasted even more time and energy on a person who has clearly shown you not deserving of your trust

[IronmanT]

Dont let my emotions get the better of me.. I was always angry and depressed and self loathing when younger.. I have learned to keep myself in check and always happy no matter what. Yeah things suck... crap happens. . but what good dose stewing over it do... SERIOUSLY WHAT GOOD? NONE. I WILL SAY THANK YOU FOR ENGAGING ME IN MY OPINION THOUGH... YOU HAVE VERY GOOD POINTS.

[sadMeester]

What's with the Caps lock?

Also did you stay after more than one incident after making up? That's the part I'd have a hard time with. I wouldn't want to give up on a person, but if they made up with me and did it again I'm not sure how I could cope with that betrayal

[ilikefrogsalot]

We're not cavemen anymore. I can't fathom excusing infidelity just because "it's in our DNA." It implies we as a species haven't evolved at all. How can humans genuinely believe we're the most intelligent organism on earth if we haven't even evolved past our primal instincts that are no longer necessary in a modern society? Whether you like it or not, homo sapiens have involved into an intelligent species that are capable of self-control and are conscious of temptation. If you're so mentally weak that you surrender at the slightest hint of temptation, you're no better than a neanderthal

[Anonymous]

Thank you for sharing this. I am curre tly going through something like this and have been scouring the I Ternent and picking the brains of friend and strangers to get some type of idea of what the heck I'm doing and where to go next. This 2as super helpful!!🧡🧡🌟

[CubsterShura]

Girl don't. I recently dumped an ex who cheated for the second time and this has been the worst heartbreak I ever had. Run away ASAP.

[TruthBringer]

@CubsterShura Leave her. Let life be the teacher. She is going to get hit hard and eventually regret what she is convinced of now.

[Ozanne]

@TruthBringer @CubsterShura Or you can both leave her, and let her figure things out on her own, regardless of how it works out. There are situations in life that people experience such as CubsterShura who did not have a good experience after forgiving and trying to work things out, but there are others who do. There are people who have had situations who have been with someone who cheats but makes up for it throughout their relationship to make it right with that person. Just because you didn't experience that, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

[TruthBringer]

@Ozanne Quite ironic how you try to be the moral one while your "advice" is literally leading people to the road of pain. Why should I swim in waters where many others have drowned? By the way, I wasn't even giving her advice. But I'd rather be the bringer of bad news than to cover a knife with a blanket of false hope and comfortable lies. And yes, you've literally repeated what I've said. She has to experience it on her own. Only then she will realize who was right. Doesn't mean people shouldn't warn others about the dangers.

[Ozanne]

@TruthBringer No one is saying that it's not risky if one takes someone back who has cheated. Many end their relationships. But there are some who do who choose to make changes (both partners) after cheating, and there are people who have been able to move on having a better relationship thereafter.

[CubsterShura]

"Just because you didn't experience that, doesn't mean it doesn't happen." Girl that doesn't apply to situations when most likely it WILL end in a heartbreak.

This could work out in past generations when people firstly 'needed' each other more because there were different roles for the two sexes and those opposite needs were primary and things that we consider important now, such as personality, compatibility, zodiac, taste in music etc were secondary. It was easier for people to forgive infidelity and still live happily as they had different priorities.

On top of that, the previous generations did not have nearly as much access to media that stimulated people's libido as much as we do now. Porn, movies, dating apps, Instagram, video games, tv commercials, hook-up culture... provocation is literally all around us and it is nearly impossible to avoid them.

Another thing that has increased in this day and age is people's malice and lack of empathy. We have a lot of free time, a lot of stimulation, a lot of entertainment. People legit get entertained by seeing people being dragged down and torn apart... think of all those YouTubers who got their careers destroyed in an instant.

It is very unlikely that an infidel would actually get back to being good. Now this might sound counterintuitive and some people might think that if the present generation faces so many challenges then we should be more lenient and forgiving of cheating... ehh not necessarily true we actually have to understand that giving a second chance just means giving another chance to be unfaithful again.

[TruthBringer]

@CubsterShura You nailed it! Very well said. Unfortunately, people like @Ozanne rather induldge in wishful thinking and the comfort of (false) hope rather than stare reality in the face and accept the truth. Some things won't go back to how they were and neither should they.
Taking back an unfaithful ex is a clear indication of desperation, a scarcity mindset and lack of self respect. But try telling her that.

