Does he like me back?

[Jayde21]

I like this guy from the garage who teaches me a lot about cars, i am there for internship, 5 years difference and he's 6'7 and im 5'1. He always asks me if im okay and helps me a lot even if im not asking for it. He always holds the door open for me and tries to make me laugh a lot by making funny faces and making jokes. he's very sweet and polite and very caring too, makes tea for me sometimes. you know that sweet things and gentleman like.

Its just, one day we can talk and laugh a lot and the second day we are a bit quiet to each other. Sometimes im scared he gets tired of me because i can't do anything on my own yet cuz i need to learn a lot and he needs to be with me always and help me. Sometimes i feel guilty for that.
People in the garage ship us too, that we look good together and that.

And his mother has a sickness and he's very scared for covid, which i understand but two weeks ago i was in quarantaine because two people in my house got positive on covid but i was negative, i didn't go to there for one week but last week i got called by the boss and she asked me of i can come next week because he (that guy i am talking about) didn't wanted me to come because he was very scared still because of his mother, i was negative, didn't had covid and everyone was out of quarantaine, no covid in house anymore but still didn't wanted me to come...

i understand that because of his mother but i got a weird feeling about this and still dont understand, if he's that scared, why is he on work? Why did they put me by him and not by the other if he's that scared? And also he also comes very close to me always, touch me sometimes and it seems he doesn't mind. If he's really that scared he will ask me to hold distance or take distance from me or walk with a mask around, And what is the difference with if i didn't came last week and come next week? I still can get covid any time because i still go to school yk?

I have a weird feeling that it is more than his mom...

[caring__1]

It doesn't sound like COVID is the real issue here. I was in a similar situation many years ago. I was teaching a college class on stage props, and we would construct props for theatrical productions. There was a girl in this class who was gorgeous in my eyes, yet I viewed her as unattainable. I would always give her tasks to do that were slightly beyond her ability... so she'd ask me to help her. It wasn't until a year after that class ended before I got up enough nerve to actually let her know I was interested. Unfortunately, though she admitted she felt the attraction when she was in my class, the timing was bad, as she just started seeing another guy. We eventually did connect, though by then I was no longer local, and she couldn't handle the distance. Let him know you're enjoying learning from him. Show some interest, and give him the opportunity to walk through the door you are holding open.

[Jayde21]

Thank you very much, i know i have problems with being open and showing what im feeling inside because i wasn't sure how he felt and i was scared that the feeling wasn't mutual and i would get hurt but I think your right. I need to show him i really enjoy it and my interest in him too.

[caring__1]

You're welcome. We'll never move in a positive direction if we hold everything in. What's the worse that could happen? You find out he isn't on the same page as you. Would you prefer pretending you're on the same page and have the truth come out 20 year and 3 kids from now? You may not want to hear a person isn't interested, but that knowledge can set you free to find what you seek in real life. The more you deal with real life, the easier it becomes. I can't guaranty any short-term results, but clear, open, honest communication will lead you to definitely be happier in the long run.

[Jayde21]

Yes your completely right but one thing is that i dont understand... if covid isn't the real problem... then what is it? Is he trying to avoid me in any way or?

[caring__1]

It appears he has mixed feelings about you, and he's in conflict. He's drawn to you, but he may fear a negative response from you if he does initiate, especially if he leans toward introversion. I'm not sure if he is friendly toward everyone or just you. If he acts that way toward everyone, you may be seeing what you want to see, which may not be accurate. Maybe he gets mixed signals from you, or maybe he's been rejected in the past. You may want to be more consistent and assertive, yet don't come on strong or be aggressive. You could say "I made too much food or desserts, so I thought I share the extra with you." You could also say, "If you ever find yourself interested, I'd be receptive." Without knowing him, I can't say if he's just a friendly guy or if there is true interest. Show interest in his mother's well being. Maintain your mask and social distance unless he invites more closeness. Eventually, his true feelings will come out.

[Jayde21]

he's a very nice guy to everyone but he did things for me that made me think that maybe he has a little interest in me, like making funny faces. he never does to everyone or when someone is with us, he only does when we are alone and like always asking me if im feeling alright and if im tired i should just tell him and when I had a hard time getting the valve off the tire on the left two tires and came back for the right tires, he had already loosened them for me, without my knowledge and I thought that was super sweet. When i was in the warehouse opening boxes he came there too. which was funny cuz we didn't spoke eachother a lot or be with eachotther at all. He was looking around (looking for something) but i had the feeling he was checking up on me and later he throwed the old boxes away for me which was my task to do but he did it And when i had to go to the doctor and came back he asked how it went and i said a little different than expected but alright and he was a bit silent and asked very gentle "Can i ask what it was?". He asked me what car i like and what car i want later. He also teases me a bit. When i was a bit sad he immediately saw it and asked if i was alright and tries to make me laugh and smile. He later asked if i had help home because i was sad. The guys made warm water for my tea and he was the one that put it in and made the tea for me while i was standing next to him, i couldve done it too but he did it. He always holds the door open for me when im walking behind him until im in too. he also didn't let me put on a big and heavy tire on the car because he didn't wanted me to hurt my back and did it for me.

[Jayde21]

So much sweet thigs he did and i just can't understand why i can't be open to him or ask him things. Im very introverted and hard to know and thats for him difficult, maybe he is like that because he can't get to know me. Ill see him in one/two days and ill be more open to him and ask him more things and do things for him too. I see now that all the time he didn't get a proper reaction from me or a good "thankful" one, or a interested one.

[Jayde21]

He also glances a lot at me and the other guy from the garage who are talking but everytime i look he looks away. He also does when im just walking around, not looking.

Im very thankful for you letting me see this things, i really need to change things

[caring__1]

When we do things for others, we appreciate when they at least acknowledge them. Make sure you acknowledge, appreciate, initiate and reciprocate.