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Say there's a guy you really find really attractive. He is neutral to you at first, but you drop a lot of really strong hints for him to get to know you better and take you out on a date. The guy is open-minded and figures "sure, why not?" and agrees to go out on a date with you. However, the afternoon before the date, he texts you and tells you that he always goes Dutch, meaning he only ever pays for his meals and you'll only ever pay for yours. He will NOT be paying for anything on your date, now or ever.

DOES THIS CHANGE YOUR VIEW OF HIM; SPECIFICALLY IN A NEGATIVE WAY?

Keep in mind, this does not involve the "we'll each take turns paying" scenario, since in this case, you persuaded him to ask you out on a date, even if he is still technically The Asker. This also does not involve the "only if the man insists on paying" scenario. If you are fine with paying yourself and the man insists anyway, then you're still option B.

I'm talking about any woman who has the expectation that the man must pay for you on your date and if you're forced to spend your own money, then you will feel slighted or negative towards him, including refusing him sex down the line, or even ghosting him.

Inspired by this question here and countless other similar ones on GAG.

1) Able to be yourself? Do you feel like you have to put on a front with your SO? Also, how nervous are you when your guard drops? Lots of abused women report having to be “on guard” 24/7 in what they say, or act or even wear. Are you always exhausted with your SO? That may be a sign.
2) Do you laugh? Like most conversations, are you laughing with each other? You don’t have to be a comedian. We laugh and have fun talking about reality shows are whatever. But unhealthy SO’s don’t laugh as much. And unhealthy mates HATE laughing at themselves.
3) Do you fight? It’s ok to. I see it more as venting, as well as fixing the relationship. But how bad the fights get is key too. Also, how fast can you makeup?
4) Do they trust you? Are they going through your phone? Always scrolling through social media, sensitive to minor flirtations from others? Do they try to control your schedule? That’s them being insecure about themselves. And is abusive.