Search Results: marriage and feelings

[Committed relationship likely on the marriage track. You are not ready. They have been ready Ford years.]

So for example, you have a plan to both move together where they can get an an ok job temporarily till something better & you have a scholarship to a good school… Instead they ask you to move somewhere where they have a really good job and in five years they can support you in school and they promise to see it as balanced contribution, rather than that they are “paying for you”. Obviously you can do long distance so the point is they want you to stay with them instead, tho it temporarily puts you at a disadvantage.

(This is only meant to be a crude example so don’t get bogged down in the details. The main point is one person puts things off and the otter supports them until they are in a better position, bc of having put things off.😊)

Personally, I don’t know if I’d mind putting things off. I just Would have concerns over the imbalance of power we’d have in our lives. Not that they would necessarily hold it against me, but it’s exist and I wouldn’t like feeling dependent. So I don't know. I mean I think some people feel like if the trust and respect is there, it shouldn’t be a problem… but I say we never really know how things will affect us and it’s a lot to hinge on an agreement. People change.