[Ozanne]

@CubsterShura I'm sorry, but you lost me when you said you consider the Zodiac as a need for finding compatibility. I see that you're only 19, and I'm sure with life experience you may find yourself thinking differently in time about people. I really hope you do learn more. I never said everyone has to take back a cheater, but if they did, there is a chance that things do work out. Life will speak to you more than any online info you receive. It's helpful, but it's not everything.

[CubsterShura]

I don't even believe in zodiac. I gave examples of what things people tend to find important nowadays and tbh the zodiac sign and taste in music part was kind of a joke.

Nice strawman though 😂

[CubsterShura]

Speaking of online info, yes online info shouldn't be taken seriously and your myTake is no exception to that. It's honestly garbage.

[TruthBringer]

@CubsterShura Exactly. This is one of the dumbest MyTakes when it comes to dealing with a partner. She is clearly trying to delude herself by attempting to delude others. And the fact we tried to warn a person who started to give into her MyTake, she immediately became defensive. Forgiving an unfaithful partner in a sense of getting back with them is one of the dumbest decisions you can make. Ironic she speaks about your age, yet you're making more sense than she is. With people like her it's feelings > facts.

[CubsterShura]

I learned it the hard way 😂 I swear everyone told me that he would do it again, and my boyfriend actually manipulated me by saying that all those friends are a bad influence and they don't personally know him so they can't assume and what not. I can't believe I listened to his words and gave him another chance.

[Anonymous]

Cheating once- sure give it the benefit of the doubt. Twice or a regular thing- that’s a choice. It’s not a mistake.


There is no excuse for cheating and people who stay that aren’t married or have kids are a different breed of stupid.

[Ozanne]

I agree, if the mistake is made over and over, it's not a mistake anymore. It's bad behaviour. I wouldn't advise someone to hang on to something that feels like a constant train wreck.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Cheat once and you’re a cheater for life.

[ragequeen]

Then I have a question for you. Will you keep forgiving him? You're saying that I have to look at it as a mistake, and that him claiming it was a mistake and nothing else only gave him the power to use this excuse to his advantage again. If you tell yourself you won't be able to forgive him twice, why are you still with him? He has shown you impulsive tendencies, and those are never good. You literally made him feel good about himself after doing this. You are the reason there are serial cheaters, because they are snakes thinking they can get away with it.

IF, and that's a big IF, I decided to forgive him for whatever reason, it wouldn't be that easy for him. I would have many conditions. Firstly, he would have to tell me who it was and tell her in front of my face that it was over and he was to never see her again. He also needs to tell her that I know about the cheating. If she loves him, she can have him. Because she will never let go of him. But if she doesn't, she will respect that. Those kinds of conditions will truly prove that he loves you. If he takes it with a frown or refuses, you know he doesn't give two shits about you. Don't make this too easy for him. You are a valuable asset.

He has also proven that he was willing to put our relationship at risk for some quick pussy. If he has those priorities, I don't want him in my life. The relationship should be cherished and respected. He can fuck around if he wants, but don't dare keep me around waiting for him at home like a loser 😂 both of us have better things to do.

Also, did he tell you about the cheating or did you find out? Guys are smart in those situations. They think that if he plays the victim card and admits it, the girl will admire his honesty and forgive him. And basically react the way you are doing now. Do you really want to be played for a fool?

Honestly, if you get weird vibes from him again, just cut it. You don't need all the shitty mind games and drama in your life. HE made a mistake, you didn't. YOU have the upper hand here. Use it before you get hurt more.

[TruthBringer]

And sadly, all of this has fallen on deaf ears. She does not want to learn. If she wants to forgive and take back a cheater due to her weakness, let her. Let life be her teacher. She will learn the hard way.

[sejla]

I prefer monogamy and expect the same from my partner. Every has attractions so no excuses. If a person has a psychiatric issue that causes them issues seek treatment. If a person isn’t a monogamous person seek out same partners. Want to sleep with someone else let me know so we can break up. It’s not complicated

[es20490446e]

This simple. Cut the bullshit.

[Smurphanie]

This is my personal experience of why I completely agree with you which should give my views completely.

