Open realtionship tips/how to make him happy /how I look?

[Anonymous]

I've been with someone on and off for several years, i love him very much we spoke about marriage and our futures togther often. However all realtionships has its ups and downs and i endeed up gaining weight at some point in time and he began cheating on me. we broke up for a couple months then we got back togther. i lost the weight and slowly gained some back after getting togther , he told me that he's not as sexually aroused towards me as he was before and tried to leave me and i wouldn't allow it. During our breakup i actually had a job oppurtuinty and i left to move out of state. He told me he feels he is missing out on other women and that it was hard because i was living three hours away from him and i pretty much told him we can have an open realtionship because i do admit i gained my weight back, im far away and i dont want to lose him. I agreed to move in with him in the next couple weeks so i can be under his full supervison and we can have our threesomes or he can be with other women untill he is happy with how i look again. Before you ask yes i am okay with this because its also a fantasy of mine to be with other women. Sometimes i do get scared that he is going to like someone more than me or catch feelings. He told me my personality is what he is attracted to the most and he's never been so in love and whats to marry me but my weight has pushed him away. I want to know how can i make him happy while im trying to lose weight how do i make him feel like a man. he's really big on do what he says and do what he wants before he asks. So like clean up his room, and wake him up with head, and i can only wear what he wants when we go out. Thats kinda how our dynamic is but I feel alittle bit like i could lose him to other women he's excited about having sex with someone new and he's been getting extra compliments these days. This is my first time in an open realtionship, does anyone have any pointers for me.

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I really would appercite any and all tips

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[caring__1]

Agreeing to an open relationship in order to hold onto a guy will generally backfire, especially if you struggle with your weight and it is an issue for him. When he chooses someone to have sex with, she'll always be closer to his ideal, so your insecurities and jealousies will get in the way. You'll compare yourself to these other women and always feel you fall short. It's very important to feel good about what you bring to a relationship. You'll probably need constant reassurance, rather than believing in yourself, and he'll see it as smothering to him.

[Asker]

wow... your spot on. The thing is i do want to be with other women and i allways have. I do seek constant reassurence because im not happy with myself however i do think it means something that he said on the inside im his perfect dream girl but its just the weight gain that he dosnt love. He himself has made a transition in his looks and is loving the compliments he gets from other woman and men

[Asker]

Do you really think it couldnt work? i see myself feeling more confident as i lose the weight because i was loving myself when i did. And he loved me and treated me better

[caring__1]

It may work for you, if the two of you plan to continue this lifestyle indefinitely, but what happens if one wants to stop? Let's say you get pregnant, will you want to continue the lifestyle? Will you want him to be with other women while you are pregnant? How will you feel about him being energized by other women, whereas the intensity diminishes as you become more familiar to him. I'm not saying this lifestyle doesn't work for some, but ask yourself whether it is worth the gamble.

If you're curious about being with women, how about setting up guidelines and a cutoff point where the behavior will stop. Just don't expect him to lose the desire for newness once that time has been reached and you are no longer new.

[Asker]

Well once i lose this weight he wants to stop having sex with other women and if i get pregnant he will cut everything off. I do want to be with other women myself so i was thinking to keep this up about a year or less.. I don't know depends how it goes.

[caring__1]

Are you saying you'll maintain your weight for another year. The longer you maintain it, the harder it will be to lose. Don't make unilateral decisions regarding anything that might impact others. He may question whether you are still questioning your sexuality, and he may not want to put in another year, only to find out you choose to be a lesbian.

Weight is going to be harder to maintain as you get older. Pregnancy puts on weight, and many women find it hard to get it off afterward. Also, our metabolism changes as we age, making it harder to keep weight off. When your metabolism changes, you won't be able to eat what you eat now without gaining weight. You'll have to eat less and exercise more in order to maintain your weight.

Hopefully, your insecurities won't get in the way when he's having sex with other women. Have regular ongoing discussions with him to make sure your choices don't take you down a path neither of you want to go.

