Do men know when they've met "the one"?

[Anonymous]

My fiance said to me the other day that when we met, he just had this overwhelming feeling and sense to "take care of me" for the rest of his life. He said it was "game over" and he knew he was "done" when we started dating and that it was a feeling he just couldn't explain. I find that to be the single most sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me. Yet, I'm a very guarded person and I don't talk about my feelings that much. He tells me it's ok to be vulnerable sometimes and allow myself to feel things but with my relationships and friendships, I just never trust that anyone is 100% able to love and be loyal to someone for the rest of their lives. So is it true that men really do just "know" when they want to love one woman for the rest of their lives. I've never been more in love (only been in love once before him at like 18 years old) so I knew when I met him that I wanted to be with him. We are both almost 40. Both divorced. Been dating for 1 1/2 years and are living together. I love him and can't picture my life without him. I'm just guarded and don't know if I believe that a man can love someone and be loyal forever. To note: we both got married to our previous partners at a young age and because we had kids with them so we felt obligated. It was never love with them so when he says he wants to get married and even have more kids, it makes me nervous bc this marriage would actually be doing it because I'm in love. Do men really get married because they love that person and don't want to look for anyone else? Do they get that feeling of not wanting to look anymore and wanting to take care of their wife for the rest of their lives?

[exitseven]

I knew that my future wife was exactly who I was looking for. However when I met her I was really fed up with dating. I had just ended a short relationship with somebody else the night before. I had planned on giving up women for a while. So I was really ready to stop the dating crap and find somebody I wanted to have a life with.

[Asker]

He told me the same thing. That he was "too old" for drama and bullshit and just wants to live a peaceful life with me so I get it. Thanks.

[exitseven]

very cool. I'm sure he means it.

[FictionalCharacter]

@exitseven

How did you meet your wife?

[bongo]

It's genuinely heartwarming to hear about the connection you and your fiance share, especially with the depth of feelings he's expressed. The thing about love, especially the profound, once-in-a-lifetime kind, is that it's both a universal and deeply personal experience. Yes, men can absolutely know when they've met "the one." It's not about gender, really; it's about the person and the connection you share. When someone meets a person they deeply connect with, they might experience a profound, inexplicable feeling—a kind of certainty about their future with that person. It sounds like that's what your fiance felt with you.

Your feelings of being guarded are entirely understandable, especially considering your past experiences. Trust and vulnerability are aspects of a relationship that grow over time, and it's okay to take your time to feel comfortable with them. Love, loyalty, and commitment are possible, and many people do experience and cherish them throughout their lives. It's also worth noting that every relationship is unique, and what didn't work in the past isn't a blueprint for the future.

Marriage, at its core, should be about wanting to share your life with someone because of love, not obligation. It sounds like both you and your fiance are entering this with a lot of love and a desire to be together for the right reasons, which is beautiful. It's okay to be nervous about making such a significant commitment, especially when it's driven by genuine love this time around. It's a big step, but it sounds like you both are on the same page about wanting to be together and build a future.

Communication is key, so keep talking to each other about your fears, hopes, and dreams. It's through these conversations that you'll continue to build trust and deepen your connection. Remember, it's okay to be vulnerable with someone you love and trust—they're the ones who will handle your heart with care.

Best wishes to both of you on this incredible journey together. It sounds like you've both found something truly special.

[Anonymous]

Men can be more romantic, emotional, and committed than women are credited for, when they think they are on to a good thing.
For some it's specific to only one woman (they call it one-itis - like it's a disease). And they won't let go (unless you're an absolute pig to them).
Chances are, over time, you'll learn to trust the depth of his feelings (and your own) if he's truly all that and prove to yourself that every now and again, fairy tales do exist.
So take your time, you're older and more mature this time, enjoy the scenery, enjoy the journey, enjoy each other.

[Caramelpie]

Yes, he will love her unconditionally, respect her and it won’t take him time before he start talking about us instead of you and I and after some time he will think about purposing to her.

[PrettyPriya]

This is an excellent question, asker. I look forward to hearing the answers as I am in a newer relationship and have wondered just this about “the one”.

Kudos on the question! ❤️

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for mhg 🙏❤️

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 30's and I have yet to meet "the one". Those days of "I'm marrying my high school sweetheart" are over in my opinion. I admit, in my late teens and 20s, I was immature but the girls I dealt with were immature as well. I don't want a girl who smokes, does drugs, drinks booze and parties like some 16 year old girl when she's in her late 20s. We live in odd times, sometimes people are destined for happiness earlier than others and yes, unfortunately, myself included have to wait longer. For me, I don't care if a girl had a troubled past or did things she's not proud of because none of us are perfect.

