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If someone's entire existence and reason for living was to serve ONE PERSON and one person alone (not any religious deities or higher powers; just one human being), how would you feel about that? Would you have a positive reaction to that or a negative reaction to that? Or do you just not care? Please explain your reasoning.

If there’s a Women’s history month, where all of the female accomplishments sure recognized for an entire month, why shouldn’t there be a Men’s History Month? Where we acknowledge Men’s positive achievements instead of their negative ones? Shouldn’t Men’s positive achievements be recognized just as women’s are?

I feel like there should be a Men’s History Month because people only think of Men’s negative impacts in the world... And that doesn’t seem fair at all... We should recognize men’s achievements. Like for example how men have fought in all of the world’s previous wars to keep their women and children safe and free at the cost of their own lives. Or how when shit it’s the fan it was the men who had to be left behind while the women and children escaped. There are plenty more positive Male achievements that aren’t recognized that are extremely undervalued in society in order to make way for female recognition when in all honesty, do they really deserve it when all they did was for themselves and other women? While men have sacrificed their own lives for the betterment of others? Regardless of whether they wanted to or not? All I’m saying is celebrating women for their own achievements is extremely selfish in my opinion especially when there isn’t even a men’s history month or something equivalent to women’s history month. Who even started the ridiculous idea of (placeholder) history month? This doesn’t bring us together at all.

I think one of the gifts of relationships is they challenge you to work on yourself, with your partner and grow as a person. We all have "ourselves". Two people coming intimately together will have to work to keep create and build a healthy relationship.

One thing I had to learn at the ripe age of 50+ was how to listen without reacting to my partner. She would be communicating in a genuine and clear way and I'd react and go defense... my conditioned response to verbal threat. The conversation spun down out of control from there as I'd resist and fight and she'd work harder to get a message across... ending up tired and frustrated.

The root of this was with me, my ability to listen to what she was saying. Here's an
example.
She said: I'm not feeling well, tired... and I said "I'm sorry to hear...".
She responded..."don't say you are sorry".
My internal reaction can be defensive... why is shy affronting what I just said?

This leave me baffled as to what to say next. I said I'd call back in a few, I thought about it while shopping and come back a few minutes later as I realized what I communicated dropped the energy of the conversation down... and it made her feel worse. My statment was negative when she needed positive emotional support! By changing my response to a positive response "Im here for you and can help you feel better", ... made her feel better and all was well.

->I had to learn to listen and not react, understand what she was saying. Not everyone is the same, your partner may be different.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-53588201

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