18 and I’ve never gotten any male attention or even been flirted with?

[Anonymous]

I just turned 18 around a month ago and I’ve never been asked out, flirted with, complimented, or paid attention to by a guy. I consider myself to be pretty and I’ve been told the same by others (straight out of the blue, not even prompted), so it’s not like I’m physically unattractive. I dress well, have a lot of hobbies, goals, and a good personality. I’m not shy or anything either, I’m a really outgoing person. I’m super friendly and have a good social life but I can’t even seem to make friends with guys for the life of me, some will even blatantly ignore my attempts to make normal conversation. I’ve never had guy friends much less a boyfriend and I just feel so unlikable. I’m a pretty confident person but I can’t seem to understand why guys absolutely hate me. Not to mention when my friends are talking to guys or being approached they’ll always make a point of completely ignoring me even if I’m standing right next to my friend and trying to join in. I know I sound desperate but all my other friends have already had their first kiss or have boyfriends and it’s embarrassing that no one has ever been remotely interested in me. What’s wrong with me and what can I do to get noticed? I really don’t even care if it’s negative attention at this point…

[MrOracle]

If I could spend 30 minutes in a room watching you interact with people, I could probably tell you exactly what the problem is (hell, it might not take anywhere close to 30 minutes), but since I can't, your best bet is to ask your close girlfriends - hopefully not ones who are shallow, petty, or jealous, because they'll just lie to you. You need girls who can tell you the brutal truth. Even better, get THEM to ask GUYS why they don't hit on you, or how they perceive you.

I have no idea what you look like, but the way you describe yourself seems genuine, so it's very unlikely that it's your physical beauty (or lack thereof) that's the problem. It's far more likely that it's a vibe/body language issue, or something like resting bitch face (RBF).

Some girls THINK they are happy and funny, but that's not the vibe or look they actually project to other people, and that's a HUGE deal when it comes to meeting people. You say that you aren't shy, which is good, because shy people tend to give out the same exact body language that a person who is totally uninterested gives out. But you could still be putting out "leave me alone" vibes without realizing it, and when guys get those vibes, most guys stay away, especially in group settings.

The good news is that these are things that can be fixed. It may take a little work - even practicing in front of a mirror - or more of an effort to be outgoing - but you can definitely overcome it.

But maybe it's something else, and the only way to know for sure is to ask people who will tell you the truth. I suppose you could also have someone take video of you in that kind of situation, and then you might figure it out yourself, but getting other people's impressions is probably more useful.

[Moondog95]

Could be a few reasons. You could have a resting bitch face and not even know it. Most guys will avoid a conversation if they feel like they’re going to get rejected or be treated rude - which sucks because I’ve met a lot of girls who have a RBF but are wicked nice.
you could be overweight (not trying to insult you) I just mean that looks are a big factor in whether someone will want to get to know you during a random encounter. If this is the case you could try to exercise or just wait, the older guys get the less shallow and more they are open to options.
or you could have an annoying, loud or off putting personality and just don’t know it (again not trying to be rude, just genuinely expressing this). I’ve met girls that are very attractive but then they open their mouth and I’m immediately turned off. Sometimes they think they’re being charismatic or “bubbly” when they actually are just extremely frustrating and don’t know how to include someone else in a conversation because they don’t stop talking.

[DarkWinterNights]

Its possible you’re either meeting the wrong guys or you’re giving the wrong vibes- maybe both. You also could be putting yourself in positions that make you unapproachable. I’ve met attractive women that never gave a hint of interest so I wrote them off automatically.

[Anonymous]

You aren't paying attention.

I would bet both of my kidneys that you get checked out daily by guys, maybe older guys but still, the chances that you are getting no attention is literally zero.

As for why your peers aren't hitting on you, it is probably because you are a well adjusted and high value female who they dont think wants to fuck them like they have seen in the porn films they jerk off to constantly.

[Asker]

I genuinely can’t think of a time I’ve been checked out by anyone or strangers, peers, etc aside from one time when an old drunk man tried to grab me on the street. But who knows, so I’ll keep that in mind.

[Opinion Owner]

Well lets put this idea to rest shall we?