My husband and I had been married not quite 20 years…all 3 of our kids were grown and had moved on. He always worked a lot of hours he spent his time either working or sleeping really didn't have much time for me and after about 3 months of basically being alone and having virtually no sex life I got very depressed and started feeling very lonely. The only person. I had any real contact with was the man that was living behind us and I am NOT PROUD to admit this next part at all but…. I went and made what I consider to be the absolute worst mistake of my life, I stepped out on my husband. Of course me being the person I am became riddled with guilt (especially because I truly do love my husband) I had to confess all to him. We sat down and talked extensively about what I had done and together figured out why and the causes/reasons for why I did it. In the end we agreed that the underline causes/reasons justified my reasoning for why I did what I did. It also helped that my husband pointed out the fact that Istepped out with someone that looked the same as he did at their age , their names were damn near almost the same, (Richard Allen and Richard Alvin) he acted and talked just like him so essentially, (the way he sees it) is I tried to step out on him with him.. (And that also helped to justify the cause.) NOT THE ACT !!! The act itself is NEVER justified… as for the act itself was a choice that I made … nobody made me do it.. The act itself is never justified it is still WRONG !! But the reasoning/causes behind the act we agreed was justified. Since then we have worked together to fix the problems and start repairing the damage that was caused. I have since then never stepped out on him and I in the future NEVER will ever again. I cannot imagine ever being with anyone other than him. That was almost 8 years ago we have now been married 26 years and still going strong… so in short I started thinking about it after being influenced by the depression and loneliness I had been feeling. And Cheating no matter how justified the reasons/causes are is NEVER EVER alright !! cheating is stilll wrong !! So what I did was yes understandable but not excusable. yes we were able to get past it and its been dealt with.. now its (as my husband says) done…gone…forgotten !!! Although to be honest it still eats away at me about how i was able to become unloyal for the first and only time in my entire life... i still regret it and I still kick myself in the ass over it every day.

[Not_Average]

I feel bad that your husband never found the courage to leave you. What a fucked up dynamic you created. I bet you this many years later, it still comes to his mind.

[Not_Average]

It’s not my place to attempt to shame you though, and I honestly feel I shouldn’t have typed this. I just have a low tolerance for this. Apologies if this put you down.

[Smurphanie]

You know I have read most of the replies and yes it was a mistake I made it only happened the one and only time in my entire life I never cheated before or since and I never will again. I still to this day over 5 years later am still beating myself up over it. It was a choice I made a stupid choice and my husband may have forgiven me but i still have not forgiven myself for it. And NO SOME PEOPLE ARE WRONG !!! Once a cheater does not always make you a cheater just because I made a fucked up choice that led me to make a stupid mistake that I will forever regret does NOT mean I will ever do it again because I WILL NOT !!! Not all cheaters are pieces of shit that should be cut down. Now if you cheat twice or more then yes your a cheating piece of shit that I agree with!!! Bit for someone who did it 1 time only and is truly sorry and never does it again should not have it held against them for the rest of their life. If they truly regret it like I do they will be beating themselves up over it for the rest of their lives already.

[AFellowWeeb]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Cheaters are narcissists, they only care about themselves, they only date because of the fear of loneliness, i even remember a girl on this same website that posted something like this, she had cheated on 3 boyfriends in a row, and on her current, she was already with her eyes on another guy, cheaters are just people that want to be part of the hook up culture, but they are possessive, because no cheater likes being cheated, not only that, but they want to always have someone there for them ( even if they don't reciprocate ), and if you accept them back, they know that you are willing to forgive them.

Forgiving them, yes, forgetting what they did and going back to them, never. Cheaters are like a disease for love, they ( both male and female ) are the ones that take all the kind people, not because these people want to be cheated on, but because they are naive, they fall easily for the cheaters wordplay/game, a youtuber that i watch, Jamari, he has been cheated on multiple times in the past, even tho he never cheats back, cause he's a karma believer and he doesn't like go down to the cheaters level, but he allways breaks up with them, i respect that.

Cheaters deserve to only date other cheaters, to taste their own medicine and to not hurt normal people.

[es20490446e]

True.

