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The double standards go both ways, this is because of traditional views. Traditionally men were rugged, manly, and hard working, and women were beautiful, delicate, and innocent. So we view ugly and masculine women the same way we treat weak girly men. This is even worse for men in my opinion because modern dating says women are allowed to expect traditional men but if a man says he wants a traditional wife, in any capacity, he is labelled a sexist. We live in an age where men are told to allow women to be whatever they individually want, and simultaneously women tell men to become whatever women, as a collective, want. You daughter wants to be a prostitute? You better be supportive! Your son wants to become a nurse? He gets told "how the hell can you expect to find a wife and start a family like that?" I don't disagree with feminism but I see lots of things changing for women, yet men are still expected to be providers.
I'm not a feminist! This post is meant to say people need to stop holding people to standards they themselves don't. And I know it comes from BOTH... Men and women, but people period need to just stop... Noone should be telling others who or what they should be based on their gender, what people like in a partner or don't like.. is it really feminism that's the issue? Our is it that too many people these days spend so much time on social media telling others what's acceptable or not, instead of just living, worrying bout themselves and their own lives 🤷🏼♀️
Sorry, I'm not going to lie I didn't read the whole thing, just thought I'd leave my general thoughts on the topic, I think we mostly agree and I wasn't upset, just explaining my thoughts and understanding.
I don't think feminism is the issue, I think society, and in part feminists (not just them, just pointing out that they are part of the problem too), is the issue. It will take time to get past tradition, many cling to it, even young people, even feminists, I've met so many feminists who tell me they want a manly man, a man who provides for them and makes them feel safe, they want a traditional man who makes more money than they do, but they want to be free to choose whether or not to be traditional. So on one hand they want 0 expectations for themselves and on the other they expect a traditional man who will fit all of their criteria. Either let people be who they want and stop expecting a man who makes more money than you, or else stfu and let men expect women to be housewives. That's my big thing, tbh idec which way you go, personally I want freedom for all but if you say, "I want traditionalism for both genders", that works for me too, just anything besides the hypocrisy.
The reason why I emphasize feminists so much with this is because they seem to lead the charge in equality... or at least they think they do... yet they only champion problems that effect women... and sometimes maybe they champion the problems of gays, but usually just women. If we want an equal society than we need to work on equality for all sides, you can focus on one group and call it equality.
can't focus on one group and call it equality*
I agree, that's why I said for both... .. Both genders are guilty of sexism and bias.. when that doesn't solve any issues, it creates more
"I'm not a feminist! This post is meant to say people need to stop holding people to standards they themselves don't."
And really that is just it. We live in a society of hypocrisy. Think about how many people will scream about "shaming" then go right on social media and shame someone. Pointing out hypocrisy is a good thing to do, you keep on Ms. Brains :P
@SageWisdomMan thank you 🤗
So you want to be treated like a man when it benefits you & to be treated like a woman when that benefits you. Us men don't have that luxury. If a woman falsely accuses us of rape we most likely lose our job, get put on the sex offender's registry and go to prison for 8-10 years. Even if she admits to lying about all of it she won't be punished. If a man says a woman raped him he's laughed at. To the point where men don't even bother reporting being drugged and raped.
And no, if you're shaped like a man and/or hairy you aren't beautiful. You're repulsive to straight men. It's not our fault if you women find a guy who looks like Santa Claus attractive. We don't care. That's your choice. Respect ours.
"So you want to be treated like a man when it benefits you & to be treated like a woman when that benefits you. "
No, just wanted to be treated like a person period!!!
"And no, if you're shaped like a man and/or hairy you aren't beautiful. You're repulsive to straight men. It's not our fault if you women find a guy who looks like Santa Claus attractive. "
You missed the point there lololol
The point was if women go by a man's looks, she's labeled shallow but it's okay for men to go by women's looks
Don't hate on all women of women don't find you attractive type of thing 🤷🏼♀️
Did you even read the whole thing... Doesn't seem like you did... Or poor comprehension skills 🤷🏼♀️ or too caught up in your bias to admit that this was about both women and men being biased and stereotyping and assuming negatively about the other... But you're obviously too caught up in hatred, to get that
That was very well written, mam.
