My boyfriend prefers a different race?

[Anonymous]

Basically, for all of my exes except one, I've always been the "exception" black girl. Meaning most of my ex boyfriends either usually aren't attracted to black girls besides me or have never dated one. My current boyfriend is Hispanic, however he prefers Asian women. I'm no one to judge someone on a preference, however he's really open about this. Like he'll just joke with me about how much he likes Asian women and it annoys the hell out of me. As a gorgeous self loving black girl I'm no where near insecure, however his comments really irk me sometimes. Like it's not like he'll just point out an Asian girl and talk about how beautiful she is, but still it really annoys me. Do I have a right to be annoyed by this? And if so, should I tell him to just stop? He isn't exactly my physical "type" but I'd never dare openly compare him to someone else just because it's really rude in my opinion. He's a great guy and basically worships the ground I walk on so I wouldn't want to break up with him

[aurorable18]

i am Asian, been told i'm pretty attractive but i have low self esteem and bipolar. my boyfriend is mixed half white and half black. he says he's never really been attracted to Asian women because he used to think they were dirty and etc.. used to be discriminative. i've only been dating him for 5 months and the more i get to know him the more i realize he's attracted to white women.. it's irritating to me. he accuses me of cheating on him all the time... but when there's an attractive white woman around he accuses me of me being jealous of her even when i haven't noticed her. whatever, love is fake as fuck. the only time men like a woman is when they get to have sex with them... it's all on "attraction" then guys are like "oh i like women with natural beauty" but they fuck with women that have how many other children with multiple people. uaggggghh

[melissa3]

I think it should be talked about otherwise you'll bottle it up and one day it will explode which won't be cool. I'd maybe say to him that when he says things like that it sometimes makes you feel unappreciated and makes you feel less as his girlfriend than just some girl he's seeing until he finds a beautiful Asian girl.

To me it sounds like he likes the ego boost, he likes messing with you in a playful way but it hurts and he should know that it does.

[Anonymous]

Jfc. I'm in the same situation.
Boyfriend is Hispanic but is in love with Asian women. We've talked about it and I just told him to stfu about it because I NEVER say anything other men around him. So far he's been quiet but I'm not as confident as you so this whole as actually trashed my self esteem even more.

[Asker]

I'm not sure if guys are just clueless, or what but I don't see how they can't like understand how that shit is just not okay. Honey seriously don't let that bring you down, you're worth much more

[Opinion Owner]

Definitely makes me question how attracted he is to me. Sometimes I just feel like letting him go so he can finally get his Asian dream girl.

I think a lot men just don't get it because they can't put themselves in a woman's shoes for some reason.

[Asker]

Exactlyyy! I'm just like if you like Asian girls so much why even be with me?

[Watermelonoma]

ehhh... so he worships the ground you walk on, yet you still get irked at the fact that he doesn't think you're the only attractive woman alive? Seriously, some women really need to get over this idea that their boyfriends are supposed to find you as the most/only attractive woman alive. By the sound of it, it seems like he doesn't even do this very often. It's something occasional that he jokes about. Develop a skin of steel and iron

[Asker]

Lol you need to calm down. In NO way to I expect him to only have eyes for me and to not think other women are attractive, however when it comes to you being with someone and them basically saying they only really find one kind of girl attractive, it does make you feel somewhat insecure.

[Watermelonoma]

"Like he'll just joke with me about how much he likes Asian women"

He's joking

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"Like it's not like he'll just point out an Asian girl and talk about how beautiful she is"

He doesn't do it often

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Non issue in my opinion

[Xelebrum]

Be straight up with him and tell him that his behavior irritates you.

People shouldn't do that crap to someone they love, like what the hell?

[jennifer_bloom]

Unless there is a language barrier or family pressure, most guys respond to IQ and BMI and don’t care about race.

[kangy]

I find such people odd
If he prefer other race then he shldnt be with you.
I wld feel hurt and offended.

And for whoever think that Asian women havepre pubescent boys for your info not all are. Even if you claim most it also means you are ignorant. (Not referring to you asker )

[menina]

If he prefers Asian women then why he's dating you? It makes no sense to me.
I think you should tell him that you don't like his comments. Have a serious and honest conversation with him about this.
I wouldn't stand this situation.

[Asker]

I mean, sometimes the person you end up with doesn't fit your "preference" so I understand that point.

[menina]

I don't understand this, I really don't.
Please, don't get me wrong but I think that ending up with someone who doesn't fit your preferences must be frustrating.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm guessing he's just messing with you. I do the same to my girl, knocks her off her high horse 🐴 when she gets an inflated ego. Funny enough my girl is Asian... so I'm basically telling her about my love of juicy black booty. 😂

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Why is he dating you? Why is he pointing out other women when he should be happy to be with you? Sounds like ur a placeholder gf,... someone he dates until he can find the woman he REALLY wants.

[Asker]

Lol I'm not even going to lie, that's exactly how it makes me feel. Like ever since the first day we met he's always been super interested in me and attracted to me. But when he says shit like that I feel otherwise

[Crazyced]

From what she said though, he doesn't point out other women.

[milkuuu]

yea I'm white and my boyfriend is black but he has a preference for Asian girls and it makes me really upset. Like i know he likes me but I'm sad that I feel like I'm not what he really likes. And i hate when he talks ab it too bc like im not Asian why are u telling me this😭

[SavageTruth]

i had an ex point out to me that most Asian women have the body type of pre pubescent boys. that kinda set me straight.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I'd feel uncomfortable. Keep it to yourself, if you happen to like someone of a different type of some sort. If that happened to me, I'd dump them.