Should I date a guy if I am not his physical type?

[Anonymous]

I used to have a crush on a guy who seemed to be attracted to me too. After finding out that I was interested in him he approached me to ask me out on a date. He seems like a genuinely nice guy but after having watched him irl and on Instagram for years it is safe to assume that he prefers tall skinny blondes over anything else (I am short, not skinny and woc). I know that he has low self esteem and lacks dating experience so I feel like a consolation prize because skinny blondes are harder to obtain. What should I do? I don’t want to be in a competition with superior women for the rest of my life and be afraid of him cheating on me

[Anonymous]

'I feel like a consolation prize because skinny blondes are harder to obtain.'

'I don’t want to be in a competition with superior women for the rest of my life and be afraid of him cheating on me '

Above sounds like low self esteem don't you think? When you know your value, you will know that it goes far beyond those things. Thus I would say that we attract similar traits in others. i. e low self esteem. Therefore perhaps this is a sign something should be worked on before dating.

[Asker]

Sorry but if you’ve always been overlooked and live in a country where everyone worships blondes you would feel the same

[Opinion Owner]

I do live in a country such a country. But I've always chosen to look to my own value. But later I also started to understand how God saw us as well.

[DevikaButts95]

Lots of whack takes from gaggers on this. You don't even know if you are his type or not, you just saw some girls he followed on instagram? He could have multiple types! He asked you out, he wants to be with you. Unless you have reasons to think he's specifically not into you, you should date him.

[sheikalana]

Nope. You should never date someone you're not truly attracted to or just because you don't have any other options. Things may last for a while but the chances of it turning into a permanent relationship are low. I wouldn't put myself in such situation.

[Little_Bumblebee]

That's up to you.

I for sure wouldn't. I wouldn't want to date someone who's into the opposite of what I am. Would make me feel like he's just getting what he can. A consolation prize or whatever.

I'm not going to date someone who would wish I was someone else or isn't into me.

[Asker]

For some reason he is into me though despite me being the opposite of his usual type which is why I am confused

[xoular_dragon]

Don't date him. Like you said, you know what he's into, and you aren't that. You shouldn't feel like a consolation prize for anyone! You said it best yourself about the feelings of the situation. Don't go with someone who doesn't like your true self. Not dating him will save a lot of hurt on your end.

[Asker]

Then why did he keep checking me out repeatedly from the very beginning?

[Asker]

Pretty much every guy I ever talked to claimed I was their type but only followed blue eyed blondes on Instagram. I’m no ones type apparently

[BrightBubblyKat]

Yes absolutely. Mature people fall in love with people, not types.