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Do you support living together before marriage? Why or why not?

I personally think it’s important to know what you’re getting yourself into before getting married. I know several couples that waited until they were married to move in together and divorced within a year because they couldn’t live together.

I’m also asking because my boyfriend of almost 4 years and I don’t currently live together but spend the night at each other’s 5x a week. I also don’t want to be the one to ask, but he’s buying a house this month and my rent is up in 8 months. I still have some time to figure out where I’m going to live, but I can’t help but imagine living together and how it would be. We discussed it almost a year ago and said we weren’t ready, but we’ve grown a lot as a couple and individually so I’m curious if he still feels that way. Is there a way I can be casual about asking or getting him to ask me? We talk about marriage sometimes but I don’t see that happening for another few years.

I know that there’s outside factors other than time that determine this, but I’m purely curious about the time frame.

For the poll, when did you move in with your significant other?

So I've had a friend for about 5 years. we've had our differences, usually we work it out.

My "friend" has been living a train wreck of a life that she's kinda forced on herself.
I usually set aside the fact that I feel like she's made a bad decision and try to help her through it.

But for starters, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend when I was 19, three months into our relationship. We've now been together for 4 years and we JUST got engaged this past weekend.
When I told this friend that I'd had sex (she'd never done it before either), she got a little "cold". All she said was is "I just don't understand why it couldn't wait for marriage." And essentially kinda made me feel bad for not waiting.
I ignored her for a few weeks, then she messaged me about HER boyfriend was cheating on her pretty blatantly. He'd go WEEKS without even sending her a TEXT. Nothing at all. And then randomly send her pictures of some half naked woman. Just to hurt said friend. So I felt bad for her, tried to talk to her, and I told her she needed out of that relationship. I tried to put it delicately, since she was "so in love." And she then SHE stopped talking to me.
Fast forward like 2 weeks and she tells me she had sex with him so he would cheat. (He didn't stop.) Well now 3 years later, I'm engaged, have a great job, just living my best life really.
3 years later for her is, she has had a baby with her cheater boyfriend. Not married or engaged, neither of them has a job, they don't even live together. Still with their parents.

When I told her I was engaged though she just couldn't be happy. Her exact words were "well me and John could be married by now, but there's just no point since we knows left we love each other".
So admittedly I snapped and replied "well that's so great that you changed your mind after you shamed me for having sex then turned around and had a baby with a guy you don't even live with."
She Left me on read and honestly I have nothing to say to her. AITA?