Guys: why do you ignore women who are nice to you in social media?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy that acts all nice and friendly when we see each other in person but I notice that he always ignores me in social media! I’ve made it clear that I like him and I know that he likes me too. Anyway, A week ago it was his birthday and I baked a cake for him and commented Happy B-day to him on fb. He ignored my comment completely and responded to everyone else but me. Why would a guy do this? What’s the purpose of this behavior? Guys out there, please share some opinions! Thank you!

Ps. Please don’t give me an answer such as: “same reason why women treat nice men badly” cuz I’m not even mean to anyone! 🥺

[maihu]

Hey there, hope you're fine.
There are a few things that may be the reason for his behaviour :-
1. He does not like you, but you are assuming so wrongly, thus he is repelled by the lovey - dovey vibe you may be giving off when he isn't interested in you that way.
2. He has a girl already who'll be a little less happy if he acknowledges you. Maybe he hasn't told you because he doesn't want you to know.

Enough of reasons where you're wrong. Now let's look at where he might be wrong.

3. He's actually into you, just as you thought, but he's afraid of admitting it in public therefore, he's trying to distance himself from you online but is a normal guy offline.
4. He's probably heard from a self proclaimed playboy instructor that he has to ignore you in order to make you desire him more. I think it's fairly possible because nowadays we learn from the internet more, instead of thinking about things in our own heads for a considerable time.
5. He's just a nice guy but maybe you said or did something that offended him the last time you both texted, met up.

This exhausts my brains resources. I hope it does cover the actual reason. On a side note, why don't you say that to his face straight up? Anyways do tell us what happens if you get the time to revisit this question of yours.
Have a good day!

[chistonejr]

Okay so this could mean that the guy could be taking it a bit slow with you. He has the opportunity to interact with you in a way that doesn't involve multiple ways of telling him happy birthday. He knows that you know that it his birthday and you guys probably spoke about it in person already prior to any post that he made on the Facebook.

The idea is that he has the opportunity to say thank you in person for something you made him. Since you guys both like each other, his goal is to probably get closer to you in person. Also, try and realize that birthdays on Facebook could be overwhelming. I am sure he didn't get to every single person.

Stay in contact with him more in person. He wants you exclusively for his birthday perhaps. Explore that!

Hope this helps :-)

[FictionalCharacter]

You said he’s “nice and friendly” but his actions don’t back that up. If anything, you sound nice and friendly by your gestures.

[MzAsh]

Guys suck at social media. I’d place more value on your in person interactions.

[JimmyQ]

I can only guess cause I don't know the guy, but I think for some reason he fears someone else (another female) is gonna find out that he likes you.

Again, not sure, but I can't think of any other reason to explain his behavior.

PS Baked the dude a cake? You sound like a pretty awesome chick.

[Jjpayne]

I'm sorry to hear that... I'd move on from him, if a girl greets me a happy birthday I respond back. But to be clear I'm also not on my social media that often either. It sounds like he does not have the same feelings as you and is trying not to give off the wrong signals

[Shamalien]

it's a different reason entirely from the gender reversed version of this situation. This is a good way for a guy to avoid his feelings if he knows that they are powerful. A lot of guys will choose to ignore those they have strong feelings for because they are afraid. They don't want to be vulnerable.

[Artemis_Firebolt]

Is he in a relationship? He might have a girlfriend who would get annoyed at him if he said anything to you about it. It could also be that he's a little socially awkward didn't know how to respond in front of everyone on Facebook. I would say the first one is the most likely, especially if he does have a girlfriend.

[Insomnia72]

My guess is he's not used to getting compliments from women. Maybe his whole life he's been rejected, now he's getting your praise and this scares him. He doesn't know how to react.

Just guessing here.

[winterfox10]

He's trying to be polite in person, but he doesn't want to give you the idea that he wants closer social contact.

[Jltakk]

What a loaded, borderline fantastical question. Guys don't get female attention on social media. Maybe a couple, and they'll be excited that one woman gave enough of a shit about him.

And there are a ton of fake accounts anyway, so there's that can of worms, full of letdowns and time wasted

[Avicenna]

I'm surprised to hear this. Any woman who treats me nicely on social media gets the same in return, even if she's someone I'll never meet.

Maybe he lacks social skills.

[MannySimms]

Because most easy hotties on social media really look like this:

[October808]

That guy needs to get out and get a little... sun.

