Why do men blame women for all their dating woes?

[coachTanthony]

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What if aliens invade our planet and they’re really hot? Would you bump uglies with them? ↗

[Chazmatazz269]

I feel like this is pretty new. Men have long accepted that women are always right and men are always wrong. It’s a common trope in movies, TV shows, plays, literature, poems and songs. Men are constantly apologizing, often when they’re pretty sure they’ve done nothing wrong! Ell oh ell! Walk into any bookstore and browse the relationship self help section. Everything you can find will be how to fix men, accept men, or leave men you can’t fix or accept. Ell oh ell!
I think younger modern men are finally standing up to this nonsense and pointing out all the toxic sh*t that women do, that they’ve always done, but us older dudes just put up with it. I’m in favor of it. I’m not certain it’s working the way it was intended. Lowest marriage and birth rates in the US, possibly in a century. At least they’re standing their ground! Ell oh ell!

[mobiusforniner]

Because they’re not men. Real men have the ability to self reflect, take accountability and grow. Not be a whiny bitch who points fingers at everything and everyone.

[tomboy2003]

Some men feel entitled to women's attention, affection, or companionship, leading to feelings of resentment or anger when their romantic advances are not reciprocated. This sense of entitlement can contribute to blaming women for perceived rejections or failures in dating. And also, they lack empathy and understanding towards women’s experiences and perspectives in dating. This leads to a lack of recognition of the challenges and pressures women face in the dating world, making it easier to blame them for perceived failures.

[mandyfire98]

Because it's easy for people sometimes to have a bad experience with one person and then accuse and generalize a whole group after. It also spreads like wildfire online. When all people see is media fueling mysoginy over and over again on social media it's easy to radicalize people.

[IslaTheWitch]

because they want everything simple and easy, and for women, dating, emotions, and sex aren't simple and easy. It's a process where time is involved.

also, many men don't see a need to have anything to offer. Just the fact they have a piece of meat between their legs seems enough for them...

[blueonblack22]

It’s never 100% on anything for most guys. No man ever 100% blames men or 100% takes accountability. Even if he acts like 24/7 incel a part of him feels shame/regret for his shortcomings. Even if he openly takes full responsibility he secretly likely harbors resentment towards women somewhere.

I will say this though. Nothing creates resentment when you have been stereotypes and prejudged for a behavior you are not guilty of. And radical feminism has done nothing but smear all men. They never say the woman is accountable or wrong for anything.

So a lot of guys get smeared and they predictably respond with misogyny. Then women respond back with more misandry. Vicious cycle. Not saying that’s right or productive. But radical feminism really is the original sin with all this and it’s gone mainstream.

[DrPepper12]

"look what you made me do" It's all the same with you people.

[blueonblack22]

@DrPepper12 no it’s not “okay” to do wrong since you have been done wrong. No. Men have to own to their crap and take responsibility for their lives. But I am making an observation on the vicious cycle that is going on here.

[DrPepper12]

But why is it YOU experiencing it and not OTHERS? Most guys can't relate to situations you describe. Lord knows I can't.

[blueonblack22]

@DrPepper12 were you raised to be chivalrous to women? How did your dad treat your mother? Was he a good guy? Just curious.

[DrPepper12]

My dad was a fucking child rapist and my mother had cerebral palsy!!! Anything that made me who I am I did it on my own. When you have no good choices and no power you learn to rely on yourself fuckin quick. Hope that helps your curiosity.

[blueonblack22]

@DrPepper12 nice to taking to you man.

[normalice]

My guess is they were raised in a household where their mother took all the blame for their father's neglect and maybe even rejection. So, they learned it's safe to blame women and they get more attention when women accept the blame.

Plus it's cheaper than going to see a therapist.

[PetLover24]

Because blaming someone else for one's own flaws is easier than looking in the mirror.

Take at a place I once worked.

The manager had a bad attitude, unappealing to customers. Whenever I made even the slightest error that MIGHT impact customers coming to the place, he behaved as if I'd created the gravest of sins. It was toxic AND pathetic when one considers people were coming to the place BECAUSE OF ME and my friendly engaging personality.

[PetLover24]

His & another colleague's attitude was such even past customers living next door would not use the location unless they literally had no options.

[Phoenix98]

I don't, just because I or something may have a bad experience with one woman doesn't mean that all women are like that particular individual.

But lets be a 100% honest here both men and women do this to each other pretty frequently it's why you have movements like MGTOW and Radical Feminism.

[LaurenM1997]

Omg I’ve been in that situation I’ve been emotional abused in my last relationship I had to ask for his permission to call him and also he told me during an argument that speaking to him everyday isn’t healthy and I should go ask someone why 😞 he also cheated on me with three girls in the back of the bus told me a few hours prior he loved me and promise to be with me forever well then a few hours later I was dumped 💔

[DrPepper12]

Sorry that happened to you.