[Not_Average]

I disagree entirely. If you cheat, it
alksot always derived from a character defect, if you cheated in high school, or kissed a guy when you were drunk in college... sure. If you had an ongoing relationship behind your partners back- then there’s something wrong with you. Normal people don’t deceive, lie, and hurt the people the love for such selfish intent like that. My girl is a therapist and being cheated on can scar people emotionally for decades. It diminishes their self worth. It will destroy a family. If you’re willing to do that to the person you love, then you’re seriously fucked in the head and you’re not somebody I want to be around, none the less date. If you cheat, you’re a garbage human being in my opinion. Also, if you destroy someone’s trust like that, it’s damn near impossible to ever get back. It most likely will never happen. Anyone who stays with a cheater possess a sense of low self worth, and should find the courage to leave.

[Miristheiss]

amen

[Finchie40]

You can forgive someone that cheated on you but you will never forget , By you taking back someone that cheated on you is only making
You a weaker person because you will
Carry that resentment towards them the rest of your time with them , you don’t really value
Yourself by accepting someone that betrayed you , that cheater will eventually cheat again because now they face the fear that you will now cheat on them for revenge , for the non cheater to take back a cheating partner the non cheater in a way makes rules for the cheater to follow. so the non cheater feels at ease accepting them back and feels that they won’t cheat again , while the cheater eventually realizes they can’t be happy this way , why it’s best to never take a cheater back and value Yourself and Realize you deserve someone that wouldn’t cheat on you

[SomeBlondeChick]

What jibberish are you spouting?

Someone who cheats is almost always destined to cheat again on the same person. Cheating is a small sign of a bigger problem. It indicates there is a problem either with you or them or the relationship as a whole.

Forgiving is an easy out. Doesn't fix shit. It sweeps the problem under the rug & then the cheater cheats again and the one cheated on cries poor-is-me again to anyone who'll listen. While those on the outside looking in are rolling their eyes & smirking behind closed doors wondering when the two clowns will figure out... it an't working anymore.

[Miristheiss]

Not a chance in hell I'd ever stay with someone who cheated.

I'd divorce my wife if she even kissed another man.

"Forgiveness" that is a spiritual concept... a condition of the heart...
It doesn't mean staying with or leaving your partner.

People can stay together and not forgive... people can forgive but leave their mate.

Staying together doesn't mean forgive or not.

I only read the first couple of points you wrote.
It is moot. There is no way I'd stay, she'd disgust me and I'd never get that image out of my head, we over over and I cut her out of my life.

Cheating is extinction level.

[Thatasianlove16]

People forget forgiveness is a two way street. Even if it’s internally happening for one person. I’ve seen relationships go toxic because they tried moving past infidelity. But it’s not because its impossible but it’s was because it was impossible for them to forgive eachother. They couldn’t even forgive themselves. obviously if a friend of mine gets cheated on I’ll tell them it’s not worth the time. But if they choose to stay with someone I’ll be very blunt with them. Either let it go because it’s in the past or just let the relationship go. Same if my friend was the one who was doing the cheating.

[CubsterShura]

Did some cheater pay you to write this?

I can get past people forgiving their s. o. for infidelity, but even then it was never a mistake and you are only lying to yourself saying that it was a mistake.

I was with a guy who was unfaithful, but I thought I could give him a second chance so I did, he cheated in an even worse manner and wants a medal that he wasn't unfaithful at all for the nine months in-between.

Cheating is UNFORGIVABLE, PERIOD. These bastards have absolutely no fucking idea how devastating it is. I'll never ever make the mistake of giving another chance to an infidel ever again, they will take it as another chance to cheat.

[es20490446e]

The people that forgave their cheating partners that I knew of, got fucked up.

The cheaters I knew of, everyone not wanting to see them in other areas.

[Anonymous]

Better to cut your losses
#1 you will feel some type of way or feel insecure. You might have thoughts about the affair that prob will never leave you, maybe you lose trust... then this can lead to relationship issues down the line

#2 because you forgave and stayed with this person then you opened up a new set of boundaries, you gave the other the power to do anything. Including cheating again in the future

Never settle for someone who cheats, there are people who will not do that to you. Have some self respect

[AD240pCharlie]

I wouldn't take back a partner who cheated on me (I've had it happen) but if you choose to, the most important thing to keep in mind is that it's not something that's gonna be fixed within a few weeks or so. The trust has already been broken, and trying to mend it back together is gonna take a LOT of time. So you need to ask yourself it the time, effort and pain is gonna be worth it. And for the one who cheated, THEY need to ask themselves if they really want to stay with someone they know won't be able to trust them again for a long time.