[BCA6010]

Has it ever occured to you that many people (especially guys) don't like broadcasting everything about their personal lives to the world?

[Somethingwittty]

Because he know you like him so he avoids you online. In person he won't just tell you to go away because he doesn't want to seem rude.

[Andrejoao]

Wow
You are just worried because he ignored your comment to make you upset!
Anyway couldn't able to find a nice woman online lol

[Taurus90]

Never be so kind... With every stupid... U are a good person u deserve much better

[Duddey]

The truth is you had some money on the side had more attention and loving from her and he just filled you in with the gap that happened before her and then have parked break up with you or just real big f****** loser

[Rocx79]

You going have to take the first step if you are interested and he has shown interest. Even though I use social media, I still see some interactions online as not a true reflection of a person feelings (alot gets lost in translation).

[kill_joy69]

He may have not had anything smart to say and just thought he'd reply later. He probably just forgot about him. I still don't know why everyone here still uses Facebook though

[soleil2666]

Women generally abuse social media - it's a really bad platform for anything true (and that female insistence on being present on it is annoying at best).

[DiscomfortZone]

1) We don't.
2) We learned from dozens of interactions with women.

Your inability or lack of will to handle the truth doesn't make it any less true.

[Barbarian8]

I never ignore any person who is nice to me. Always try my best to be nice with them, particularly women. I could ask you the question: why are you attracted to jerks?

[Asker]

Personally I’m not attracted to jerks, but most women are... I suppose most women assume they can change a man’s ways when it’s not like that. I had liked this guy because he has always been nice and polite to me in person, but has turned differently in social media.

[Barbarian8]

I would think of some options:
1- he is truly nice, and he likes you but tries to ignore you and tries to be mysterious. because if you watch on YouTube the tips they give for men, is to ignore woman as woman respect the one who ignore them.
2- he is just a jerk and you still don't know his true face.
I definitely know that most women want a bad boy and wish them to get them. But how on Earth you can change a jerk lol?

[epice345]

Never knew that, it's mostly the opposite to me really.

[genericname85]

a: they don't care enough for you or
b: they know they can do whatever and still get from you whatever it is they want from you.

[hellacray]

Nice to you in social media?

What does that even mean?

Sounds like you're addicted to social media maybe you should take a break.

[FunkyMonkee]

I never do! Most often, it's THEY that eventually ignore ME!

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe you just think he likes you too but actually he is just being polite and deep inside he wants you to stop

[MoscowMitch]

You say he likes you but that's not the vibe I'm getting. It sounds like he's not into you. You're not an obsessed stalker are you? Cos that's not attractive to guys.

[MannMitAntworten]

I ignore them in social media because I have zero social media.

[CTexpress]

Every guy is different and this guy sounds like he is very manipulative proceed with caution

[Creepazoid]

Because we dont want a nice girl... we want a bitch! Mwahaha😈😈

[Morparvin]

Your question is not correct and you are judging every men. i can not know why your friend behaved that way it needs more background information.

[ItsDave101010]

Maybe he isn't ready for other people to know about it yet, best things to use your words and ask him

[rievious]

I don't like to use a lot of social media. It's not fun for me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is tailoring his online presence. He’s nice to friends and family but doesn’t want to make it look like he has anything else going on

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

What a jerk. People like him to deserve a girl like you.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

*don't

[Anonymous]

maybe actually being truthful about not liking you is too hard for him.

[edwilliams580]

Maybe he has a "macho" image to uphold and he may feel embarrassed in front of his mates if he responds to you? 🤷‍♂️

[Mommy95]

He's a fake asshole you did nothing wrong

[Anonymous]

I don't have female friends on social media. My girlfriend doesn't allow it.

[PerfectionistMe]

🙈😂Sweet

[TomHossang]

Most of us don’t act like this we are normally nice on social media and in real life

[Beta_Wolf]

Did he like the cake?

[your_guy_23]

I never have not once

[crazy8000]

Why are you after people that behaves like that?

[Exorcist_Rampage]

No. I'm more attentive.

[MountainDewMan1]

90% of dudes won't ignore you.

[Fantastical]

Sorry, I didn’t know we do that.

[Nachowedgie]

I don't, you're obviously just talking to retards

[Justababy]

No I would not egnore her

[Nigjt]

I don't

[Fuentes]

Not interested bruh

[Gsm24diecast]

I don’t