What does he want from me? Is he interested in having a realtionship?

[user73984]

Hi girls and guys! I (w;21y/o) had dates with a guy (m;22y/o) that I know from my childhood. We spent a whole evening together a few days ago, after not having seen each other for a few years. That evening we talked and laughed a lot, just had a great time in general. I also stayed over cause it got quite late and we had s**. I'm not the kind of person to do that so soon, but with him i felt safe and it felt like he was interested in more (than just friends with benefits,...) from the beginning on. The next morning he made breakfast, we ate together and then he took me back home. That evening he also called and asked what I had planned for the next day and if I would like to meet up again. It was my last evening in town before leaving for visiting my grandma a few hundred miles away. I had to catch a train later that evening, which he also knew about. He also asked if he should take me to the train station after our date. So I agreed on it and visited him later that day. Again we had a fun time. We were talking and laughing lots and also went out for dinner, which felt completely normal and comfortable. Then we were cuddling and kissing, and as discussed, he drove me to the train station. the ride was fun too. We were singing to the radio, had talks, but also silent moments which did not feel weird either. When we arrived, he escorted me into the train station. just before I got onto the train he kissed me goodbye, wished me a safe journey and asked me to text him on arrival. Since then he, however, has not made the effort to text/call me. I called him the next day after I arrived, which seemed to make him happy and he also thanked me for calling him (Whatever that means). He does not call me though. It's been 4 days since I left town and apart from the call I made, we haven't spoken. Now my question is: Is he serious about it and just needs time to sort his feelings? What should I do and why is he not contacting me? Sorry for the long text

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to determine someone's intentions and feelings with absolute certainty, but from what you've described, it seems like he had a positive and enjoyable time with you during your time together. It's possible that he might be interested but is unsure about the next steps or may need some time to process his feelings.

In this situation, it's a good idea to communicate openly with him. You could send him a friendly message expressing that you enjoyed your time together and that you'd like to see him again. This can help clarify his intentions and encourage further interaction.

Remember that it's important to give him space and not pressure him. People have different communication styles and may need more time to reach out. If he responds positively, you can discuss your expectations and intentions for the future to see if you're on the same page.

Ultimately, open and honest communication is key to understanding where both of you stand and what you both want from the relationship.

[user73984]

Hi, thank you for your answer.

When I called, I told him that I really enjoyed my time with him and he agreed on that. He also asked when I will be back, before I left, and said that we will see each other then for sure.

He should contact me some time though if it meant anything to him. I don't think it's good if I contact him again now though, right? As that might seem desperate and might pressure him as you said. If he doesn't reach out, I'll know that it wasn't so important to him I guess...

[Opinion Owner]

You're right that it's important to maintain a balance in communication and not come across as overly eager or desperate. Since you've already reached out once after your trip and expressed your feelings, it might be a good idea to give him some space and time to initiate contact if he's genuinely interested. It's possible that he has his own reasons for not reaching out immediately.

In the meantime, focus on your own activities and interests, and let things develop naturally. If he doesn't contact you, it might indicate that he's not as invested in the relationship as you are, or he might need more time to sort out his feelings. In either case, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

[user73984]

I totally agree and will do that! Thank you so much. Was good to hear that from someone else.

[RavVid]

Maybe he feels he is stalking you?

Given you've fucked and had dates two days in a row then I would feel entitled to call you and think it necessary to keep things bubbling along. It does seem the interactions were good enough to expect it to bubble along for longer.

I find it perplexing too. Whilst it is his turn to call, I'd suggest you should call him

[SueShe]

No, he is not interested in having a long term relationship.

It seems as he was glad you were so easy to fornicate with and that is about it. He is probably looking forward to your return so that he can copulate with you again but there is nothing deeper than that.

He may have given you the feeling that he was basically just waiting for you all those years since childhood.

I think that it should be clear to you that he is not really interested beyond getting into your pants. Do not have great hopes that he is the one for you for life. This is just not happening outside fairy tales. Be realistic and don't hold onto something that is never going to happen.

[user73984]

Might be, but he did not seem like he only wanted sex, there was more behind it. Just weird that he doesn't reach out now.

You might be right though...

[SueShe]

I also find it strange. If there was more behind, then he would make sure to be as close to you by calling/texting you as often as possible.

[user73984]

Also true, I'm thinking he might need time. It would be a LDR, so maybe he has to consider that as well. If he doesn't text/call soon, I will give up though.

[Avicenna]

It's hard to tell. You two need to spend more time together to figure things out

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he is interested in keeping you as a piece of ass while keeping his options opened for other girls

[exitseven]

It appears that kidsxtoday have to be in touch with each other 24/7 or else it is not a relationship. I can remember the three day rule. you were not supposed to call a girl after a date until 3 days after. You did not want to look too needy. Just relax, maybe call him. It does not have to be weird.

[YAsQuen]

Men HATE communicatig through phones. ITS INHUMANE.

[In_Trance]

Talk to him