I (24) met a girl (22) through a college summer volunteering program and over the course of several months we connected a fair bit through making fun of mutual friends to going to seminars and lectures together. Everyone told me we got on really well and I hadn't felt this sense of relaxation and ease around a girl I liked in a very long time. She was quiet, intellectual, and easy going which really complimented my more talkative goofy personality. She was awkward at first but I felt like I got her out of her shell, and by the end I saw her opinionated sassy side that teased me a bit. Since it was sort of an uptight professional setting however, I reserved my feelings and never flirted or asked her out as I feared that if things went bad then it would make things awkward since I was seeing her almost every day.
I learned at the end of summer that she was moving across the country for her masters and instantly regretted not ever asking her out. Before she left she gave me her number out of nowhere and we added each other on instagram. I told her I'd miss her and she reassured me that it was only two years, and that she'd try to visit during Christmas break. If she does then im thinking about asking her out then.
She's been gone two weeks now and I'm really nervous about how to approach this as I've never been in this situation before. I never explicitly made my feelings known but I want to keep in touch with her without being invasive as she's probably busy adjusting to her new place. Long distance sucks, but I truly think she is worth pursuing. Should I go ahead with it?
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If you don't go for it, you will always look back with regrets. . . and that sucks!
Okay- two years is not too bad but she might like the place where the school is and end up staying there. On the other hand if you really felt strongly about this you should not wait until Christmas to contact her. Do it tomorrow. Don't be creepy about it, just ask her about grad school and talk about what you have been doing. Maybe after Thanksgiving you might ask if she will be around at Christmas and if she says yse ytou should ask her out.
Yes. it’s worth it. But only propose her if u want to marry her and since u both are earning adults , getting jobs in the same place and moving in together is essential.