I had a failed 6-week “talking stage” with this guy I met at a bar 3 months ago. He was amazing the day we met but then started to show his real colors. He got annoyed that I didn’t sent n*des to him when we sext, made excuses to see me. But got annoyed one time that I couldn’t see him last minute at the mall. He only wanted to Snapchat. I never got his number. He would tell me that other girls are hot and would show me screenshots of dms he sent them or dms he sent to his friends about them. He would stick up for some women, but would also say degrading things saying the girls he bought home are “starfishes” and would send me videos of Andrew Tate. And that it would be ok to give a girl a little push if she was annoying him. He also thought I was talking to other guys.
He blocked me on Snapchat because which he gave a lame excuse for when I asked why (he then unblocked and didn’t add me back) and I blocked him on everything. However, I still see him at this bar where he just looks at me and ignores me.
Last time I went to the bar, he was dancing with some girl and his friends. I did some social media lurking and I think she’s his new girlfriend. A girl who turned 18 earlier this year (we both 21.) She’s a hairdresser and he told me that he would never go for hairdressers because “they could earn more money than that.” His friends started following her which I couldn’t help but get jealous of because he wouldn’t dare to tell anyone he was talking to a girl. This same night I idiotically kissed another guy and hope he would get jealous but I don’t think he cared.
I have been losing sleep. I am going to the same bar with my friends in a few weeks and I don’t know how I’m gonna cope if they are together again. He told me he was sick of going out and wanted to settle down, so I hope if he’s with her he won’t go there anymore. Everyone including my therapist is confused because he wasn’t a nice person to me, but I can’t stop thinking about him.