[hahahmm]

If she values me and the relationship she won't cheat. If she does cheat it's just like dumping me and I will dump her to clear up any confusion in her mind. I've made this 1000% clear to any woman I'm in serious with.

I'm not a beggar... I know I can get a hotter woman any day I want to so hey, you want to roll the dice. Go ahead. Don't come crying when you've been dumped.

[bklynbadboy1]

Your gonna end up really hurt. You have to consider the message your sending it there is no ramifications or repercussion for his actions what's to stop him from doing it again

[Ozanne]

What if the message is a positive one, that the person realizes they are given a second chance and it gives them that very chance to make the relationship better?

[bklynbadboy1]

But you have to understand. If they cheat on you and there's no punishment what's to stop them from doing it again. When a man loves a woman what keeps him on the straight and norrow is the fear of losing that woman. If he feels like he can do whatever he wants and you'll always be there when he gets back then he will cheat and it will only get worse

[Ozanne]

"Punishment"? These aren't little kids we're talking about. These are adults, and if someone loves someone (and the other person feels the same) and they both want it to work, there are usually changes made or stipulations to be had. I wouldn't want to see someone just shrug their shoulders and move on without establishing some communication about how they're going to move forward. It's that sort of person who gets hurt again.

[Classyb]

It depends. I was involved with that and the girl wanted me to forgive her. I always forgive. But I wanted to know why she did it, as long as they were honest and blunt about what they did. I would at least let it be one day at a time as I did with the ex I had. But then I called it off a few months later as I knew I was better than that. I couldn’t just deep down love her how I used to after being burned like that. Just my outlook.

[Ellie-V]

Well I don’t agree that you can love someone and cheat on them at the same time since by my own definition love instantly includes respect so if someone makes the choice to cheat they made the choice to be disrespectful and therefore do not love you. But if want to take back a person who’s done such things then more power to ya cuz I could never. Wishing anyone in that position the absolute best!

[Stephen_77]

You can forgive someone for cheating, but that doesn't mean you can trust them again. Once someone has cheated on you and you choose to stay with them, things will never be the same. It's like being a victim of police corruption, where the police decide to frame you by planting drugs on you. You can forgive them but your trust and faith in the police will never be the same. I just don't think a relatio ship can be healthy if cheating has happened, because it will always be in the back of your mind that they might do it again.

[es20490446e]

And you will be right, cause that shows a long term flaw on their ethics.

[TruthBringer]

Every heard of "the road to hell is paved with good intentions"? Yeah your take is the road. It will eventually lead to even more misery.
Also ever heard of "once a cheater, always a cheater"? Yeah, they say that for a reason aswel. Trying to forgive a cheater and making things work is the dumbest thing you can do. Not only are you deluding yourself, but things will never work out.

[es20490446e]

Because their behavior isn't a one time event, but a general attitude towards life.

[TruthBringer]

@es20490446e One of the reasons why I never take dating advice from women. Their advice change with their feelings and their general attitude towards life is mostly driven by what they feel. Hence why their advice often does not even work. I ask the fisherman how to catch fish, not the fish itself. And this Take only validates my words even more

[es20490446e]

In my experience, it depends on the woman you are asking.

[Anonymous]

I screwed one in the basement. I screwed one in the hall. I screwed one on a toilet seat in a bathroom stall. Screwed one in an alley up against the wall, I f#ck#d them all.

Did I mention that I screwed one in Pittsburg and the Steelers won that night? (It was not Sunday obviously)

But in reality Im not a cheater. Just being obtuse. Im sorry someone hurt you. Were I in your shoes or anyway in my shoes for that matter, I would have a one time forgiveness exception. After that it's hit the bricks for Dorothy. In this situation Dorothy would be the man that cheated on you twice and it's responsible for you suffering so much pain... Hopefully this is the first time and they'll stop it

[supercutebutt]

I am all for forgiving but the girl in the pic looks like she literally still has the cum of her lover on her face as she's being forgiven by her husband!! OMG!

Too soon!

[Don-__-Don]

Lmaooo