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I meet a guy a few years ago. We were neighbors. He started washing my car every week. I tried to pay him and he wouldn't take the money. I then found out he was living with his girlfriend at the time. Then they moved out. Then I hear from him a few months later telling me he has crush and wants to take me out and that him and the girl he was dating broke up. But then he kept making excuses when it came time to hang out. Then when questioned I found out that he decided to go back to the same girl he was living with. Now in 2023 we happened to run into each other and reconnect and he still saying he still wants to hang out and that he knows he made a mistake before and that he and the girl ended up broking up shortly after that. However it's been almost a month since we've been in communication and he is still making plans only to cancel or take a raincheck. He asked me to be his valentines and then said oh well I have to bring you the gift I got you early cause I'm working on Valentines day. But on valentines day morning told me he would be able to come see me. Then at the last minute says he cannot get off work and has to stay late and can we go on a date this coming weekend. He is consistently making plans and then canceling or asking for a raincheck. We have yet to actually go on a date. Am I just being paranoid in thinking maybe he is still involved with someone. Am I just wasting my time thinking this guy is going to ever step up? Or does he just want to hook up and potentially ghost me afterwards?

So last night I met up with boyfriend, we were supposed to spend the night & Saturday morning / evening together.

Unfortunately my brother (paramedic) got called into work & he was supposed to help our father with an appointment on Saturday morning. Dad is disabled so us kids take turns on who goes with him to appointments as we're both in the medical profession.

I told my boyfriend this & apologized a number of times for the short notice. I told him you know I'd have to not stay the night but we can continue on with the rest of the plan for Saturday.

Anyway come the morning he's left where he was (he comes from another city, was at a hotel). He didn't even bother telling me he was leaving or saying goodbye. I only learnt about it by asking what was he doing & a text back of "driving".

He said he was annoyed & had woken up at 4am with "nothing to do", etc. Honestly, in all the back & forth, it seems all he cares for is the sex (why else leave)

Yes I get it but honestly it was a minor situation on my side. It's not like I waited until he was asleep after having sex & walked out on him... he knew why I left and had been okay with it that evening (he'd agreed to Saturday).

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I won't be involved with him much beyond this. I am not someone who takes kindly to emotional manipulation / abuse which, in many ways, his antics are.