[Asker]

we are going to be having sex with other women togther, but i guess you do have a point and no i won't stay the same weight but as long as im not overweight and once im pregant there will only be just us. i caint ask him questions about the future or too many questions at once especailly in regards to this

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

open relations are for losers, with no lives

you may as well just call it an friends with benefits

which, as that should be, is also for pathetic losers, with no lives

[Asker]

pathetic is a 32 year old single man asking girls what they like sexually or what sexy clothing do they like to wear... pathetic is a man who caint have a threesome let alone any women's attention in any way shape or form so he takes his sexual frustration and self hate out on the internet for fun. Im guessing you have condoms thats just been in your wallet our somewhere from 10 years ago. 32 and thriving lmao. Instead of asking "girls" on the internet sexually Motivated questions go ask women or direct your creepy questions for women online. But id rather have no life anyday than to live what you think is life?

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

pathetic is a girl who can't commit

[JuliaStyles]

Are you trolling because you can't be serious. Your relationship. if you can even call it one, has been up and down and you have wasted a lot of time on something that may never change. Move on, You deserve better than this.

[ughherewegoagain]

This is degenerate and gross. 🤮 just stop getting fat, and move on.

[Asker]

straight forward , im being honest this is good advice lol but I don't know if im going to move on because i want to be with other women. But the stop getting fat thing is factssss

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

I want to insult you, but I don’t feel like reading your whole post to find a way to make it actually sting.

Be more concise next time so I can accurately berate you. This time just go ahead and imagine I said the thing that’s going to hurt your feelings the most.

Do better.

[Asker]

Just imagine that you actually said something that hurt my feelings lmfao
Do better

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Don’t worry, I did. You're the one that needs to do better here.

[Asker]

lmfao are you telling me you did or are you just making up stuff to make your days go by quicker

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Who knows you, better than yourself?

[Asker]

God does

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

That’s some shitty self awareness then. In all likelihood god doesn’t even know you exist.

[Anonymous]

bitch wtf is wrong with you? don't you have any self respect for yourself or any pride? seriously wtf is wrong with you where you would stoop to such lows for some guy. he's not even a guy he's a man child and a player and you're foolish enough to be with him? why? seriously why? grow a vagina grow a set of ovaries and leave his manchild piece of shit ass and find someone better who will respect you for who you are. listen if you put weight on like you claim you did then that means your titties got bigger. men like women with big tits. you need to get some confidence and ditch his worthless ass. why the fuck should you share your man with another woman for? wtf is wrong with you? fuck him and leave his loser ass where you originally found him

[Asker]

lmao yes they love that but i am over weight and men dont love that.

[Opinion Owner]

girl get yourself some confidence for christ sake you got a hole between your legs guys fuck that hole regardless of what you look like. remember guys fuck any woman they see they just don't go bragging to their friends about it.
look if a fat nasty swine pig like roseanne can get laid why the fuck can't you get a guy? think about it? or if someone as nasty as nancy pelosi and hillary clinton can get a guy why can't you?

[Hulk30]

lookin your best is a great idea but it seems like this cat wants to control ya and if i were you i'd leave him immediately and if ya need anything else to talk about please just ask im really sorry about your hardships peace and blessins

[Asker]

I fully know he wants and does control me im just happy to be with im. He wants me to do everything he says and i i will. I just want to make him happy and not be mad at me.

[Luckycharms12]

You need to leave that man his selfish and clearly doesn't care about you if did wouldn't of cheated on you

[Asker]

i can get what your saying but i also understand why he did i gained weight

[Luckycharms12]

So what you put on a light weight. He cheated then had cheek to say he wasn't in to you cos put on few pounds like his perfect.

[Luckycharms12]

Dump him find someone actually cares about you and treat you good that would be my advice

[Asker]

i gained 30 pounds so its a lot and i understand but i also know now how important it is to look good for other men. Like looks will go along way

[Luckycharms12]

Nah when start dating sure after that get to know you person it's different. Tbh he his a dick. But your life

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[Asker]

nice

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