I would love to date you, would you like to go out with me some time?

There, now you can't say that no one is interested ;)

All you need to do now is improve on some random offer from a man twice your age who lives on the other side of the world.

[Asker]

Unrelated but I just had like a huge revelation that if I don’t try to talk to different guys then obviously I’m not gonna make connections and that no one is gonna just randomly see me and plan to marry me on spot or something so engaging in conversations and showing interest often instead of just giving up is important. Sorry for the unrelated rant but I just thought about that and it like really lightened whatever weight I felt about being unlikable and whatever. Wishing you all the best things, thank you so much!

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly, there you go, problem solved.

I might not have a date but I can chalk another one into the win column.

[VikingWarLord]

Could be multiple things
1. You're not as hot as you think (I'd have to see a pic to know, send me a DM and I'll be BRUTALLY fuuckin honest)
2. You're around young naive dudes who are too shy or afraid to approach
3. You're being Gangstalked

[Gingerguy33]

Flirting is like riding a bike the more you do it the better you get at it and when you get good at it’s fun and if you don’t know how to do it just look it up on Google and get the basics down but for the most part I wouldn’t worry about guys not hitting on you.. you are very young and have lots of time left to figure everything out

[one1wild00]

From your description you sound high strung, I don't have a visual but if you are beautiful and have a commanding presence they may thing your unapproachable, already have a boyfriend, or more suitors than you can handle. You may have to advance to the 21st century and ask what guy you like out.

[NathanDavis]

get a chicken... and learn some 80's moves...

you will definitely get attention...

[Anonymous]

It's not surprising when 99.9 percent of girls don't want us to approach, and when we do.. they brutally reject and insult us... So we tend to jus avoid all and any girl now to avoid feeling like shit... Who likes feeling like shit?
It's jus a rare thing that you're that 00.1% of girls who actually wants to be approached.. but no guys will ever be able to tell or know that unless they became magicians, so enjoy the fruits of what your gender has caused for you

[Opinion Owner]

Even girls who looked pretty and sort of lead me on before making me thinks she's a nice and friendly person... I tried to flirt... And guess what.. even she brutally rejected me.. so I literally give up on all girls

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If you want guys to flirt with you start flirting with them.

[Asker]

I’ved tried and they mostly ignore me. Honestly, considering I’ve been shut down every time I’ve tried to make normal conversation, I’m not even sure I know how flirt.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Communication is the key & you give it time & believe me guys are going to be communicating with you. On the flip side like a lot of things in life never give up, never give in & most of all keep moving forward no matter what. If one guy shuts you down try another & instead of trying normal conversations try abnormal conversations. Talk about ghost hunting, paranormal, UFO’s or anything unusual like that. I always say different is better.

[Asker]

Thank you, I really like this advice and I’ll definitely keep it in mind!!

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Above in your post you said you are a pretty confident person so use that confidence to your advantage. In addition don’t compare your friends to you because you are your own person & when it comes to being in the captain’s chair you are in command so live your own life. As for your first kiss will come & love will kick you in the ass when you least expect it. As for being single don’t be afraid to be single & if a lot of your friends are in relationships good for them. As for you find the right person rather than the wrong person & who knows maybe the right person rather than the wrong person will find you.

[Waldoe]

it is possible that you're intimidating to most guys, only a Strong, self-assured Guy would feel comfortable approaching you... you can learn how to "fake" being demure... it's worth a try

[altdbob]

Off the top of my head, it sounds like you may have a personality issue. Maybe people think you are an ass. I don't know you so it is a really hard question to answer.

[Iron_Man]

You’re just a baby still don’t worry your day will come

[Zygum]

May be you are not beautiful or sexy, you show your boobs in public

[Kaneki05]

You will soon enough I bet.

[Anonymous]

i dunno you sound nice i guess i would have to see u to tell more

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys are pretty slow at making a move.

[Asker]

I’d get that if any guy had even gotten close to making a move on me but I never even made it anywhere near the talking stage.

[OddBeMe]

I bet you have and just didn’t notice.

[In_Trance]

You need to try different guys