[LaurenM1997]

@DrPepper12 it’s ok but I am worried about going into a relationship

[Ms_Facesitter]

Blaming is easier than looking at your own flaws.

[Still-alive]

bingo. lack of introspection skills

[DishLady]

Same reason we blame them for ours...

As the protagonist of our own narratives, the person causing us to feel sad/etc. is by default the antagonist...

[LazerBean]

People who blame the opposite gender for their problems do so because they are too entitled and immature to take responsibility for their poor choices that lead to their poor outcomes.

[DrPepper12]

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[katiesmuff]

It's much easier than realizing the problem is themselves!

[DrPepper12]

Because their whiny little children who can't reflect or even admit that they might be the problem. Women also have more resources and can chose to be more selective today. Up your game gents!

[CriticalCatDad123]

Because women don’t know how to take responsibility for their own actions and instead have to be right about everything and that’s somehow not going to get on a man’s nerves?

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's always easier to blame the opposite sex for everything that goes wrong on a date... Women do it too!

[Anonymous]

It's easy to blame the ones they feel they can abuse

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women blame everything on men. There are a lot of shitty people of both sexes who are dishonest and don't take accountability for their own actions and choices.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

I'd assume its because they got cheated on. You can %100 self reflect on every failed relationship, but at the end of the day you could do everything right and still be wrong.

[DrPepper12]

Not forever. Try again.

[slatyb]

The ones who don't blame others get help and solve their problem.

[Wiredone]

It seems like it's easier to blame others for things than to admit it is you that is the problem

[LiamJHayden]

For those who blame the other, it's easier than accepting that one has to change or improve. That goes for women as well.

[Anonymous]

Because they can't get physically get a hold of the powers that be (CEO's of these dating apps, politicians, celebrities pushing their personal agenda) that have force fed the general public a nonstop diet of divisive propaganda to keep themselves insulated and their wealth secure. It's worked greater than even they could've hoped.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It cost nothing to blame others for personal short comings and failures than to honestly evaluate one's self and look to improve as a person.

[dolemite58]

The only thing you can do as a guy is work on the superficial things in yourself that women are attracted to cuz in the end that’s really what it comes down to.

[Anonymous]

Because it's easier to blame someone else than yourself.

Having said that, today's women ARE to blame for a lot of the problems in dating and sex relations today.

[worldscolide]

I don't. I blame women for their choices and attitudes though.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women blame men for all their dating woes

[msc545]

Men rarely reject women, but women often reject men. Women have unreasonable dating standards (height, wealth, penis size), while men are usually more accepting (to a point). Women cheat more often than men.

[tomboy2003]

It’s actually the opposite. Men cheat more often than women. Also, women being selective is a totally natural thing. Women risk everything during sex and in relationships, men have nothing to lose.

[CriticalCatDad123]

If men cheat more often than women why have I been cheated on in all of my relationships until I gave up entirely on love?

Oh, sorry, forgot that it’s my fault because I chose them! It’s never the woman’s fault it’s always the men’s. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Women just have to grow the fuck up

[msc545]

Men get caught at cheating more often. Women actually do it more often.

[tomboy2003]

@CriticalCatDad123 your individual experiences do not define the truth

[tomboy2003]

According to the Institute for Family Studies, “men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey.”

[tomboy2003]

The statistics show us that men cheat more than women in relationships, not necessarily that they cheat more today than they have in the past. Placing focus on the research showing that men statistically cheat somewhere between 20% of the time, when women cheat about 13% of the time is likely the best way to consider men cheating more often than women.

[msc545]

It's actually very defective research design. The underlying assumption is that self-reporting by both men and women is true and reflects the actual state of things. There is no evidence that that is the case and in fact the statistics that you cited simply suggest that one gender is less likely than the other to admit to cheating. In this case that would be women. There is absolutely no way in a no-fault divorce system to even estimate the ratio of cheating between men and women. In a fault divorce system in an at fault divorce system, some estimates can be derived but they too are going to be defective. In that women are much more likely to alleged cheating on the part of men and falsely. So, in many instances, simply because that is more likely to result in a larger financial payoff for them. Your reliance on the statistics you cited is grossly misplaced and suggests that you probably need more education in both statistics and research design.

[DrPepper12]

STOP MAKING EXCUSES!! Fix the problem in the mirror!!

[msc545]

There is no problem in the mirror. Blaming men for the unreasonable way they are treated by women is not helpful.

[tzdc21]

Funny. You can ask the same thing the other way around.

[CriticalCatDad]

Why do women blame men for all of their dating woes?

[Vegasrunner]

I guess by definition woman would be the blame for a man's relationship woes

[Quigly]

Of course they blame women, they are not dating other men.

[jack1924]

Not all of them. Weak, childish non men do that

[Staximus]

Because they can't accept responsibility

[RedInnocent69]

Because they’re insecure babies.

[clampfan101]

I blame myself for almost everything. 😕

[Jmmmfi4]

BECAUSE IT'S THEIR FAULT