So last night I met up with boyfriend, we were supposed to spend the night & Saturday morning / evening together.
Unfortunately my brother (paramedic) got called into work & he was supposed to help our father with an appointment on Saturday morning. Dad is disabled so us kids take turns on who goes with him to appointments as we're both in the medical profession.
I told my boyfriend this & apologized a number of times for the short notice. I told him you know I'd have to not stay the night but we can continue on with the rest of the plan for Saturday.
Anyway come the morning he's left where he was (he comes from another city, was at a hotel). He didn't even bother telling me he was leaving or saying goodbye. I only learnt about it by asking what was he doing & a text back of "driving".
He said he was annoyed & had woken up at 4am with "nothing to do", etc. Honestly, in all the back & forth, it seems all he cares for is the sex (why else leave)
Yes I get it but honestly it was a minor situation on my side. It's not like I waited until he was asleep after having sex & walked out on him... he knew why I left and had been okay with it that evening (he'd agreed to Saturday).
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I won't be involved with him much beyond this. I am not someone who takes kindly to emotional manipulation / abuse which, in many ways, his antics are.
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Sounds like you both erred but he definitely did not handle the change to the situation well. He seems a little immature. And yeah, it seems like it is all about the sex.
See I admitted that I was in the wrong but he didn't care to admit his wrong until I basically said what do you think I am, some sort of a prostitute you can use for sex & leave. As he put it I "made him feel bad" in the back forth so he didn't necessarily care about my feelings / me anyway.
There you go. I think you diagnosed this one exactly right.
I do. At least I know he's far too manipulative to be a good partner. As I look at it, as least it happened now and not let's say 2 years later when potentially married & with a kid.
I mean I called him out on the subject of leaving later tonight. I wrote:
You said you respect me helping my parents last night so what was I supposed to do, abandon my father who can barely walk 50 steps nowadays and has dementia.
His response was I didn't tell you not to care for them.
Well if that was the case WHY did he react as he did. WHY did he say he got annoyed with not having me there.
The whole situation ties into me having to leave for a few hours. When we'd arranged to spend essentially 24 hrs together that Saturday.
And he didn't say was breaking up or anything. It all ties with me going to help dad which he says he supposedly has no issue with.
Wow. Like you say, "better now than like 2 years from no." Good luck with him and everything !
You answered it within your subtext. "all he cares for is the sex."
Yeah, unfortunate. But logically if he was interested in more than just sex he'd have stayed for Saturday and not run away like a child told no dessert