I recently had a guy friend tell me that he and many guys would sleep with me, but no one would marry/commit to me. I told him idgaf as I have never dated and also have never hooked up with anyone. My priority in life is not a relationship or sex and so I don't seek it. He told me my views are too liberal (because I said gay people have the right to live as they want) and that no guy would like that. I clarified on many occasions that I would NEVER sleep with him... its also a hypothetical situation because we both are not attracted to each other and also because we both are pretty orthodox when it comes to things like casual relationships. So keep in mine that he's telling me all this unprovoked.
I must admit, what he said hurt me because I have never been pursued romantically for a relationship. Many guys end up pretending to be my friend for YEARS only to try and ask for sex. This has made me crazy cautious as I don't believe in short term relationships or sex before marriage and sleeping with someone only for them to throw me away would really hurt me. I do want an authentic relationship where they like me for me and not as someone to increase their body count.
He then goes on to say that he's being mean to me because it reduces self esteem and I'll settle for way lower. He does this to many woman apparently and says it will always work. I was taken aback by what he said because it was so cruel. Why do some men do this? It's not like he's interested in me... so is he doing this as a favor to the men I meet in the future?
