This Mytake is about the many double standards I see both genders seem to be guilty of, the bias based off hatred, and false, inaccurate assumptions.....
Disclaimer: While I'll try to keep it from both the male and female spectrum, if there seems to be more examples from males, it's not meant as man bashing, it's the fact that:
- I'm a female and I personally deal with/see more bias and assumptions from male users because for the most part I try to stay away from posts that are meant to gender bash whether it's from a female or male poster, but doesn't stop people from trying to do so on MY POSTS or MY REPLIES....
Whether this is really an issue in real life, or just on GAG, I'm not sure. But even if it's just on here, to me that's an issue. This is meant to be a site for men and women to be able to get advice from one another, learn from one another so we can better understand one another. When I said this to another user, his reply was:
"BBB you're right this is a site is supposed to be a place where girls can ask guys questions and give honest answers. Not the other way around. It took me a while to figure out why it's girls ask guys. It's because you'll never get an honest answer out of a woman whwreas a relationship is concerned."
Which leads us into the first issue:
Time and again, I've seen some men on here say the issue they have with feminism is that feminists are sexist and portray all men as bad. That men don't want to be falsely labeled, judged. And I agree they shouldn't be... Yet then, you can't turn around and do the same to women. Sexism has to stop from both sides in order to really resolve the issues (same as in racism)
Other than the obvious double standard of slut (F) vs stud (M), other double standards I see:
*If a woman gets played, used or cheated on by a man "she likes the bad boys" if a man gets played, used or cheated on by a woman "all women are evil"
If someone plays, uses, or cheats on someone they are the bad person. And as smart as we think we are, we are all capable of being fooled by someone, but it easier to blame a whole gender than admit to that apparently...
*The shaming people by height, body weight .. One gender has an issue with the other doing it to them, yet turn around and do the same thing
This "women don't like the nice guy they just want the attractive male" yet men can say they don't want a fat girlfriend or that she has to be attractive, but what if she's really a nice girl 🤔🤔
*Women don't want to be lumped as all the same, yet some women on here, do the same to men....
If you don't want to be attacked just for disagreeing with a male's point of view then don't resort to calling men simps, Incel, gay, etc. just for disagreeing with yours.....
*Men-don't say women just use men for their money and then turn around and say women are only good for sex and nothing else.(because then AREN'T YOU just using women for sex 🤔)
*Women- don't accuse ALL men of using you for sex and then turn around and say men should pay for everything, must have a fancy car, etc. ( because then AREN'T YOU just using men for their money 🤔)
Noone, male or female should use someone with little to no regard to that person's feelings.... And just because someone may have used or hurt you in the past, it's no excuse/justification to turn around and do that to someone else....
There is way more double standards, these are just a few of the many I see on a daily on here, but to simplify, treat others the way YOU want to be treated, regardless of their gender.
The second issue is:
Bias, being prejudiced, hating on someone because of their gender is just as wrong as when it's done because of race.... Which is just yet another double standard when people that have an issue with being judged by their skin color (all races do this) turn around and judge someone, hate on someone purely by their gender ...
Some examples of gender bias/prejudice I've seen on here:
"No, but you will be anyway. You are female which means your core is that of a hypocrite."(male user)
"I guarantee they were only with you because they wanted dick.
None of them married you, did they?"(male user actually saying this to another male user who wasn't agreeing with men just because they're men)
"All women lie, cheat, and steal. They have ho concept of the immorality of any of this and are often proud of it."(obviously a male user) really dude 🙄
"Men cheat cause they crave variety, you can be a man’s personal porn star and fuck him 30 times a day and he will still cheat on you if he can, cause they’re all as faithful as their options"(Female user)
"Because "men are trash""(female user)-okay, this one here... No, not all men are trash, my husband certainly wasn't,... But there's definitely PEOPLE that are trash, but that can be male or female
"Most men exit their prime by 35. Biologically women are not attracted to white hairs or sagging skin or weight gain or erectile dysfunction"(female user)
This last example is not only a bias, but leads us into the next issue....
To assume that ALL men or ALL women act, think, behave alike or want the same exact thing just because they're the same gender is ridiculous....
Too many times people give answers based on assumptions or generalizations instead of fact or THEIR OWN personal experience. And using other users replies as proof of fact (especially when those replies are coming from people with an obvious gender bias) does not make it truth...
Some stupid asshat assumptions :
*All men are incapable of being faithful
*All men think about nothing but sex 24/7🙄
*All white men have small penises, All black men have big penises
*All women hate sex but only put up with it to trap men 🙄
*All women are really bi -sexual
**All women can't think logically or are overly emotional
Bashing, trashing, and throwing false accusations at one another won't work to solve any issues, it will just cause further divide... It takes real conversation, ACTUALLY LISTENING to one another, understanding, respect and compassion for one another regardless of gender...
Every human regardless of race, sexual orientation, religion, or gender should have the same equal rights. Feelings for a person should be based on their own personal behavior, not by the behavior of their whole race or gender....
And please remember, it's not wrong to want, express or fight for equality, but it is wrong when you do so by taking those rights from others....
Thank you for reading 💜🙏🏼