So this girl at work I think likes me, so at work I noticed every once in a while she always ask me for help on instant messager at work to help her work the printer or scan something or asking questions about a file in the system, sometimes the answer is clear and easy to find in the system, so I would and think nothing of it she's being lazy, she's been doing this for a while now off and on and she only asks me no one else. So, I started to wonder I noticed she takes the long way to get to her desk all the time caught her looking once and she looked away quickly, whenever she passes by my desk, but when I'm in break room and she sees me in there she'll take the short quick way back to her desk using the door nearest to her side of the office and desk. And I started noticing when I go to my bosses office down near her side of the office she'll take quick stares at me walking down and when I look her way she looks down. Then, when I need to talk to her she can't look me in the eye weird right? Then while she's handing me something she's looking down and not at me. So, yesterday she comes into work and she takes the long way to pass by my desk and she's dressed up & walked into the break room opened the fridge and didn't get anything out or put anything in, I noticed it. She's started to dress up more, I dunno if it's just to get my attention. Today, she saw me standing in hallway staircase, and we laughed and smiled at each other as we almost bumped each other and she was acting like she was about to call someone on her phone, then maybe 10 seconds she comes back and asks about a file I was working on for her the day before, but I was already working on it and she knew that as I told her through the instant messenger. We are talking, she's staring directly into my eyes none stop and smiling as I talk which I started to feel that attraction and I started smiling as well as we talked, but she leaves & doesn't call anyone, she only came out to see me, what's going on?
It is entirely possible she has a thing for you or those are signals. It is also entirely possible that is all in your head and what you want to think. You might have caught her a couple times looking and now thinks she does it all the time. She might also genuinely being doing that.
I would say the biggest indicator is the smiling when you are having a conversation. That is a low-key way of flirting. So, the question is what are you going to do about it? If she is trying to get your attention, it is likely that she is not the type of person to make the first move.
I would really think long and hard about if it is worth getting into a relationship with a coworker. At their best, those relationships are a work distraction between two people. At their worst, they are a distraction for everyone. Just imagine a big fight or bad breakup and other coworkers taking sides and you being miserable because you have to see her, etc, etc.
This is why so many companies have policies against workplace romances.
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I second everything @PrettyPriya said and I add to be careful about "dating where you eat". If something bad happens or this coworker and you actually get together and then break up there could be serious conseguences for you.
Here in Europe we are a bit more liberal about this kind of thing, but speaking from personal experience I did the mistake of dating the person that was technically my superior, and it didn't end well.
There is definitely some level of interest there, but not sure if it's romantic interest or platonic.
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