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We met at a friend's birthday party. Hit it off, exchanged numbers.

We've not done anything sexual yet since meeting for 2 coffees but his texts are quite sexual & to be blunt I've a feeling he's using me to get off. He is often communicating during the week but come the weekend is more or less dead silent. He wants to meet during the week when he has some time off & my work is closed for renovations for a month - we're being paid.

Quite bluntly as he doesn't seem to pay much attention to what I said - like he praised something I showed him via a link. And a colleague - our mutual friend - was tearing the same link apart. That's not the first time I highly doubt he even looks into what I share.

To be honest I haven't fallen for much of what he says about love, etc. particularly when half of his actions contradict what he says.

Backstory: We’re acquaintances (friends of a friend.), we met at a party in the beginning of the year. He’d been trying to ask me out I had a lot of things happening all at once. Career change and moving figuring out if I’d continue to live in the area or find something back in my hometown. I stayed in the area, he helped me move my mattress. Then we’d been texting pretty much everyday and he’d FaceTime me twice just talking nothing crazy. I had car trouble, that he fixed. I couldn’t pay him he knows I cook so he asked me if that could be his payment. I said yeah. We were hanging out eating, smoked some weed and we both had stuff to get back to.

Current: I found free roller skating at a park and asked if he wanted to go. He said yes and it became a date. We ended up hooking up. We had some technical difficulties and planned for next weekend.

That next weekend, He asked if I still wanted to go to the movies with him, I said yes. Dressed a little fancy and we came back to my place to eat. We watched another movie he really wanted to see b/c he hadn’t seen it. Movie finished at 3am, I asked if he was going home he said he was really tired. I said he can sleep here if he wants he said yeah. Surprise he wasn’t that tired. We tried with the sex again. He thought he was hurting me I assured him he wasn’t. I don’t think he believed me and we just laid there talking for like a half hour and fell asleep. He also left his earring. I didn’t say anything about it though. After we were texting for four days. The responses weren’t dry or sparse everything normal. Then he suddenly stopped.

Should I text him just a simple “Hey, you good?” Or just keep being radio silent? I can at least think of five reasons: He’s not interested. He’s an introvert a social battery thing. Focused on finding a new apartment that I distracted him from twice. He actually wants a girlfriend (not sure why). Or it’s all those reasons. Should I just not say anything and leave him alone?

I said i only sleep with guys if I’ve been in a relationship with them for at least a year. He then went cold on me. Is this unreasonable on my behalf or his?