And the most important thing to understand is that whether whichever gender or race or anyother differentiation there is, we all are living beings (not humans living beings including animals, birds and plants), we all need eachother to survive and move forward, so if we can't be grateful to others at least we should not treat them badly.
Some people are not good to us but we should never generalise it to criticise everyone of that kind.
Thank you 💜🙂 and very well said! And I agree ,💯 with you!! Differences don't give anyone a right to treat someone like crap all while saying others treat you like crap... Which is just another double standard see on the daily.
That is absolutely right mam.
I mean if someone did something wrong to someone and they generalise it too everyone then those who are willing to help will also back away and not help, when they need it.
Again very well said!!!
Thank you mam and thank you for writing on such an important topic.
Please keep writing like this.
Thanks 🤗🤗
Reading your MyTake, which is excellent by the way, reminded me of the book I read called "Woman to Women" (free from kobo books). It touches on what you said and gives a good explanation of how this all started. If you haven't read it yet, I strongly recommend it - for everyone, especially women.
Thank you 🙂
That was long miss brains muffins!
Anyways today is Monday, it's the muffin's day, i want my MUFFINS 😋🧁🧁🧁🧁🧁🧁
Nice take, even though you know the way i am and i can never change 😌
I think the best way is for people to respect each other choices and no matter how much they argue, keep it respectful 😊
Devoted housewives were, still and will always be real QUEENS 👸🏻
"I think the best way is for people to respect each other choices and no matter how much they argue, keep it respectful "
With that I agree... And it's so cold in here, maybe I should make muffins or least cookies to warm the house 🥶🥶
Yes miss brains, start making my cookies and muffins and you will receive kisses on your forehead 😊
Is the heater still ain't working?
Miss brains is cold, come to your king miss brains, my home is warm and miss brains muffins will always be warm with the king 😁
I don't want miss brains to feel cold, she is a very sweet lady, imagine a housewife cold in her house!
A man must provide warmth in his house for his girl and family so he gets extra muffins ☻
Hopefully it'll be fixed today! Getting space heaters as back up just in case
That's good miss brains muffins, if your feeling very cold and the heater doesn't works today, come to your king's cave 😊
Neighbor's here now working on it and have one space heater here
That's good, miss brains muffins must stay warm. and happy so she makes the best muffins in the world 😊
Well if get there heat on, no need to bake muffins lololol
OH YEAH! Heater or no heater, i want MY MUFFINS MISS BRAINS 😤
Today is muffin's day remember!
You being naughty now, don't make the king sad cause on day you might need to be warm and my cave will be CLOSED 😠
Oh fine.. Here you go just for you
🧁🧁🧁🧁 And I'll even throw in some 🍟🍟
YUM YUMMMMM MISS BRAINS, make the fries before the muffins...
FRIES... MUFFINS AND EVERYTHING NICE 🤪
Miss brains is the best, a full tummy makes a man happy 😌
Turn the heater to the MAX so miss brains becomes very warm, it seems the warmer miss brains get, the more delicious food we get 🤤
😂😂😂
You will keep laughing miss brains muffins until i BITE your forehead 😈
Careful now, I may bite back...
HA HA 😄 miss brains is cold so she might bite back!
Let mortal kombat begins! And we will see who will which ofc will be me 😌
I'll keep miss brains muffins alive and not because of the muffins and delicious meals, but because she makes then king happy 🤴🏻
Do you know why miss brains muffins never works outside when she's with her king?
It's because king tony the 2nd can't get enough of her, no time to waste for jobs and working outside, she will be like a housewife only in his cave making the king happy and she have to create board games and she will have her forehead bitten when she loses 😂😂
So you just assume you'll win huh🥊🥊
Yeah i'll win miss brains muffins, FLAWLESS VICTORY too 😁
I have to be careful because miss brains is tricky and might use her special powers to win!
We will see miss brains muffins who will win 😈
I'll just distract you with 🍟 and a muffin 🧁 and when you least expect it...🥊😂
So that's the plan miss brains eyyyy 🤨
Make me distracted with all the goodies!