But when I met the one I will know that because -- She's not talking about other people, she mentions that she wants to have a family one day, she has an education background (ie: went to university or college at least), she's not chasing the high lavish, she has good morals/values, I find attractive and she's healthy overall and mentally strong. That's what I want in a girl and I can't sell myself short and deal with a damaged girl who doesn't want to fix her life. I'm willing to help others but at the same time I need to be mindful of my health, well-being.

[wise5]

I would say yes, at least that was how it was for me.
It's hard to explain but I'll try. It's like this magnetic attraction, a feeling of "she's the one" if you would. It's like you feel whole for the first time in your life when your around them. A feeling of losing something when they are not around. A feeling of destiny. It's more than lust which fades quickly. It's a feeling that you have found your soulmate.

That's how it was for me. It's not the same for every guy.

[Asker]

This is pretty much how he put it. And ironically the same night he told me this stuff, I was on the phone with my cousin earlier that day and said "he just makes me feel like I can rely on him" so I guess I need to quit being so hard on people and questioning their intentions and just accept that men are genuine when they say things. Thanks for the response!

[wise5]

Not all men are that way there are those you do need to worry about the "Bad Boys" so to speak. I'm sure your aware of the stereotype. Best thing you can do is take it at face value at first, let his actions do the talking. You said it yourself, he makes you feel like you can rely on him. That speaks volumes right there. You trust him. That one of the strongest bonds in a relationship tied with loyalty. If he's serious than he has eyes for you and you alone.

I can't stress this enough I'm no love guru, I'm just a loving husband.

[Mofunfour20]

"the one" implies that there's only one woman for me. Guys know in 2 seconds weather or not they are sexually attracted to a woman. What she does after i see her can make me more or less attracted to her. Same with women, within 2 seconds of seeing a guy they can assess if they want his attention or not. What he says or does after will cause attraction to increase or decrease. You should study the biology of sexual attraction, its very interesting why women and men move the way they do

[Jjcatt]

I was dating two ladies at once, lady “A”proposed to me, but my feelings for weren’t strong, I said no, she said she was ok and we could keep dating, mayb I’ll change my mind one day, but instead I broke up with her because I knew for a while I was going to stop seeing her because I was falling in love with lady “B”, and I’m happy to say I proposed to her and now we are engaged, and yes I did tell her about lady”A”, now there is one lady in my life and I love my beautiful fiancé so much

[lucas262]

Any girl that is around a 8_10 hot snd a 4_5 crazy is wife material.

No man is going to marry a reformed hoe and have a wife.

I think most guys decision sounds more like this is someone I can see myself with for the rest of my life or don't want to do without.

Only a fool says this is the ,, one,, out of millions truth us there are many of the ,, ones,, that will have the qualities worth committing to. That goes for men and women

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes 100%. The trouble is, you have to experience the opposite of true love to realise it when it hits you!

[Bobme]

Since you have been living together and dating for a year and a half it doesn't matter how many other women he gave that line ( "the one" "game over") too.
If things now make you happy that is all that matters.
🧁🧁🧁🧁

[Clarke498]

Yeah i think it's totally possible.
Find the right personality in the right package, and i do believe that feeling will show up. I guess I'm a romantic. But I'm also a realist, so i doubt I'll find her.

[Jake99999]

If you two have found each other and you are in love and happy, that is all that matters.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

There is no “the one” you are always replaceable even if it takes years to do so.

[Twalli]

I don't think anyone knows they found the one until after years. Since you both have a good idea of what you're looking for, it's possible

[anylolone]

No, because there ain't such a thing as "the one".
Plenty believe they have and get screwed after.

[Relux47]

I think I’ve met the one but then it never really ends up that way

[Waldoe]

every Girl has the potential to be the "One" and after a month, the guy will know.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t think so but saying that I now know that I have deffo found the one but I wish things were the same for her 😢

[Anonymous]

Had the feeling before, it blew up in my face. Feelings don’t mean shit.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but I've been rejected and also have broken it off from girls I felt that way for. It doesn't guarantee a relationship

[eagle1951]

ZI did i meant the wrong first than the right 5 years later was married to her 37 years

[Slim57]

No one knows until they're still beside you at your deathbed

[Anonymous]

How do you know he’s the one?