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I’ve noticed tyst if you aren’t saying you just want sex or you want to be in a relationship, there’s a lot of sleig View like it’s a game or something. in my opinion if you say you want to get to know someone— it’s the most honest way of communicating.

Unless you really are just looking for sex, how does anyone know if they want to date a person let alone be in a relationship with them if they do 🤷🏻‍♀️ if you still feel the need to get better acquainted I don’t see the problem.

It is funny how propaganda works bc I know when people say this to me I can still hear it as a euphemism for sex BUT only bc people will use it that way & not bc I think there’s anything inherently wrong with _really_ just wanting to get to know someone.

I’m never on the hunt for a boyfriend so if I meet someone I want to get to know better that’s all I know I can honestly say. And I think that should be good.

people don’t take it well it’s as if I’m letting them down easy or being deceptive.

Seriously what more can you ask of a person lol “ I’m interested in getting to know you better.” I think this is much better than jumping into boxes just bc for no particular reason..

Of course if someone knows they want to date then go for it— It’s just not my approach and I find it funny wanting to get to know someone is Suspect 😂

A long time ago when I used dating sites, I would receive introductory messages by men who would say something like, "I love your photo, tell me more about you," or just plain old, "Hi."

At first I chose not to reply to any of the men I had no interest in. But I would get many of them pestering me with, "I sent you a message. The least you can do is thank me for it instead of leaving me hanging."

So I considered this, and decided to give all men from that point the courtesy of a reply. My reply was, "Thank you for your message, but I don't believe we are compatible. Good luck with your search." Sometimes it was merely a "I received your message. Good luck with your search."

But then I was sent angry responses back such as, "What's your problem? / You don't even know me. / Yeah. No wonder you're single."

As you can tell, I was damned if I did, damned if I didn't.

Even though I'm out of the dating pool, this has often left me wondering how GaG members handled first-approach dating app messages? Do you believe you should send all who are interested a response of some sort? Or do you think you simply don't owe everyone a reply? What do you say or not say?