I'll bite the forehead of miss brain immediatly to paralyze her cause her forehead is the source of her energy 😁
That i take her to bed, cover her well so she becomes very warm and than make sure that she's sleeping like a baby than i'll return to eat all the fries ans muffins alone, ofc with COCA COLA 😌🥤
😂😂😂 you'll get heartburn for sure lolol
Miss brains takes good care of her king which means i'll always be healthy and in return, when i put miss brains in bed, no one is allowed to disturb her, she will sleep warm and comfortable in bed and no will will wake her up with noises or other things, the brain of miss brains needs to sleep and dream 😴
No dreams. I been having bad dreams lately so rather not
I'll kiss the forehead of miss brains while she's sleeping so she have beautiful dreams in the world of muffins 😊
Thanks lolol
Your welcome miss brains 😌
I think at the core , we are all bias. Stereotypes doesn't come out of thin air. We as humans observe actions and pattern of behavior in others based on gender , age , race , nationality etc... and make a judgement. This Isn't always right , but it isn't always wrong either.
However, people who think that stereotypes are written in stone are idiots.
"However, people who think that stereotypes are written in stone are idiots."
With that I agree...
A double standard isn't hateful by design. If your a mother you likely hold double standards against your oldest and youngest, because you have different expectations for them. Double standards aren't the issue, it's hateful people.
I agree, except the kid thing, both mind are adults, and I would hold em both to the same standard at this point and time
There was a time, about six millennia ago or so, when assumptions saved lives, like---
Today's society isn't that situation anymore--
I really like that one, because I think it´s true. We guys do have double standards we don´t want to admit.
Thanks 🙂
And Women do too. I think people period need to stop trying to hold people to standards they don't adhere to themselves...
Yes that´s true, online dating made things worse because now everybody feels entitled to people who seeem to look even better and everybody just wants the best.
Right! Social media has destroyed a lot of things in my opinion
Yup. I just deal with it by judging people as individuals. There are cool people and jackasses everywhere. That's why some of my favorite people on here disagree with me most of the time and some of my least favorite agree with me most of the time.
Exactly!! Well said!!
You think about people first. Not their gender, skin color, political view, etc. That's what makes you a good person.
Nice piece.
Thank you!
"think about people first. Not their gender, skin color, political view, etc." exactly that is exactly where we ALL need to be! Thank you Sir (salutes 🙂)
I think part of it is that those who are loudest online are the most dissatisfied.
👍🙂 thanks for reading 💜
I wouldn’t miss it for the world.
Aww thanks 🤗🤗
You’re welcome
Actualy the concept of a Stud is rather new. In the old days a man who slept around was called a fillanderer and was often either hung from a tree of on the business end of a shotgun.
And in some countries women are still dealt with that way, sometimes just for not being a virgin
Men and women are biologically different, and therefore fit in different societal roles and have different expectation. Everything you've posted is a result of our biology including sleeping around. Men and women have equal rights, but we are not identical. It's not a matter of superiority or inferiority, but rather accepting our differences and letting these differences complement each other.
I enjoyed reading this and boy you hit the nail on the head with this one
Thank you (heart emoji) (smiley face) needed to be said but also need to keep the circulation in my fingers lololol
All of what you have said here is gold. I know however, that I hold bias within myself... I try to be good but I'm not always perfect unfortunately when it comes to this... all I can do is hope to catch myself when I've made a mistake
Thanks 🙂
You are welcome 😊
Couldn't agree more.
Such middle grounds are needed a lot.
Thanks and I agree. . None of us are perfect, we all have some flaws even me haha ok especially me lolol and we have differences, but that doesn't mean we don't also have similarities in what we want in life and how we want to be treated
In the end, everyone needs a partner who would care for em. Hating others is just a phase, better kill em with kindness lol
😂😂 couldn't agree there more either lolol
What a fantastic read. Thank you for addressing these issues. Hopefully this reaches a lot people here
Thank you 💜🙂 would be nice, butt 🤷🏼♀️
I have a few other double standards I could mention but I won't say them here
There's a lot of them, I agree
It's not only here on GAG but I've noticed it in real life too.
I notice or more on here I've only ever met one person IRL that was like that, but he was on social media a lot, so was here already that way, or did he become that way from overexposure of bias and sexism on the internet 🤷🏼♀️ either way I couldn't stay friends with someone like that
Excellent take... But there will always be bias. Its human nature
Sadly have to agree